Childminder has had complaints about my son lashing out

[ohsonogo]

My son 2.5 is a sweet boy with a bit of a temper. Multiple times the childminder has asked me to keep his nails short as he lashes out at other children’s faces when annoyed. She says there have been more than ten times that she’s had to send another child home with scratches on their face. Today my partner picked up and she said ‘please cut xxx nails tonight as he’s using them as a weapon’. She’s messages me this

‘Hi, just to let you know xx has scratched another child’s face today again, very close to their eye. The parents are understandably upset and have sent me a very angry message. This other child was also hurt last week. I have now had to apologise to 5 parents due to scratches on their faces. Can you please ensure xx’s nails are kept as short as possible otherwise I won’t be able to accept him back into the setting. I will be in touch soon once I have a better idea of how to proceed with this ongoing issue. Thanks, xxxx ‘

what the hell do I do or say to that? Why is she being such a bitch, there’s only so much I can do when I’m not there.

your childminder will give you notice. If this is even true. How are you not horrified your child is causing these injuries

Rage bait.

Would you be happy if this was your child coming home every week with a scratched face?

YABU

Aye. Does she have an American bulldog as well?

#windup

2.5 and half is old enough to know it’s unacceptable to lash out and scratch children. I’ve a 2.5 year old myself, and a 5 year old. Mine wouldn’t have done this because I taught them to respect others. Have you taught him the basics of social interaction eg don’t snatch, don’t push others, wait your turn?

This has to be troll?! 🤣

If she is on here and sees you have called her a bitch, she’ll probably ditch you and your kid. She is not being unreasonable, you are.

If this is real (and not a wind up post) then you can fully expect your child to be let go from this childminder.

She is understandably stressed at dealing with multiple angry parents who, quite rightly, expect their children to be safe in her care.

Your attitude coupled with your child’s behaviour is a recipe for disaster.

They obv grow fast so maybe cut them every 3/4 days and not once a week

work on his behaviour - doe he scratch at home - what do you do or say when it happens @ohsonogo

and yes the cm may give your notice as it can’t keep happening

how would you feel if it was your child coming home being hurt and scratched daily

Very quick to call her out for being a bitch op.
i think her requests and even the message she has just sent is perfectly reasonable.
By the way you’ve reacted to this makes me think should it be your DC that was getting continuously scratched you wouldn’t be acting as reasonable as you expect others to do.

Well if they were long today, then you need to do it more than once a week.

I don't know, I knew somebody just like this in real life. Her child was relentlessly attacking other children and she had no interest in trying to address it, she thought nursery staff and other childrens' parents were unreasonable for having a problem with it and thought that being frequently attacked by her child was just part of going to nursery for the other kids.

Pretty sure this is a ragebait post. There's no way a real mum can type those words and believe it.

It's quite simple op, she has a duty of care to all of the children in her care, and that includes keeping them safe from.harm. i.e being scratched by your son. It's never to early to start teaching him that this is wrong and makes the other children upset. It's about more than keeping his nails short, act now or he will lose his place

So you noticed they were long but sent him in anyway and allowed another child to get hurt?

If you go straight to her being a bitch it is perhaps no surprise he deals with anger by lashing out.

If I were the other parents I’d be making clear that if the child that scratched wasn’t removed I’d be moving my child.

I’ve seen children at nursery left with permanent scars from deep scratches. I can’t believe that you don’t see this as your problem.

This poster has the same "feel", in writing style, attitude and general obtuseness, to the other poster who has three current threads on her dog, a £300 dress and her friend's fake nails.
No trollhunting here, no siree. Just makes you wonder a bit...

Of course YABU. She’s protecting the other children your child is scratching. What on earth do you think she’s doing wrong? You’d be ok if it was the other way round yes? Don’t be ridiculous.

Yes, you can tell as they write similarly. A bit sad, spend your evening writing stories on Mumsnet😅

Rage bait surely?

Surely, you are jesting 😂

Jeezo no wonder it’s so hard to get someone to work with or look after children when your first instinct is to call her a bitch! Yes these things happen but this is happening repeatedly and she cannot risk losing several parents because your child cannot control his temper, I wonder where he gets it!

The sad reality is… the poster probably does need to start a thread… about her sorry, lonely and joyless life