Dh sulking after being away

[Overitagain88]

Dh has been away for a couple of days with work. Left sunday lunchtime and back today about 16:00 so just over 48 hours away. And is now sulking that we haven't all made a massive fuss about him being home

For context there is me and 2 kids at home (9 and 5) i WFH on a tuesday and had just got back from school run (agreed I take a later lunch break on WFH days) and was just jumping on a call as DH came back

Kids were up playing in their bedrooms and didn't hear DH walk in

We then had to leave for a sporting activity we do on a Tuesday about 30 minutes after he walked in so it was all a mad rush and he is now in a strop saying we all should have made more of an effort to welcome him home

I've also had to feed the pets, sort the washing, lunches for tomorrow and finish off some work while hes sulking

My ex used to do this all the time, expected a big fanfare like king ding-a-ling! I honestly think he was jealous of our child. One of the days, me and my DD opened the door, threw confetti on him, blew some party blowers and followed him round clapping and stroking him! Then I got a bollocking for ‘taking the piss’.

There are some lovely men out there but a LOT of babies amongst them.

There was another thread on here recently almost identical. Maybe he has a twin or has been cloned. What is it with these men- children?

If he's going to shout and scream at a child when he comes home, I'd tell him to bloody well stay away!

"Shows his dissatisfaction" ? I think you mean stands at the bottom of the stairs shouts and screams at his 9 year old child who was playing quietly in their room because they didn't run down stairs to welcome him.

He deserves zero respect.

His wife also works so she's a breadwinner too.

Ask him what the fuck was wrong with his legs that he couldn't walk upstairs to say hallo to his children.

And tell him that sulking is incredibly childish and unattractive.

Honestly girl, marriage sounds great but

Having your home without a man in it, is pure bliss 😌

Did he bring you back a gift? Flowers for holding down the fort? A handbag? Did he come home and make dinner?

Yanbu x

Show me a 5yo that understands/appreciates what a breadwinner is, or would know how to show respect in that way.

children that age model what they’ve been taught. He didn’t go out his way to greet them or make a fuss over them after being apart.

when I come in from work my dd sometimes runs to greet me - probably as she enjoys spending time with me and is wanting to do something fun. It doesn’t sound like OPs DH is the type of person a 5 yo would miss or excited to spend time with after him only being a way for such a short period. Says a lot about how the dc view their dad - and they’ve no doubt learned that from him so

I feel really sorry for the kids here. Being shouted at because they didn't march downstairs and greet him. What a knob head.

They won't be returning home after they can leave, that's for sure.

Does he often behave like this, OP?

I spend too much time on mumsnet, I'm wondering what he was up when he was away and why is he trying to pick a fight...guilty conscience?

Like I said ..I spend too much time on mumsnet.

The same thought went through my mind too.

Tell him to join the military and get deployed overseas for months.

Then he can get a “welcome home” party.

So he was shouting and screaming at his child because he didn’t come downstairs?

Wow.. he’s an absolute arsehole.

I hope he’s apologised @Overitagain88 Is he usually such a shit human?

How were the children even ment to now he arrived? He should have gone upstairs to meet them surely?

I’d tell him it seems like his travelling with work is incompatible with being married, since he expects you to not only hold the fort but also drop your work you’ve been juggling with the kids while he’s away to welcome him and get the kids to throw him a welcome home. so he will have to choose no work travel if he can’t choose not to be an ungrateful selfish twat.

Raise your bar @MissDaisy1982

Shouting and screaming at nine year isn’t showing dissatisfaction, it’s being an absolute twat.

Oh the mighty hunter getting a cob on because it turns out that while he was away killing a mammoth, no one noticed because his wife killed a mammoth, fed the kids and kept the cave clean.

Pathetic.

Have to admit, this did cross my mind.

Oh, here we go..

Is everyone in here in family law or something?

When I was working, when travelling for work I’d get calls telling me that DS had left the freezer door open.. and what to doooo….

trying to find the words to say what did you want me to do about it/why are you phoning me about this etc without coming across rude in the middle of an airport… I just said ok, I’ve got to go through security… 🤣

Wtf has family law got to do with not putting up with an arsehole?

He has spent all evening sulking and shouted badly at his child because he is feeling hard done to. That is not something the OP or her kids should put up with.

If you think it is then if you are a woman, raise your bar. If you are man, fuck off.

My brain just can't compute this, I think I would have responded something like "oh how awful, I'll be home to close it for your shortly" then just switch my phone to airplane mode. It's weaponised incompetence.

He sounds like a prick. You don't have two children, you have three. Awful

This.

Well hello, OP’s husband!