To say SDs have to share a room?

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DP and I are buying a new, bigger house. It will have four bedrooms. One for us, one for DS6. We also have SD12 (twins) who are with us EOWE and half the holidays. Currently they share a room.

SDs mum moved and we moved to be closer about three years ago. Therefore my mum now lives too far to do day visits but stays here every month or two. DP’s family live abroad and stay a few times a year, and we have other friends and family to stay fairly often too (pretty location!).

As there are now two bedrooms unaccounted for, SDs want a bedroom each. I do not want this, because I want a spare room for guests, and because both SDs are absolutely disgusting in terms of hygiene.

YANBU: they don’t need a room each
YABU: they need a room each

Children that treat their room with distain, including damaging carpet with nail polish forfeit any rights to expand their filth and disrespect to additional rooms in the family home.

They can have their own rooms when they treat the one they have appropriately.

They have proven they are not capable of leaving a room in a fit state for guests - which would be required - that stay as frequently as they do, so it’s time for a teachable moment in terms of consequences.

The fact the OP is a step parent is not relevant. I’d say the same regardless.

Oh gosh. They can do. I couldn't walk in daughter's room without falling over used tampons and things hidden in drawers.

She's a bit better now she's a mum but ......

Your dd did the same as op’s sd ?

leaves /left used /bloody tampons on the floor