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Neighbours trying to intimidate me over parking issues

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crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 13:59

I live on a small estate where each house has a driveway that can fit 2 cars. There’s also room on the street, so every house can accommodate at least 3 cars. The driveways are single file, which means people sometimes have to move their cars around, but that’s never really been an issue. Just for context, I live alone, so it’s a bit easier for me. I’ve been here for almost 7 years and was quite happy until recently when my lovely neighbours moved away in November. My new neighbours moved in, we introduced ourselves, exchanged greetings when we passed by, and everything seemed fine. However, things took a turn in January when their son (they’re a couple with a son in his 20s) got a transit van for work.

At first, they parked both their cars in the driveway and the van outside their house, swapping them around like everyone else. But a few weeks later, he started parking it outside mine. I figured it was just a one time thing and didn’t think much of it, but then he kept doing it every day, sometimes leaving it parked there for several days in a row. The thing is, my front garden is small, so the van ends up blocking my living room window, and honestly, it’s not great to look at every single day. I didn’t mind him parking there every now and then, but I thought it was a bit inconsiderate to do it all the time while leaving their own window empty. It also meant that my guests had to park further down the road and walk, when before they could park right outside. It’s a public road, so I never told them not to park there, but I did politely ask if they could switch it with one of their cars. They said no because the drive wasn’t wide enough for the van, and if they parked it in front of their house, they’d have to keep moving it to get the cars off the drive.

They were parking one car on the drive and one on the road, so they didn’t have to move either of them. I explained that it blocked my view and wasn’t pleasant to look at all the time, but they just repeated that it wasn’t possible to move it. There’s a small lay-by in the next street (you can see it from both our houses, and you walk through a little alley to get there) that isn’t in front of anyone’s house, so I asked if he could park the van there, but they said it wasn’t possible in case tools got stolen, etc, so that was that, and I never mentioned it up again.

Honestly, it bugged me for a bit and definitely soured the relationship, but there wasn't much I could do, so I just tried to ignore it. Then in February, my friend decided to sell her car. It’s an old Toyota Aygo and was very cheap, so I thought I'd grab it as a little runaround. I live up in the hills which can be a hassle, especially when my car is in the garage as the local bus only comes every two hours, making it difficult to get around and manage work. The car has an MOT until next year, it's taxed and insured, and I've been parking it outside my house. My main car is on the drive. I won’t lie, it was nice not having to see a big van every day too so that was definitely a bonus. A couple of weeks after I parked the car there, my neighbour asked if it was mine. I said yes, and asked if everything was okay. They brought up the van and mentioned it was difficult for them since they had nowhere else to park. I suggested the lay-by again or said they could park outside their own house (like everyone else), but they weren’t happy and asked me to put it on my drive since I wasn’t using it every day. I told them no, sorry, but they have space outside their own house, and I’m parking my car in the space outside mine. I probably could have been nicer about it, but they didn’t seem to care when they were blocking my front window and making it difficult for my guests, so I didn’t have much sympathy for them.

Since then, tensions have been high, and they’ve asked me several times to move my car. Now, they’ve started to block my driveway with their van (not completely blocking it, but the back end is hanging over, making it difficult to get in and out), tossing rubbish into my garden, and just generally being rude and trying to intimidate me. The last time I talked to them was on Saturday when they jokingly threatened to tow my car away (I have cameras at the front of my house). They were laughing but I could tell it was a threat. I doubt they would act this way if I had a partner.

Am I being unreasonable for saying that if they keep this up, I’ll call the police?

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WallaceinAnderland · 18/03/2026 14:03

I live on a small estate where each house has a driveway that can fit 2 cars. There’s also room on the street, so every house can accommodate at least 3 cars.

No, the spaces on the street don't belong to anyone.

One house could park all of their vehicles on the street if they wanted to.

Tableforjoan · 18/03/2026 14:03

Keep a log of their behaviour.

Remind them that as long as the car has tax and mot you can park it there legally on the road just like they park their van or car.

That if they keep making threats and littering in your garden you will report them.

Rowley456 · 18/03/2026 14:03

They sound awful. Sorry you are in that position. Kind of satisfying to hear that they are unable to park in front of your house now though.

Tableforjoan · 18/03/2026 14:07

Oh and never ever leave that space empty again 😅 just swap cars every so often so it cannot be reported abandoned.

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 14:08

WallaceinAnderland · 18/03/2026 14:03

I live on a small estate where each house has a driveway that can fit 2 cars. There’s also room on the street, so every house can accommodate at least 3 cars.

No, the spaces on the street don't belong to anyone.

One house could park all of their vehicles on the street if they wanted to.

I know that, but everyone on the street parks in front of their own homes, and the only other people who park there occasionally are guests. We’re not close to the town center or a big city, so we don’t get random people parking here. It’s just the residents or their friends and family.

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Abitofalark · 18/03/2026 14:14

Good to hear that you turned the tables on them but sad that they've turned nasty and are now trying to intimidate you. You've stood firm and said your piece, maintaining your position. Well done for that. It's not easy against a crowd, when you are just one.

However, harassing you to move your car and throwing rubbish into your garden, along with any other anti-social behaviour are reportable to the police and you have evidence backed up by camera, presumably? I have no doubt at all that they wouldn't be doing this if you had a partner - a male partner. Yes, if they don't stop, do involve the police. That should cool their enthusiasm for harassment.

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 14:16

Tableforjoan · 18/03/2026 14:03

Keep a log of their behaviour.

Remind them that as long as the car has tax and mot you can park it there legally on the road just like they park their van or car.

That if they keep making threats and littering in your garden you will report them.

Thank you that's a great idea. I've told them multiple times that the car is allowed to be parked on the road, but they just keep rambling on about the van. They could easily shift the van if they want to get the cars off the driveway (like everyone else has to) but they won't. It's really just laziness.

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Friendlygingercat · 18/03/2026 14:17

Do you have any burly friends you can send round? "Look mate, we dont want any trouble but your upsetting our friend/sister/aunty."

Its amazing how quickly people will back up when a couple of big chaps in biker gear show up.

PleaseStopEatingMyStuff · 18/03/2026 14:17

Great idea to keep a 2nd car. Just make sure you keep up to date on the tax/insurance when it needs renewing-im sure your horrible neighbours will be keeping check.
Also YANBU. Enjoy your better view!

Vaxtable · 18/03/2026 14:18

Just tell them next time if they continue you will be reporting them for harassment. If you have proof they are throwing rubbish into your garden report that as anti social behaviour.

it’s a street you have as much right to park there as they do

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 18/03/2026 14:23

I would also recommend keeping a log and if it carries on, reporting to the police. This could well be harassment.

The police would tell you in the first instance to keep a log so you might as well start that first.

Itsmetheflamingo · 18/03/2026 14:25

This is frustrating, but no, you can’t call the police at the moment and don’t fail to recognise due the escalation that calling the police will bring to the situation (which, if you’re not in danger, make you look like a protagonist)

I think all you can do is be very firm. Take the rubbish back and tell them to stop throwing it on your garden. Ask if you can have an open discussion about the situation to resolve it but be clear that resolution doesn’t look like either of you being told where to park

ChangeAgainAgainAgain · 18/03/2026 14:28

I'll be honest and say I think it's ridiculously petty to go to the lengths of buying, taxing, MoTing and insuring a car just to stop your neighbours from parking on the street outside your house.

That said, you have every right to park there, just as they had every right to park there when the space was free. It is unreasonable for them to keep asking you to move your car, just as it was unreasonable for you to keep asking them to move their legally parked van.

PurpleThistle7 · 18/03/2026 14:32

ChangeAgainAgainAgain · 18/03/2026 14:28

I'll be honest and say I think it's ridiculously petty to go to the lengths of buying, taxing, MoTing and insuring a car just to stop your neighbours from parking on the street outside your house.

That said, you have every right to park there, just as they had every right to park there when the space was free. It is unreasonable for them to keep asking you to move your car, just as it was unreasonable for you to keep asking them to move their legally parked van.

Edited

Yeah. Agree with this. Feels like you started this and now they're escalating it and really - everyone could have been better.

Yardbrushes · 18/03/2026 14:36

This is harassment.
Keep a log.
Photograph the fly tipping.
Ring 101 and ask for advice and report their threat to interfere with your car.

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 14:38

ChangeAgainAgainAgain · 18/03/2026 14:28

I'll be honest and say I think it's ridiculously petty to go to the lengths of buying, taxing, MoTing and insuring a car just to stop your neighbours from parking on the street outside your house.

That said, you have every right to park there, just as they had every right to park there when the space was free. It is unreasonable for them to keep asking you to move your car, just as it was unreasonable for you to keep asking them to move their legally parked van.

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I didn’t get the car to stop them from parking there. I bought it as a little runaround, so I’d have a backup if my main car ever needed to go into the garage (which it did recently for over a week, making it difficult to get around and commute to work). My friend was selling it for a really low price, so I figured it was a good deal.

The fact that it kept them from parking there and blocking my view was just a nice bonus. I only asked them once, not several times either like you suggested. And I didn’t say they couldn’t park there. I politely asked if they could swap it with one of their cars, which I thought was reasonable. They declined, and I didn’t bring it up again.

They, on the other hand, have asked me multiple times to move the car and got nasty when I said no.

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Easterbunnyishotandcross · 18/03/2026 14:41

Some housing estates have rules against work vehicles being parked at residential houses... Is it a sign written van? We reported vans sat idling where we lived previously and their boss made them park elsewhere..
Personally I'd hire a skip and add it to your vehicle list. Deny all knowledge... Pay up when it inevitably gets filled with other people's crap. Be worth it for a week of confusion!!

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 14:41

PurpleThistle7 · 18/03/2026 14:32

Yeah. Agree with this. Feels like you started this and now they're escalating it and really - everyone could have been better.

How did I escalate this? I bought a car as a backup and parked it outside my house. What if I had a partner who moved in and started parking there? Or a family member came to stay for 2 weeks? I don’t own the road, but neither do they.

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grizzlyoldbear · 18/03/2026 14:43

They sound awful.
Well done for standing up to bullies.

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 14:45

Easterbunnyishotandcross · 18/03/2026 14:41

Some housing estates have rules against work vehicles being parked at residential houses... Is it a sign written van? We reported vans sat idling where we lived previously and their boss made them park elsewhere..
Personally I'd hire a skip and add it to your vehicle list. Deny all knowledge... Pay up when it inevitably gets filled with other people's crap. Be worth it for a week of confusion!!

It is a sign written van, but I think it’s his own business unfortunately. That’s probably why they don’t care. I definitely won’t be recommending them to anyone though lol!

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babasaclover · 18/03/2026 14:46

@crispsbuttyyou have to admit you bought it to annoy them. No one has a spare car to use just in case 😂. That said if you’ve got footage of them throwing rubbish etc report them. That’s not on

Holdmybeermoment · 18/03/2026 14:46

They did nothing actually wrong parking there. You did nothing wrong asking them politely to move - that’s just normal neighbour chat and you left it when they said no.
You are also doing nothing wrong parking your own car on the road now, it’s public parking.

The only people doing anything wrong are them, with the way they are acting now. Asking more than once for you to move, and now intimidating you. Are your cameras catching them throwing rubbish into your garden?

Gamerlady · 18/03/2026 14:48

How petty and inconsiderate to park a van outside yours. Don't let them intimidate you, they have options park elsewhere. People are so entitled these days, stand firm

bigboykitty · 18/03/2026 14:50

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 14:38

I didn’t get the car to stop them from parking there. I bought it as a little runaround, so I’d have a backup if my main car ever needed to go into the garage (which it did recently for over a week, making it difficult to get around and commute to work). My friend was selling it for a really low price, so I figured it was a good deal.

The fact that it kept them from parking there and blocking my view was just a nice bonus. I only asked them once, not several times either like you suggested. And I didn’t say they couldn’t park there. I politely asked if they could swap it with one of their cars, which I thought was reasonable. They declined, and I didn’t bring it up again.

They, on the other hand, have asked me multiple times to move the car and got nasty when I said no.

But you unfortunately started that process by asking them to move their son's van which was parked perfectly legally on the street outside your house.

Holdmybeermoment · 18/03/2026 14:53

bigboykitty · 18/03/2026 14:50

But you unfortunately started that process by asking them to move their son's van which was parked perfectly legally on the street outside your house.

She asked once and then didn’t say anything else. Anyone who actually takes offence at that and starts an intimidation campaign is actually insane.

They said they could park there as it’s public highway. But so can anyone else. They can’t use “public highway for anyone” when it suits them but then intimated and harass someone else also using it perfectly legally.