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AIBU to resent friend on UC living better than us?

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Sunshineandrainbows123 · 28/03/2026 16:54

I know I am being unreasonable but just need to rant and I’m aware that perception is different to reality. I’ve worked hard all my life, since I was 14, paid my way through uni to get a decent qualification and job at the end of it all. I bought a house with my partner but as with so many of us I feel like I can’t rub 2 pennies together. Meanwhile a close friend claims universal benefits, has minimum 4 holidays a year, 2-3 abroad, gets regular beauty treatments, a new car and is able to regularly take her children to the cinema, days out and buy them new clothes, trainers and toys. I feel like I took the wrong path sometimes - she doesn’t have to pay rent for the home they live in, or school lunches for her kids, there are so many discounts and opportunities afforded to those on UC that working families don’t get. I don’t know if it’s better to distance myself. I know I need to probably give my head a wobble.

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Ragingoverlife · 01/04/2026 14:29

Blueshoey484 · 01/04/2026 14:25

Sorry I meant over 25.

Yes its dire. How living costs dramatically reduce when youre under 25. Don't see any 'under 25 discounts anywhere ha! (For context im claiming on behalf of my very poorly son. Other benefits take months upon months to sort. After an advance payment deductions he gets £151 per fortnight. Now anyone realistically how can they live on that?

Blueshoey484 · 01/04/2026 15:05

If someone is on an income of 35k on benefits - a substantial amount of that will go on rent. Also - people only get the child element on UC because they live below the poverty line. Otherwise they would be living on something like 8k a year.

I personally wouldn't wish running a home on 424 pounds a month on anyone

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