AIBU - mini eggs and mum

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My daughter is almost 7. I am not a fan of her having mini eggs due to the risk of choking (not precious about other chocolate or sweets - it’s just the risk of choking I’m worried about). I have told my mum this but despite that and reminding her, she seems to repeatedly give them to her. One week it’ll be a chocolate yogurt with mini eggs, the next week mini egg cakes (only one egg per cake so perhaps less of an issue?) or a small egg with mini eggs in. This week, they made Easter cakes with the smarties equivalent of mini eggs (still the same size and shape). AIBU to be irked by this or am I being too precious?

YABU - stop being so pernickety
YANBU - mini eggs are a hazard and in any event she should listen to your wishes

My friend's husband had teeth but managed to choke to death on a cherry in front of her.

There is a lot of difference between a 3 year old and a 7 year old (one would hope)
,You need to teach her to est them safely, not baby her like a toddler!

Anxious parents create anxious children. You’re not doing them any favours at all.

She is 7, not 2. Is this a joke???? Your fears are not healthy for your child and her development.

@Tryagain26 I can assure you anything you put in your mouth is a choking risk at any age. I speak as a 45 year old women who choked on a piece of tofu the other day (and DH had to perform the Heimlich Manoeuvre). Life is full of risks though and we assess them for ourselves and our kids every day. Obviously we can't negate all risks, but there are many we can. For Op this is one she can easily. With all the choices of chocolate on the market for Ops DM to choose, why is she continuing to choose this one (explicitly against ops wishes).

Choking is about the scariest thing. 4 minutes without breathing will cause permanent brain damage and death occurs between 4 to 6 minutes. If your airway is blocked and either you or the people around you can't unblock it you will be dead long before medical attention will reach you.

@Tryagain26

Totally agree with you. I posted about my friend who saved a 3 year old from choking on a mini egg. Obviously there is a lot of difference between a 3 and a 7 year old BUT it's a chocolate egg - hardly an essential nutritious snack for a child of any age. There are better (and cheaper) chocolate treat alternatives that are MUCH safer for them to eat.

It doesn't make you an anxious parent generally if you say no to mini eggs. You won't turn your DC into an anxious child because you say no to foods that have a higher than normal risk of them choking.

If you have never witnessed a child (or adult) choking then I guess you're the ones thinking the OP is being unreasonable. I will not be giving them to my DGS when he is 3 or 7 for that matter. But you do you.

Choking is terrifying so I do understand. Why doesn't your Mum listen to you. My kids make up dome thing I think are silly but I always stick to their rules. Could your mum not use other choclate eggs or cut them in half as it seems to be something you really fear. I saw a great machine for people who live on their own to clear blockages causing choking, I need one as I have almost chocked twice on steak!

Do you pay her for the childcare she provides? If you really aren't happy then you can say no - you aren't minding her again and ask someone else to do it.

Choking creates dead children. Very quickly. All parents react much the same way when they get the news, whether or not they were 'non-anxious' parents previously.

The child hasn't choked on a mini egg. She could choke on something at school just as easily. Anyone could. The OP is upset about a cupcake with one mini egg on it? She could choke on a slice of toast - or a nut. Or a crisp
Or an oatcake.

The only way to avoid a choking hazard 100 per cent is to puree food

And I really hope the OPs child doesn't know how worried she is over this - or she'll transfer her fears to her child

You can choke on anything, sure, there's always risk. But if you can remove some easy obvious risk, why wouldn't you? Mini eggs are not compulsary.

Well as I said before. The OP can tell her mum she no longer wants her to babysit. I know someone who had a daughter who choked to death on a piece of ham - it is really hard to eliminate every risk - that was my point

I also don't see why mini eggs are a particular risk

At 7 years old you’re no more likely to choke on a mini egg than anything else as their windpipes are bigger. It’s an irrational anxiety at that point.

The child could be eating Maltesers. Any other small kind of chocolate. If she isn't swallowing them whole what is the risk from choking?

That's factally inaccurate

She of course can do that, I'm sure she's well aware of that option. She wouldn't be unreasonable at all.

You seem to think that inability to remove every risk negates removing obvious ones.

Which part of it?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-67145463?app-referrer=deep-link

Very sad.

Is that right? Thanks for the unwanted psycho analysis. Where's the risk for a 7 year old eating a mini egg? Do you have a PhD in mini eggs?

Think that's a bit different - shoving as many in your mouth as you can - yes. Very sad

She’s not ever invoiced me so no, I haven’t. I wasn’t aware people normally paid their parents to spend time with their grandchildren.

My husband nearly choked to death on Maltesers. The first twenty he put in his mouth were fine but the 21st suddenly occluded his airway completely. I can’t remember how he managed, I found it so funny it can’t have been too serious. But we do still talk about the near death experience caused by a competition to see how may Maltesers he could fit in his mouth.

That wasn't my point. You can be as snide as you like about my comment but some people do pay their parents if they are providing childcare. You mentioned the word childcare and having other options for it - so that's why I made the post I did

Some people would give their parents a contribution for providing childcare if they could afford it

Here we go. The word childcare. Sorry that I dared ask if you were paying your mum for providing childcare for your child. Hope that clarifies why I posted what I did

You don’t see why mini eggs are a particular risk? Is that really true?!