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Overitagain88 · 2026-03-24T21:34:01+00:00

Dh has been away for a couple of days with work. Left sunday lunchtime and back today about 16:00 so just over 48 hours away. And is now sulking that we haven't all made a massive fuss about him being home For context there is me and 2 kids at home (9 and 5) i WFH on a tuesday and had just got back from school run (agreed I take a later lunch break on WFH days) and was just jumping on a call as DH came back Kids were up playing in their bedrooms and didn't hear DH walk in We then had to leave for a sporting activity we do on a Tuesday about 30 minutes after he walked in so it was all a mad rush and he is now in a strop saying we all should have made more of an effort to welcome him home I've also had to feed the pets, sort the washing, lunches for tomorrow and finish off some work while hes sulking

Isittimeformynapyet · 24/03/2026 23:56

PyongyangKipperbang · 24/03/2026 23:34

Wtf has family law got to do with not putting up with an arsehole?

He has spent all evening sulking and shouted badly at his child because he is feeling hard done to. That is not something the OP or her kids should put up with.

If you think it is then if you are a woman, raise your bar. If you are man, fuck off.

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I'm thinking that all the family lawyers are trying to drum up business.

I'm not excusing his behaviour, he behaved like a total dick, but as usual posters are calling for "ducks in a row" after one small snapshot of a shitty family afternoon.

I would explain to my DH that while he was away I'd been looking after everything and working too. I'd tell him of course we were pleased to have him home (the silly fool) but it was really out of order to make his family feel so bad and I'd be extremely pissed off if he behaved like that again.

I'd then let it blow over, but if he continued to act like that I would then start thinking about the state of the relationship.

Nothing wrong with my "bar".

Btw, normally the introduction of the "screaming" after the first post would be classed as a drip feed.

Springspringspringagain · 24/03/2026 23:57

When my husband used to go away, the kids would shout 'dadeeeeee' when he reappeared, lots of hugs, but then he always brought presents! Your husband, I think you know what's wrong with your husband.

bigboykitty · 25/03/2026 00:00

Next time please ensure he's greeted with a balloon arch, fireworks and a 'daddy's home' tiara to wear.

What a fkn twat!

Friendlygingercat · 25/03/2026 00:02

My grandmother would have said "Oh dear I forgot to wind up the gramophone for the fanfare"

But no one today would know what a gramophone was.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 25/03/2026 00:02

PyongyangKipperbang · 24/03/2026 23:28

Have to admit, this did cross my mind.

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And mine...

cantthinkofagoodusername1 · 25/03/2026 00:10

Overitagain88 · 24/03/2026 21:51

So to clarify...

I did come out of the space I WFH in for a minute before joining the call I needed to be in, gave him a quick hug, said I needed to be on a call, kids were upstairs (actually playing nicely for once!) I'll be out in half an hour to get ready to go to activity, which we all go to

He then proceeded to shout and scream at our eldest as they didn't come down at all until told to. Youngest had come down looking for a toy and seen him. Eldest has been upset all night as it was a proper shouting (i wasn't in the room but heard it from the where I work)

But apparently too difficult for him to go upstairs and tell them hes home

I think the shouting and and screaming might be why everyone didn’t miss him when he was away.

Muffinmam · 25/03/2026 00:16

Men can be really pathetic.

My partner got a bee up his arse once because he was an hour late home from work and I didn’t quiz him on his whereabouts or frantically text him asking where he was.

He came home and made a big deal that I didn’t care about him.

I assumed he was busy at work and had to work late. Eventually I found out (days later - because he wouldn’t tell me before then) that he was busy at work and had to work late.🙄

ClairDeLaLune · 25/03/2026 00:16

NFPorterkeeponkeepingonNsoul · 24/03/2026 21:55

Hail the return of the High and mighty one
We kneel before thee
O needy prick.

⬆️ this.

Are you sure you only have 2 kids OP? Methinks you have 3. What a twat.

And shouting at your eldest. Of course they’re not going to welcome him home with open arms if he treats them like this. Maybe he should go away more often. Maybe permanently.

Muffinmam · 25/03/2026 00:16

Men can be really pathetic.

My partner got a bee up his arse once because he was an hour late home from work and I didn’t quiz him on his whereabouts or frantically text him asking where he was.

He came home and made a big deal that I didn’t care about him.

I assumed he was busy at work and had to work late. Eventually I found out (days later - because he wouldn’t tell me before then) that he was busy at work and had to work late.🙄

Muffinmam · 25/03/2026 00:25

Overitagain88 · 24/03/2026 21:51

So to clarify...

I did come out of the space I WFH in for a minute before joining the call I needed to be in, gave him a quick hug, said I needed to be on a call, kids were upstairs (actually playing nicely for once!) I'll be out in half an hour to get ready to go to activity, which we all go to

He then proceeded to shout and scream at our eldest as they didn't come down at all until told to. Youngest had come down looking for a toy and seen him. Eldest has been upset all night as it was a proper shouting (i wasn't in the room but heard it from the where I work)

But apparently too difficult for him to go upstairs and tell them hes home

So now she’s psychologically scarred and received a lesson that she should pander to pathetic men.

Why are you putting up with him? You have a job and are capable of caring for your daughters solo. What does he actually add to your lives??

Realjournal123 · 25/03/2026 00:25

He’s either guilty of something whilst away or he’s a dreadful narcissist.

Muffinmam · 25/03/2026 00:26

Flamingojune · 24/03/2026 21:36

It doesnt harm to show him a bit of affection surely?

WTF?!?

She has a job!! What was she supposed to do?!

Muffinmam · 25/03/2026 00:30

Isittimeformynapyet · 24/03/2026 23:56

I'm thinking that all the family lawyers are trying to drum up business.

I'm not excusing his behaviour, he behaved like a total dick, but as usual posters are calling for "ducks in a row" after one small snapshot of a shitty family afternoon.

I would explain to my DH that while he was away I'd been looking after everything and working too. I'd tell him of course we were pleased to have him home (the silly fool) but it was really out of order to make his family feel so bad and I'd be extremely pissed off if he behaved like that again.

I'd then let it blow over, but if he continued to act like that I would then start thinking about the state of the relationship.

Nothing wrong with my "bar".

Btw, normally the introduction of the "screaming" after the first post would be classed as a drip feed.

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There is absolutely something wrong with your bar if you think you need to justify your actions and “explain”.

The OP‘s husband is emotionally abusive towards his family.

GrumpyButOk · 25/03/2026 00:31

I wouldn't dream of arranging The Glorious One's home coming without at least the children performing a ceremonial salute whilst I scatter rose petals before his majesty's feet. Sounds like the OP couldn't even be bothered to bake him a "Welcome Home after 48 hours" cake. No wonder he was annoyed.

tamade · 25/03/2026 00:36

Wineandrun · 24/03/2026 21:37

This is brilliant. I work away for 48-72 hours once a fortnight or so and am normally greeted with ‘mum where’s my socks/ scouts jumper/ swimming goggle/ what’s for dinner’. Unless he was away saving the life of the last of an endangered species or he happened to cure cancer I think a hug and a ‘hi honey glad you’re home, we missed you’ would suffice.

Agreed, but sounds like he didn't actually get even that?

LittleMyLabyrinth · 25/03/2026 00:44

I imagine he wants everyone to march down and present themselves to him like Mr Banks or Captain Von Trapp.
He sounds highly unpleasant.

HAPPILYMARRIEDSINCE2012 · 25/03/2026 01:00

sellingrocks · 24/03/2026 21:40

Well yeah I’d be a bit sad if I went away 2 nights and came back and it felt like no one had noticed me either I don’t think he’s being overly precious - I feel a bit 🥹 if I dont get an enthusiastic hello mummy and a hug when I pick them up after school every day

This

JollyHolly30 · 25/03/2026 01:23

What an ick!

Albanaus · 25/03/2026 01:38

He screamed abuse at your child for no reason at all and is abusing all of you by sulking?

Time for him to leave permanently.

BoogieTownTop · 25/03/2026 02:30

AmberSpy · 24/03/2026 21:56

Why reward his shitty behaviour?

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🤣🤣🤣 you think the poster was serious?

OP tell him to grow up!

MysticHalfWitch · 25/03/2026 04:59

Accidentally clicked YABU! You’re absolutely not at all! Total knob, I’d be furious if I was you.

RunningOnEmptyish · 25/03/2026 05:33

MacchiatoMavis · 24/03/2026 21:47

Well she didn't kick him in the nuts and tell him to fuck off back to wherever he came from did she?

There's always one on every single thread 🙄

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It’s not too late for her to do that.

JetFlight · 25/03/2026 05:48

I wonder if you were all actually happier when he was away? Did it all feel lighter?

keepswimming38 · 25/03/2026 06:01

Have you asked him why he is behaving like a twat. Why would women rather come on here and moan than have it out?

Epidote · 25/03/2026 06:03

Youspurnme · 24/03/2026 21:35

Maybe he should be considering why he wasn’t missed.

This comment is harsh but has a point. I read it and I thought, ohhhh could be?