Dh sulking after being away

[Overitagain88]

Dh has been away for a couple of days with work. Left sunday lunchtime and back today about 16:00 so just over 48 hours away. And is now sulking that we haven't all made a massive fuss about him being home

For context there is me and 2 kids at home (9 and 5) i WFH on a tuesday and had just got back from school run (agreed I take a later lunch break on WFH days) and was just jumping on a call as DH came back

Kids were up playing in their bedrooms and didn't hear DH walk in

We then had to leave for a sporting activity we do on a Tuesday about 30 minutes after he walked in so it was all a mad rush and he is now in a strop saying we all should have made more of an effort to welcome him home

I've also had to feed the pets, sort the washing, lunches for tomorrow and finish off some work while hes sulking

He needs a dog, one that’ll squeak, spin and bring gifts when he walks in. I hope you told him that life goes on when he’s away, you don’t all freeze until he returns!

What? She works too?
And he was only away for 2 days!

He sounds pathetic.

I love this comment 😂

I’m wondering if her husband was shown this and made an account to defend himself 😂😂

😂😂🙈 funny not funny

Should have hired a violinist to serenade him as he was arriving back home OP. Along with ceremonial bunting, a flypast from the Red Arrows and a forty-gun salute. Then again, that still might not have been enough to satisfy the narcissistic bastard.

This is what I was thinking. Did he rush into the kids bedroom, excited to see them and give them cuddles after two days away? Or did he just stay miserably downstairs waiting for everyone to come and fawn all over him?

He sounds like so many men.Great big babies!honestly shouting and upsetting DD though that's not on.if us Mums go Away it's what's for tea and can't find my socks(DH for the socks!) Grow the fuck up already !9

My sister’s husband insisted his children stand up and greet him when he arrived home. To show respect as he had been out working for them. He’s an odd one. Fragile and sensitive.

Fuck this

Breadwinner? Absolute bullshit

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I'm going to go slightly against the grain here. Expecting a "fuss" is clearly OTT, and the shouting at a child is not on, but if I'd been away for a couple of days and all I got when I came in was a quick hello from DH and no acknowledgement at all from the DC, I think I would be pretty upset as well.
Actually, I'd expect more than this if I'd just been out at work for the day.

Fairly sure that if a wife posted that her family ignored her when she came home after being away, she would not be told to grow up and that she was a total baby.

I teach my children that some things are basic manners, and saying hello and goodbye to people and showing some minimum level of interest in them, falls into that category.

💯!!

They literally didn't. oP came out of her office and gave him a hug, kids were upstairs so didn't know he was home. And its a busy weeknight.

Come back with your shield or on it as Leonidas' wife tells him in 300

Exactly. He came home during his DP’s work day, when she was about to start a meeting. If he prefers, his DP could work outside the home and he pays for the DC to go to an after-school club or childminder.

Then he’d come home to an empty home. No one to greet him.

Exactly this.

If DH was working, I certainly wouldn't expect him to stop what he was doing to say hello, regardless as to how long I'd been away.

It's me that WFH and luckily DH doesn't expect me to traipse down two floors to go and say hello when he gets back from work. Even if he did, he'd be disappointed! Also luckily, we too have a dog who will greet you exceptionally enthusiastically, even if you only popped out the front for 10 seconds!

Have you asked him how things went whilst he was away? Is it possible his trip didn't go well (hence bad mood+fragility) and he was looking forwards to the comfort of home?

Before people come at me to say that doesn't excuse bad behaviour, no it doesn't.. but if it's not normal behaviour for him it may be a warning that something is off and he's under a lot of stress or had a shock to the system. I'd find this out first before i got too cross with him.

He wasn’t ignored though. She greeted him before going into a meeting.
The world doesn’t stop because you’ve worked away for a couple of days.
My DH was away for 8 days recently and had travelled to the other side of the world. He got home just as I was about to go into a meeting so he got a quick hug and a kiss as I wasn’t cancelling a meeting for a prolonged greeting!
In my experience the person at home has it harder anyway- and I experience both sides!

Maybe he needs to stop and think WHY no one missed him...

I’m sure he can use his words if this was the case. He’s supposed to be an adult after all.

He's not been on deployment with the army overseas.. jeez

Simple male science; flash tits to make him forget something, BJ for complete factory re-set. It is a joke btw.

Sure, but we all fail at this sometimes. Like i said, not an excuse, but op could find out if some thing has gone on - men are terrible at sharing when something has affected them very badly.