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eggsandsourdough · 2026-03-24T15:58:50+00:00

High school!! DD started last year and jesus fucking christ what a rollercoaster. The transition has been absolutly brutal, not so much for my DD in the sense she made a huge group of friends but the sheer drama, behaviour,shocking stories. My lovely, kind empathetic grl has turned into a monster. I was not ready!! What a humbling experience.

TheWineoftheChicken · 27/03/2026 16:03

Idontcareforthat · 27/03/2026 15:55

@TheWineoftheChicken sorry, that was meant to be a sarcastic response to the poster who ‘helpfully’ corrected the OP re ‘secondary school’.

Sorry I did think that after I posted but you can never tell on here!

Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 27/03/2026 16:43

I was terrified of secondary school. Absolutely terrified. I almost kept him home to home educate him rather than what I saw as a cesspit of horrible bullying and knife crime.
I had an absolutely horrendous time in year 7 and 8, kids were horrendously cruel and people who probably no longer remember my existence have scarred me for life with their words and actions during that time

HOWEVER, DS (12 and in Y8/S2) has really come into his own in secondary school and is much happier than he was in primary. He thrives on being given that bit more trust and independence, and treated like he's a bit older. He's always been older than his years. He's also got much more friends than he had in primary school, he rides his bike there with his mates and has good relationships with the teachers.

I know this doesn't help the OP but hopefully it might reassure some posters that it's not all bad, some kids do really well and are happier.

Bit worried about DD who is in year 3 and is younger minded and very sensitive. Will have to see how she gets on...

dpridot · 27/03/2026 16:59

Then there is the whole boy-madness with some girls (is this the same for boys?) It's as if with some girls at one point in year 7/8/9 there is a switch and all they want is to be with boys, jealousies over crushes, chatting up others' dates, 4 dates on the go. Or is that just my dc' school?

Allonthesametrain · 27/03/2026 23:53

I of course cannot commit to saying it will the same foe every child but Please accept my experience as a teacher of 30 years and DC of my own. I can only write a few sentences at a time to be able to post and can't go back to edit so these will be short ones.

Allonthesametrain · 27/03/2026 23:56

Allonthesametrain · 27/03/2026 23:53

I of course cannot commit to saying it will the same foe every child but Please accept my experience as a teacher of 30 years and DC of my own. I can only write a few sentences at a time to be able to post and can't go back to edit so these will be short ones.

As a tutor seeing my students through from y7 to y11 meanwhile teaching the cohorts, my experience has been..

Allonthesametrain · 27/03/2026 23:58

Allonthesametrain · 27/03/2026 23:56

As a tutor seeing my students through from y7 to y11 meanwhile teaching the cohorts, my experience has been..

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Continued..scared and mostly respectful in y7, some are more confident and will act up. Most settle in much more quickly than before.

YellingAway · 28/03/2026 00:19

What is this weirdness of insisting that it is secondary school when posters call it high school. I went to high school, everyone called it the high school no one in my remote part of Scotland called it secondary school. But hey ho there is always someone out there to correct us on our Americanisms, next up it will be Halloween!

deedeemeloy · 28/03/2026 00:23

I have a son in year 9, bloody awful!

drspouse · 28/03/2026 07:42

YellingAway · 28/03/2026 00:19

What is this weirdness of insisting that it is secondary school when posters call it high school. I went to high school, everyone called it the high school no one in my remote part of Scotland called it secondary school. But hey ho there is always someone out there to correct us on our Americanisms, next up it will be Halloween!

We all call it high school in our corner of the NW of England and we also say "pants" for trousers. Heresy!
Some of the schools even have "X Town High School" as their actual name.

TheWineoftheChicken · 28/03/2026 07:55

dpridot · 27/03/2026 16:59

Then there is the whole boy-madness with some girls (is this the same for boys?) It's as if with some girls at one point in year 7/8/9 there is a switch and all they want is to be with boys, jealousies over crushes, chatting up others' dates, 4 dates on the go. Or is that just my dc' school?

Mine are at an all girls’ school so I guess at least that’s one less area for conflict!

TutTutTutSigh · 28/03/2026 08:51

Hellohelga · 26/03/2026 21:48

YABU - the school after primary school (infants and/or juniors) is called secondary school.

Dds school is called "X High School" very common in the NW.

YorkshirePuddingsGreatestFan · 28/03/2026 09:01

It wasn't until I went through managing teenagers myself that I realised that Harry Enfield's Kevin the Teenager is scarily accurate.

WearyAuldWumman · 28/03/2026 12:01

drspouse · 28/03/2026 07:42

We all call it high school in our corner of the NW of England and we also say "pants" for trousers. Heresy!
Some of the schools even have "X Town High School" as their actual name.

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There are 15 state high schools in Fife, plus Levenmouth Academy, Waid Academy and Madras College [all state secondaries].

https://www.fife.gov.uk/kb/docs/articles/education2/schools-in-fife/secondary-schools

Across the border in Perth and Kinross, the first secondary that you come to is Kinross High School.

https://www.pkc.gov.uk/article/24077/Secondary-schools

Secondary schools in Perth and Kinross - Perth & Kinross Council

https://www.pkc.gov.uk/article/24077/Secondary-schools

Melathome · 29/03/2026 09:00

Words are powerful as we all know. I don’t think anyone would use the f word alongside the name of a leader or prophet of another religion. Christianity seems open to abuse.

EvieBB · 29/03/2026 20:23

Melathome · 29/03/2026 09:00

Words are powerful as we all know. I don’t think anyone would use the f word alongside the name of a leader or prophet of another religion. Christianity seems open to abuse.

Words are only as powerful as we allow/perceive them to be.
I think people make disparaging comments about ALL religions (as is their right/point of view). ....so I don't think Christianity gets any more stick than any other religion it's just that radical Islamists would have you shot if you dared to insult their prophet (I'm thinking of the Charlie Hebdo attack in Paris)....so people tend to keep quiet out of fear.....