AIBU to use main bathroom on holiday despite en suite?

[AliceNotInChains]

Last Easter I went away with DH, Sister and BIL. We stayed in an castle apartment.
As I have IBS and other gut issues I insisted on having a bedroom with an en suit for my benefit and everyone else’s. This was fine, DH and I got the room with the little en-suite. On the first night we were watching a film in the living room and I got up to pop to toilet, I went into the main bathroom and they all started shouting that I should use my own bathroom. I laughed and said I’m only going for a wee and this was met with more shouting of “you have your own toilet”, DH then said “she does this at home too, claims ownership on one toilet then uses everyone else’s”

Anyway it went on and on, the whole 3 nights were spent with them trying to stop me using the main bathroom. I think it started as a joke but they were 100% being serious by the end of it.

Anyway we’re due to go back tomorrow, same place and already sister is dropping hints about whoever gets the en suite uses that exclusively.

Am I the one in the wrong here?? I’m only using main bathroom for peeing btw

OP doesn't even want her husband to use the en-suite!

Did you pay extra for the ensuite bedroom?

Voice of reason!

The en-suite was yours and DH’s, the family bathroom was for DSIS and BIL. You had one bathroom per couple and you should have kept to yours.

This. You only need one bathroom. You've got yours - best use it. 🙄

Yes your wrong

I think this would annoy me too, but I’m not totally sure why! You’ve claimed the en-suite but can equally use the other bathroom, doesn’t seem fair. Would you be ok with them using your en-suite? If not, that’s your answer.

You're a big girl now, you should enjoy the dark spookiness of the corridor and regard it as yet another benefit of having the en suite.

Me, I love spooky old buildings and relish the atmosphere.

This wouldn't bother me but I don't blame them for thinking you're being entitled. Save yourself some grief and walk a few extra steps to the bathroom you demanded to have to yourself.

I think if there are 2 couples and 2 bathrooms each should have one bathroom. As you had ensuite last year and don't seem to like using it why not let the other couple have ensuite this year? Are both couples paying half or do you pay more as wanting to use both bathrooms whilst only allowing them use of one. Tbh you sound selfish.

Grow up.

Yes I think you're wrong. If there are two couples in the house and two bathrooms, it makes sense for them to have one each. If you requested the room with the en suite I wouldn't want you in "our" bathroom. Is it really that far for you to walk? You sound a bit selfish to be honest!

I also find it a bit surprising that you tell us they repeatedly asked you not to use it and they just ignored you. It's just little things like having your own hand towels etc. I wouldn't want anyone else using mine so it could be something like that.

In what way is it easier?

Massive drip-feed there that the en-suite isn’t an en-suite but only a loo and presumably basin which means everyone is using the house bathroom as an actual bathroom. In which case OP you use your own private loo.

So? She has medical issues which are probably a bit embarrassing to deal with.

I don’t think you’re wrong. If it’s next to where you are and it’s only a wee fine. It’s a quick 2 mins wee- you’re not holding anyone up.

if it’s a number 2- yep go to your own en-suite. Without being rude you’ve obviously grossed them out about your poo issues and they must have been worried about that 😂 but if it’s only a wee it’s fine!

also how did they know?! I don’t announce when I’m going or where?!

why what are you doing in there 😂😂😂 that sounds extreme

Can’t you get someone to go with you to the en suite, maybe your mum

What medical issues require you to not allow other people to use the same toilet and also make you spread yourself over two different ones? I doubt her husband barges in there while she is on the loo.

Use the en-suite. Think of it this way. You’re merrily having a wee in the main bathroom and someone feels a nasty rumble. The only place they can go is the en-suite and now your bedroom stinks 🤷‍♀️ Of course, that hypothetical person could be your DH but it might not be.

You wanted the ensuite so use it.

Is it because you don't want your husband to hear any farting noises?! If this is the case I fully understand! 😂

I worked night shifts in a place with a spooky corridor. The nearest toilets to our office were down there. Almost everyone chose to walk the length of the building in the dark to the other ones to avoid it.

Leaving a toilet smelly is not exclusive to IBS sufferers. Why should the other couple be embarrassed in exactly the same way by OP using their bathroom after they left it smelly?