AIBU to expect some dinner in the house?

[Newboymum2023]

I've just got back from a Monday-Friday staycation with my DS 3yo. We've had a lovely time, but if you've ever been away with a toddler, you'll understand that's it's not exactly a relaxing holiday! It's been full on, no naps, later bedtimes than usual, on top of which he's been battling a cough/sore throat which I now have too. DH did not come with us as he didn't have enough annual leave at work. For context, DH works from home, 4 days a week (has one day off). He finishes at 6pm.
Anyway, I've got home and he's asked what I want for dinner to which I replied "what have we got". Well. Turns out we've got nothing (to make an actual meal, anyway). So now I either have to do bedtime on my own whilst he goes to the shop or vice versa. AIBU to expect him to have at least picked something easy up whilst I've been away? I know he's been to the supermarket at least 3 times to get food for himself. There's not even any milk in the fridge for a cuppa.

Because why the hell would you jump to ‘bingeing’? The OP didn’t give any indication that she’d left hoards of food and it’s all disappeared.
We currently have nothing in for dinner. I’d probably be able to rustle up some waffles and sausages from the freezer, but I don’t class that as ‘something for dinner’ as it’s not the sort of food I like to eat.

It's the lack of thought, more than anything. He knows both me and our son are unwell, and that we'd had a 3 hour journey home. And the fact he'd already been to the shops today. If he'd been so busy at work he hadn't had time to pop out etc. that's a different matter.

Same

always something in the freezer or pasta and sauce

or takeaway. It’s Friday

Not everyone can afford a takeaway even if it's Friday...

It's not about you or your freezer or personal dinner preferences though, is it?

This is getting quite strange now.

Ah I meant the PP I was quoting must have a stressful life!

If I could afford a holiday, so not on the breadline, I would expect to have enough food in the house to rustle up a meal in this situation.

Everyone is out of routine so it is understandable that things aren't as you expected. Throw in a sick child and sick parent, tensions might be running high, but YA probably BU.

You usually shop together, so it presumably isn't the norm for him to plan dinner alone.

No it’s not, I’m just saying it’s fairly normal to not have anything in for dinner and it’s not because someone in the house has been ‘bingeing’. Yours was a really weird question.

"Get a takeaway OP its Friday!"

Go and bloody well pay for it then !! Some of you are on another fucking planet a week before payday i swear !

Oh sorry!

OP just came back from a holiday that seemingly wasn't their only break this year, considering the partner didn't attend. Finances don't seem to be the issue.

I'd be mildly irritated and send him to the shop. But really, I'd always have a tin of soup or some pasta/noodles in the cupboards, or eggs or cheese on toast! Have you really got nothing to eat in the house? Either send him to the shop or order in & relax!

@Jopo12 - so she needs to micromanage another adult? Not all men are this crap. He’s choosing to be! Hardly difficult to think he’ll make something nice for when they both get back. I’ve just done a full shop for the week in 40 minutes - he could have easily done that on his lunch break if he’d had the forethought. But he didn’t. Because he can’t be arsed. I’d have been most annoyed about the lack of milk and no cup of tea on arrival. I mean - if you’re a milk or tea drinker - who actually runs out of milk?

She hasn’t had a week “off!” she’s had / 3 year old to parent alone 24/7!!!

Paying off trips in advance is entirely different to upfront costs of convenience food.

Being on holiday with a 3 year old is not having the week off. I imagine the DH had far more time to relax.

You think the poster was serious?

This was, in fact our only break this year, and one which I was very fortunate to have had help towards paying for, so that my little boy could have a few days away. So assuming that we can just "get a takeaway" without a second thought is far from the truth.

So if there was food he could have had for lunch, what is that and where is it now?

This is my point.
To be fair, he doesn't drink milk, so it wouldn't be on his mind for himself but it would have been nice to have been thought about. Dinner on the other hand... He has to eat too!!!

You could afford a week away 🤷‍♀️

What routine? The one where the OP is there to do all of the ‘wife work’?

Ok I take it back, I could have had a slice of toast for dinner.

You sound like an over privileged twit who hasnt bothered to read the thread - yawn

I’m with you, OP. If my dh had gone to Tesco today then he would at least have picked up some ready meals.

Because he’d know we had no proper food in. Because he’d know I’d be tired after travelling. Because he is also an adult in this household.

I do the main weekly food shop online but he is quite capable of looking in the cupboard/fridge.

Or he would say ‘I’ve decided to fetch us a takeaway tonight.’

We don’t even have DC. The point is, he would think.