What age did you start feeling life was finally sorted?

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To ask…what age (if at all) did you finally feel like everything was sorted, all was in place and you had it pretty much (as much as you can I suppose) all figured out!? I’m 41 and finally just feeling that way, after a fairly tumultuous few years, and years before that of waiting for one thing to happen before I can sort the next. I finally finally feel sorted with my family, my home, my job, finances etc etc. Now I appreciate things can change at any moment but it’s the peace I feel that I’m not waiting, I’m not striving and stressing, I can just live. I didn’t think it would take this long. What about you?

28 and I don't think it's ever felt less sorted than this

I would say several times I have felt like I’ve taken steps towards security? Almost like unlocking a new level and new challenges but having a moment to revel in putting the old challenges to bed?

I’d say 17, 23, 29, 32 have all been big moments so far.

19, then 37, then 42. Life gets sorted periodically, not permanently.

I thought we had it sorted when DS was born, and I was 44, but since then DH has had a serious health crisis roughly every five years. I get excema every time. But we are still here, and just about coping.

I'm nearly 70, so it doesn't let up.

55 and still looking around for an adult in the room when things get tough

The question doesn’t resonate at all and thats for someone with a good job / house / successful marriage healthy kids.

Life can always throw curve balls. All the good things are incremental. At 22 I thought all sorted (married DH bought flat had a good job).

eg married dh aged 22
third child born aged 35
over the years moved house / changed jobs / redundancy etc

Late 50s here, currently going through major upheaval and trauma that have been advised will take around two years to resolve.

It was meant to be after my hysterectomy back in late 2023, to remove a cancer. But no, it had to come back less than a year later and fuck everything up! My lifespan is now limited ☹️

I’m 50. I’m not sure it’s going to happen ever.

I agree with this most definitely.

We can have stable, happy, healthy successful periods of life. Followed by curve balls containing crocks of utter shit. That’s life!

46 and still waiting

48

Do people actually feel this? Surely most of us just come to terms with the way things are, whilst waiting for the next inevitable struggle

About 43. I've had a lot going on in the last 10 years (epilepsy, MS and a stroke) but I've been relaxed and have felt really happy. I'm single, so I think its had an impact on me.

38. Feeling more out of my depth than I ever have...

Hmm. I was very content and sorted at 30. Then everything changed, and I was again by 40. And now I am nearly 60 and some big changes on the horizon and don't feel remotely sorted. The intervening bits were fine though.

When I turned 50. Then people I loved started dying, and I was thrown into turmoil. Can’t see it getting any better tbh, so I’m just going to live for the day from now on.

How can it be sorted when it can be taken away in a minute.

Somewhere around my fifties

I mean that I was happy with my work, my house, my relationship. You can't sort things like health. But I accept that there are things out of my control.

58 and life has been good for a couple of years now. Mainly through the menopause, kids now young adults and away from home quite a lot, enjoying my job and having a little more time to myself and less to worry about. Overall looking forward to the next few years.

Right now, 47

Sorted?! I’m 63. I haven’t figured it out at all.

About 18 months ago. After decades of upheaval and trauma. I'm mid 60s now, but it was worth the wait. I count my blessings every day and have never been happier. It's all the more precious because I know how life can turn on a dime.