What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

I'm 47. I'll let you know when it happens.

I’m still waiting for that moment…

I hope it happens soon. 💐

Hopefully not much longer 🙏

30 I just felt settled and content.

About 64. I am in fact 64. Feeling calm and sorted for the first time in my life.

35-40 was when it felt the absolute worst! I think my 40s will be better.

Every time I start to feel settled, life shows me I’m not!

52 and still waiting

I hope it is for you too 💐

I think in my early 40s, just like you. I suppose I'd accepted how things are (I created this as co-creator, how was I at fault, what repeated lessons I needed to finally learn, how do I show up for myself, what works and what doesn't, that sort of thing.) I am now 51 and like being an older woman with the experience to know how to handle things - and to realise that the next steps I am currently taking, I have no experience of per se, just my general experience, and we will see how I go at aging and living well from here. I will say that every day, food choices are an issue, but each new day is a clean slate and I get to try again.

Late 50s ….. still waiting…. I’ll ask DM if it it has happened yet for her. She is in her 80s.

Hmm probably about 36/37, we had children young, had to build up our careers while juggling children so had very hectic 20s (which I look back on very nostalgically!), bought the home we always wanted at about 32, then we both had a couple of good promotions to senior levels a few years later which while we still have career aspirations it feels less like trying to prove something now (after having kids young). We’re also financially stable now, but wouldn’t say no to more of course even bought my dream car last year.

It’s a weird feeling because we’ve been striving for this since coming of age really, and I’m trying to learn how to live in the moment and enjoy life without having goals in mind I’m striving for. Goals are now more experience based I guess, places we want to be go, things we want to do, the people we want to be maybe?

It should feel reassuring I suppose…but if I’m honest, it’s a bit unsettling and I do feel a bit “what now?!” Especially as we did everything so young! I think we’ll be due mid life crises ha.

Life is full of its twists and turns isn’t it 😢

When DS started school. I was 39.

Around 50 I thought everything was beginning to get sorted. There were still a couple of things that needed doing but I was working towards them. Then a couple of years later everything went to shit 😭😡🤷‍♀️

I’ve always been close to my parents and had a lot of help from in laws so I’ve pretty much always been fine and felt like everything was going to be okay. Some pretty bad stuff has happened especially from 17-19 but I’ve always had the overwhelming confidence that everything will be fine. I was very poor in childhood so as soon as I wasn’t living on a council estate I thought I was living the high life. As long as I have food, a roof, and we can afford the heating on I don’t care. I know it will be very hard when my mum and dad pass but I’m close to my in laws and close to my siblings, very close to 3/5. I have been very unlucky in some ways but overall I think I’m actually pretty blessed.

Around 50. I'm 56 now. My 40s were full of drama, male related drama! Swore off men at 50 and have never been happier 😁 It's the biggest change I've made to protect my peace. I also realised that its nice to just focus on yourself and what makes you happy. My adult DC are pretty sorted. I have a great work/life balance. Not rich but have "enough". Life is good.

Oh and just to say I think the scariest thing about feeling settled is that unnerving feeling like you’re waiting for something to cause chaos. I’m becoming a bit anxious about health and the like now, terrified of cancer, traffic accidents. Very acutely aware we could be one moment away from everything changing.

But the other opposite thought (sorry OP I’ve thought about this a lot recently, probably as I’m approaching 40!) what I find weird about this stage of life is the predictability of it, your teens and 20s wondering what your life will look like, and now I feel like I can see my life mapped out ahead of me for decades (barring the above!)

I may be misunderstanding what you mean, but I’ve felt like that my whole life.
Each stage of my life has been how I planned and expected it to be. I know this is extremely lucky!

It's not about life being settled, it's about feeling more used to life happening.

same, I’m 46 and since turning 40 my life has been chaos

52 and still waiting.
I was quite happy and settled in my 30s, then I decided I wanted a kid. Big mistake!

I’m starting to get it in order: ask me in a couple of year. I’m 59. If I’m lucky I’ll have about 5-10 years to enjoy it and then I’ll cark it. It sucks.

And me!