AIBU - mini eggs and mum

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My daughter is almost 7. I am not a fan of her having mini eggs due to the risk of choking (not precious about other chocolate or sweets - it’s just the risk of choking I’m worried about). I have told my mum this but despite that and reminding her, she seems to repeatedly give them to her. One week it’ll be a chocolate yogurt with mini eggs, the next week mini egg cakes (only one egg per cake so perhaps less of an issue?) or a small egg with mini eggs in. This week, they made Easter cakes with the smarties equivalent of mini eggs (still the same size and shape). AIBU to be irked by this or am I being too precious?

YABU - stop being so pernickety
YANBU - mini eggs are a hazard and in any event she should listen to your wishes

M&Ms and mini eggs are very different in size and shape? Smarties, cashew nuts, M&M’s, halved grapes, all eaten as and when necessary.

I am 100% with you on this, they are the dumbest thing to be produced. Perfect shape to block a childs airways. Not having them in our house either

Don't give her any more ideas!

Good grief, the poor child isn't going to be allowed to eat anything soon! 🤦🏼‍♂️ ALL FOOD can be a choking hazard, however, by age 7 your child should have been taught how to eat food correctly (i.e. to chew it and not attempt to swallow it whole!

Yes, your mother should absolutely listen to your requests concerning your child, BUT you are being totally unreasonable not allowing your child certain foods due to them being a "choking hazard"..... at age 7!! There are other reasons kids shouldn't eat certain foods but at that age, that isn't one of them.....

The packet says 4 and you’re not even talking about a 5 year old but a 7 year old?! You’re mollycoddling.

Is attempting to swallow them whole how you honestly imagine choking happens?

Completely get all of this, though I would say I’m sure very few who choke (adult or child) do so because they have chosen to try and swallow something whole. Surely it’s normally because it’s a mistake or momentary lapse in concentration.

Anyway, Easter is over for another year so I can draw a line for now. I’ll post again next year when everyone can tell me whether I’m unreasonable to give/not give an almost 8 year old mini eggs 😉

That’s crazy she does that. I would say to her if you keep giving them to her I won’t let her be in your care?

why can’t she just crush them up

If people choke regardless of whether they chew or not… then things like mini eggs and grapes are no more a risk than say.. a sandwich.
choking over the age of 50 is very common apparently, whether that’s because people start loosing teeth or not I don’t know

That’s not correct. Some foods like grapes, mini eggs etc are the perfect size and shape to get lodged and it’s incredibly hard to get any space/traction around to unwedge, let alone the body being able to do this ‘naturally’ via choking. Something like a sandwich bite will have a shape that is a) easier for the body to choke up as necessary, and b) easier for an emergency professional to try and fish out.

Having said that, and while ‘anyone with teeth’ can choke on these sorts of things, it’s not as though they are or should be banned. While I could theoretically choke on a mini-egg or grape, I want to be able to eat them. I also do many other things that I have seen as cause of deaths because I’d like to live life.

Of course health professionals don’t get passed on guidelines and advice from other departments they work with.I forgot HV don’t work with any other professionals like paeds and speech and language and GPs who also stop seeing kids once they reach 4, I absolutely stand corrected.

Talking to friends, yes some still do cut grapes for themselves as well as older children!

I don't think those eggs are much risk to a 7 year old. I would teach her how to eat them safely by biting them and not putting a full one in your mouth etc.

I do take issue with your mother though. You are your daughter's parent and if you do not want her to have those eggs then as her parent you have that right and she should respect your wishes.

If you're worried op, they make micro mini ones I am sure they're Smarties or M&S, somebody may know. Maybe something to keep in mind for next Easter if you're still anxious your dd may not manage to eat them correctly.