Childminder has had complaints about my son lashing out

[ohsonogo]

My son 2.5 is a sweet boy with a bit of a temper. Multiple times the childminder has asked me to keep his nails short as he lashes out at other children’s faces when annoyed. She says there have been more than ten times that she’s had to send another child home with scratches on their face. Today my partner picked up and she said ‘please cut xxx nails tonight as he’s using them as a weapon’. She’s messages me this

‘Hi, just to let you know xx has scratched another child’s face today again, very close to their eye. The parents are understandably upset and have sent me a very angry message. This other child was also hurt last week. I have now had to apologise to 5 parents due to scratches on their faces. Can you please ensure xx’s nails are kept as short as possible otherwise I won’t be able to accept him back into the setting. I will be in touch soon once I have a better idea of how to proceed with this ongoing issue. Thanks, xxxx ‘

what the hell do I do or say to that? Why is she being such a bitch, there’s only so much I can do when I’m not there.

SuperNanny

Serious whoes Jo Frost. Like David Frost maybe?

No problem, Claire Danes

It's prone, by the way...

Oh my God the show looks awesome.

If you don’t want him to lose his space then check his nails every day!! Nice and short and file them too.

she’s not a bitch!! She’s protecting the other kids.

does he do this at home? Is he overtired? Why does he lash out in this way?

I’d work with her if i were you.

No problem Cardi B

And the rest is correct, which is why you’re picking up a typo…

Go learn your lines for your next am dram part, what are you usually cast as?

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Oh, still doing the am dram metaphor, are we? 😆

It’s make by the way.

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Ha ha, cheers...😄

Yep and also pointing out your typos, highly amusing!

You two are far more entertaining than the thread.😆

Exactly im loving it even though I don't get any of your references.I think you guys are awesome.You're helping me develop and new understanding of older actresses, brilliant

Jo Frost isn't an actress...she is a nanny.

Oh didnt read the wiki assumed sitcom

What did I just read? Bitch??

When my oldest was at the childminder a new child did this to him. My childminder stopped accepting that child immediately.

Your childminder has been incredibly patient to keep your son this long.

Hopefully she sees this thread.

I did say in my earlier post that she needs to cut her son’s nails as often as needed and I did not agree with her language. Also recommended working on boundaries at home and some books that helped when we went through this…. Perhaps you could read the thread?

I did read the thread. You said little can be done for the parent or child... I disagree, the parent can grow the F up and cut her kids nails and stop throwing a tantrum because her child might now be excluded because she isn't doing this? That's nobody's fault but the OPs

It remains my view that there is not much you can do with a 2.5 year old hitting. And as I have already said I agree the op should be cutting his nails. Here is my earlier post for you:
Op you are being unreasonable to be so rude about your childminder.
I have been through scratching, biting, kicking, head butting, hitting and DS is nearly 5 now and on occasion still reacts physically when he is tired or struggling to regulate. He is not the only one in his class and the boys in his class particularly seem to go through this intermittently.
As long as you are consistently holding a boundary with your child around kind hands, not hitting and cutting his nails then I don’t think there is much else you can do at 2.5. We used the ‘teeth are not for biting’ book series from that age and they helped a bit but in reality until he gets control of his emotional regulation you will just have to keep cutting nails every other day (or whatever is required) to manage it and realise that most people will blame you which you will need to be grown up enough to deal with as his parent and an adult.