Male colleague keeps barging me and making comments about my appearance

[grumpyatwork]

I started my job at the same time as this colleague. He is in his late teens, and to put it bluntly he is an awful worker. He spends most of his time in the toilet on his phone, and whenever he’s pulled up about this he gets incredibly stroppy.

In the last few days I’ve taken over a lot of his work. I don’t mind, it makes everything easier.

but in the last few days he’s picked up on this and he keeps going out of his way to barge into me. He shoulder barged me yesterday when walking past me, despite me having enough room behind me for him to not do that. Today he saw I was behind him and rolled his chair backwards to bump into me.

he also keeps making snide comments about my appearance - hair colour, weight, etc.

I think this is all related to the fact I’m getting praise for getting his work done, but AIBU to raise it?

I presume you like the attention as you are doing nothing about it and you are making up lots of back stories of what you think he is thinking you seem obsessed

Report him and move on

He’s old enough to be employed, therefore he’s old enough to know he’s assaulting and harassing a colleague. Who cares why he’s doing it? Report.

If you've already decided what you want to do then what's the point of starting a thread here?

I don't think you ignoring my to "avoid being a troublemaker" is the right approach but it's your decision. Good luck and try to avoid him as much as you can.

Stop doing his work and let it pile up so that he gets into trouble and throw him under the bus. Report his for assault.

What type of work is it? I can’t see him surviving his new job. He’s trying to intimidate you.

Wow!

what a ridiculously weird comment!

yeah blame the victim for someone else’s disgusting behaviour!

Report to hr now before this gets worse & he “ accidentally “ injures you
This is also sexist misogynistic behaviour as he wouldn’t do this to a guy
Right now he’s seeing how much you’ll put up with, he will do worse & wants you to leave one way or another

What is the op doing about the behaviour?

Assaulting a colleague would most likely lead to summary dismissal for gross misconduct where I work. No notice.

You are under-reacting.

He is creating a hostile work environment and targeting you with his inappropriate behaviour.

Intentionally barging or bumping into you is unacceptable. Commenting on your appearance is unacceptable. This should be addressed by management.

Failing to complete his work or spending excessive time on toilet breaks is also for management to address. Don't pick up the slack for him.

Hey, I work for a union. What happens at work does not necessarily have to stay at work. Start documenting it. Physical assault is a police matter and you should consider a police report as well as reporting to HR. Assaulting a fellow colleague is gross misconduct and can lead to summary dismissal i.e. without notice. Have these events been witnessed by others? Is there CCTV available?

Something needs to be done tho...!

Exactly what I thought...a very odd comment

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Is this the food industry by any chance having a similar problem lol 🤦🏽‍♀️