What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

Late 60s. Still working towards…..

Still waiting (I’m 67). Not decided what I want to do in terms of career yet… 😀
I have always thought that true adulthood would come when I understood how to fill in a tax return, but I am still waiting and so that can’t be it.

My mum died 7 years ago when I was 60 and she was 90. It made me feel like an orphan, and the feeling hasn’t worn off yet.

My 30s I really felt I’d got myself sorted - happiest time of my life. My 40s have been a shit show however …it can all come crashing down so easily😞.

I'm 39, my husband is 44. Just as things start to settle down something else happens. That's life with a progressive condition, there's no warning when suddenly you can't do something that used to be so easy. There were times when we seemed to be settled in our jobs, I had the same, stable one for 12 years whereas my husband would spend a few years somewhere then his confrontational nature would upset someone and he'd be moved on, the times between jobs were always the hardest. The uncertainty having to rework the budget, tighten our belts and burn through our savings to live on one wage til he found something else. From the outside things look settled now but I know there is a fire burning in the background, the arguments with the council about my benefits and care, its too stressful for me to deal with so he takes all that on. One day it will all be settled, it must be but I don't if I'll live that long.

50 and then spent a couple of years pinching myself that I had it so good and an in position I never ever thought would be . Happily married, dream house and looking at retirement.

Last year when I turned 41. Financially I’ve been ok for a while but last year I learned to fall in love with myself.

I'm 58 and it hasn't happened yet. Lots of serious family stuff and I'm now living in a room.

me too age 72

47 here too. I did feel like life was sorted around 44, we were “one and done” with a lovely young child, covid was pretty much over and i had found a new job at my old employer following furlough, redundancy and a few hiccups.
Then my husband became very seriously ill, needed a transplant, Liz Truss ruined mortgages, and we decided that our best hope for a stable future was to leave London. Selling up, relocating to a rural town etc and 3+ years down the line we’re starting to settle down again but know that nothing is certain and we have no idea what is round the corner.
Sorry to rain on your parade OP, just want to point out that settled and sorted is sometimes temporary, sometimes forever- you never know and don’t get to choose. Hope you’re settled and sorted for life though! X

Never, I just seem to lurch from one crisis to another and I only have a few years left as I am old. I many ways this is a comfort as life has not been easy. There have been some glorious moments and some real happiness but I have had a lot of tauma and struggle like many of my friends and family. It has mainly been a case of enjoying the calm in between the crap. Never had much money, Iive in a horrible area and have had some very challenging life events. However I do have good memories and good friends

About 38. Then a lot of stuff happened to remind me not to be so complacent.

Still waiting at 34 girl 🙃

I had a shingles jab and popped a reminder in my calendar for the essential second one in 6 months time.
I felt all smug, organised and finally grown up. Im 65.

Haven’t yet. But then…

Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "Wow! What a Ride!”

Never. I'm 62 and very, very lucky - 3 children, 2 adorable grandchildren, lovely husband, great career - but it seems every week I hear of a close relative or friend with a new nasty diagnosis, 2 recent life-altering road accidents in my family, war in the middle east, NHS struggling.... to name but a few. I love my life and it is just how I would have hoped it would turn out by this age, but I always feel we are teetering on the brink........Sorry

Sorted? Does it get sorted 😮

Sorted as in know vaguely what im meant to be doing - early 30s ish but was winging it.
Content - free to say some things piss me off and i can be me - 64ish

Today I downloaded and renamed my water bill, called it "Water Bill 2026" and felt very grown up and organised Will probably never look at it again!

When I got sober in my late 40s.

I'm 52 and have given up waiting. It's just never going to happen for me. I was heavily abused throughout my childhood and some of my adulthood so that maybe why.

I have the most wonderful teenagers/husband and will keep myself alive for them (if I'm lucky). This life has been an ongoing upheaval of me internally kicking and screaming since age 8.

I wish you the best and really hope it happens for you soon x

so am I!

I felt like it (pretty much anyway) in my mid thirties to mid 40s when our 3 kids were little, it’s just felt good. Now I’m in my 50s and I don’t feel like that at all, maybe menopause combined with teens (they are all great but the worry just increases every year in my opinion - exams, more exams, driving, more exams 🤣). Not sure who I am any more whereas I did before kids with an interesting career then as a mum.

I'm 60 and I still have no clue what I want to be when I grow up.

I don't think anyone ever feels like their life is finally sorted, for most people I think "life is finally sorted, for now" is more apt.

Would have said 59 if you'd asked a few weeks ago. Then I got the results from a medical test. So not sorted at all now.