A genuine or accidentally-on-purpose email sent by mistake?

[roses19837]

Yesterday I saw that DH received a what appears to be obviously an accidental email from a former, younger female employee. The email was addressed to a group, staring 'hi all,' and from what I could see, was all about writing content for a website. Nothing to do with what DH does. DH just left the email, didn't reply, and went back to his inbox. He never mentioned it to me, but why would he? A silly accidental email is no piece of news really...

This employee left the company after an internship with my DH's business last summer.

As a bit of background, most of DH's work was from home, so he didn't see this woman in person all that often.

I used to suspect that DH was a bit too chatty and familiar with this young woman, although he never contacted her inappropriately outside of work. I met her several times when I went with DH to the office, and he always seemed smily and enthralled with her and what she was saying, which I did have words with him about, and he did later tone this down.

I wonder whether this girl 'accidentally on purpose' sent this email, in an attempt to strike up a conversation with DH? If so, would it be worth me telling DH to block her? I did used to wonder whether she liked the attention he gave her before I had words with him (she seems like the kind of young woman who would like attention, always dressed immaculately and hair styled etc). I could of course just be overthinking this

I said you are ridiculous because you starting wanging on about us not being enemies - it’s really not that deep.

And not only the OP but you assume that it’s every woman in that situation?

You really have a problem with me offering a different perspective to you, dont you? And you’ve gotten very angry and I don’t know why. I said we’re not enemies to deescalate because I felt attacked… like seriously dude get the memo I don’t want to insult you. I seriously think this is a road worth unpacking for op. Why are you having such a strong reaction to an attractive woman?

im going to get slated for saying this but yes if a woman was showing this much interest in me i would be thinking are you in love with me or him? 😂😂

Okay I get it - you are on the wind up. For a moment I genuinely thought that someone might think this way.

If you want to deescalate situations btw, doubling down isn’t the best way 🤣

Actually best you nip over to Relationships and you can share your wisdom with the women who have been cheated on or suspect they are. I’m sure that will help 🤣

I remember you from your last thread about this woman.
If you don’t trust your DH, leave him. That’s his/your issue and nothing to do with her.
Stop being so misogynistic. Women dress nicely and do their hair without covertly hoping some middle aged married man will flirt with them.

Whatever… I’m sure you will feel better in the morning

Oooof projection here. I feel fine now.
i don’t want to fight with you or insult you. You’re allowed to have a different opinion to me and it won’t make me be disrespectful to you. It’s a shame you can’t offer the same respect back.

You have been disrespectful actually but that’s fine. 🤷‍♀️

Accidentally because I wasn’t born in the 80s and only know what I was told… which is mostly about George Michael being beaten up by police in the toilets 🫠

Okay well he was arrested but not beaten up.

And it wasn’t the only disrespectful thing but that’s fine. As you say, different opinions and all that.

Or, more likely, as she was an intern, at the start of her career and wanting things to go well, and to get a good reference, she just indulged your pervy DH. Can you not see the enormous power imbalance here, and how that may affect her behaviour?

No doubt, she likely went home to flatmates or friends and they all sympathised with her work situation, with her having to put up a good ‘front’ with a middle age lech, who has the ability to impede her career before it begins.

Yet, you just seem to see a woman who wants tote DH, which is so very odd.

No idea about the wannabe lesbian love affair that has made its way into things, that has more than jumped the shark somewhat.

I don’t know if I should admit to this online but I am a younger woman who’s been used by a man to make a woman jealous. when they do it I’ve now started hitting on their partners to see how they like it. 🫠😂 never not been appreciated 😂😂

Maybe I’m projecting a bit but having been the woman on the receiving end of an unfounded jealous wife before I have had this cross my mind - is she obsessed with me or him?

op asked, I told her

Explains why you are projecting all over the thread I guess 🤷‍♀️

It’s hilarious. If all women did this - showed interest in the wife and not the husband - the men would soon quickly learn.
Yes and I am queer and do recognise some things I used to do in the OP’s behaviour. That’s why I asked her?

No they probably wouldn’t, given how many men fantasise about lesbians.

is she obsessed with me or him?

That’s some ego you have there. Don’t flatter yourself that all these wives fancy you 🤣

“the kind of woman who would like attention, always dressed immaculately and hair styled etc”. So taking pride in her appearance is attention seeking is it? 🙄

Actually, they get quite jealous and a bit like why don’t you like me? And actually a bit territorial. Which the wife likes.
and I don’t think they all fancy me. I think they enjoy the look on their husbands face, but that’s another conversation 😂😂😂
you really don’t seem to like me suggesting about internalised homophobia. Actually if you google it sexuality is a spectrum and it’s normal to feel attracted to people of different genders. It doesn’t mean you’re gay. But lots of people still feel ashamed of this.
i really dk why you hate me so much apart from my crap 80s knowledge. You say it was an oasis for gay people but I’m not sure Elton John or George Michael would have agreed with you at the time

Why would I hate you? You aren’t important enough one way or another 🤣

I’m important enough for a two day back and forth… you know me and my ego 😂😂😂
#reginageorge

Oh dear, there’s that ego again…

Anyway, you still aren’t making sense and im bored with it now.

Yes that was the joke. Have you seen mean girls? The main character thinks everyone’s in love with her when they hate her.
i think we should probably just leave things here now. We don’t have the same sense of humour