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Neighbours trying to intimidate me over parking issues

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crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 13:59

I live on a small estate where each house has a driveway that can fit 2 cars. There’s also room on the street, so every house can accommodate at least 3 cars. The driveways are single file, which means people sometimes have to move their cars around, but that’s never really been an issue. Just for context, I live alone, so it’s a bit easier for me. I’ve been here for almost 7 years and was quite happy until recently when my lovely neighbours moved away in November. My new neighbours moved in, we introduced ourselves, exchanged greetings when we passed by, and everything seemed fine. However, things took a turn in January when their son (they’re a couple with a son in his 20s) got a transit van for work.

At first, they parked both their cars in the driveway and the van outside their house, swapping them around like everyone else. But a few weeks later, he started parking it outside mine. I figured it was just a one time thing and didn’t think much of it, but then he kept doing it every day, sometimes leaving it parked there for several days in a row. The thing is, my front garden is small, so the van ends up blocking my living room window, and honestly, it’s not great to look at every single day. I didn’t mind him parking there every now and then, but I thought it was a bit inconsiderate to do it all the time while leaving their own window empty. It also meant that my guests had to park further down the road and walk, when before they could park right outside. It’s a public road, so I never told them not to park there, but I did politely ask if they could switch it with one of their cars. They said no because the drive wasn’t wide enough for the van, and if they parked it in front of their house, they’d have to keep moving it to get the cars off the drive.

They were parking one car on the drive and one on the road, so they didn’t have to move either of them. I explained that it blocked my view and wasn’t pleasant to look at all the time, but they just repeated that it wasn’t possible to move it. There’s a small lay-by in the next street (you can see it from both our houses, and you walk through a little alley to get there) that isn’t in front of anyone’s house, so I asked if he could park the van there, but they said it wasn’t possible in case tools got stolen, etc, so that was that, and I never mentioned it up again.

Honestly, it bugged me for a bit and definitely soured the relationship, but there wasn't much I could do, so I just tried to ignore it. Then in February, my friend decided to sell her car. It’s an old Toyota Aygo and was very cheap, so I thought I'd grab it as a little runaround. I live up in the hills which can be a hassle, especially when my car is in the garage as the local bus only comes every two hours, making it difficult to get around and manage work. The car has an MOT until next year, it's taxed and insured, and I've been parking it outside my house. My main car is on the drive. I won’t lie, it was nice not having to see a big van every day too so that was definitely a bonus. A couple of weeks after I parked the car there, my neighbour asked if it was mine. I said yes, and asked if everything was okay. They brought up the van and mentioned it was difficult for them since they had nowhere else to park. I suggested the lay-by again or said they could park outside their own house (like everyone else), but they weren’t happy and asked me to put it on my drive since I wasn’t using it every day. I told them no, sorry, but they have space outside their own house, and I’m parking my car in the space outside mine. I probably could have been nicer about it, but they didn’t seem to care when they were blocking my front window and making it difficult for my guests, so I didn’t have much sympathy for them.

Since then, tensions have been high, and they’ve asked me several times to move my car. Now, they’ve started to block my driveway with their van (not completely blocking it, but the back end is hanging over, making it difficult to get in and out), tossing rubbish into my garden, and just generally being rude and trying to intimidate me. The last time I talked to them was on Saturday when they jokingly threatened to tow my car away (I have cameras at the front of my house). They were laughing but I could tell it was a threat. I doubt they would act this way if I had a partner.

Am I being unreasonable for saying that if they keep this up, I’ll call the police?

OP posts:
ClassicalQueen · 18/03/2026 18:39

I’m glad you have blocked the space outside your house with the car. The spaces don’t belong to anyone but it’s really cheeky to park a massive transit van (which IMO you shouldn’t be able to park in residential areas unless it’s on a driveway as they block the view) in front of your window whilst leaving their own free. Keep a log of all their behaviour and then report them for harassment.

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 18:44

SunnyRedSnail · 18/03/2026 18:07

And? It's a public road and if you have a window that is near a public road then people can and will park in front of it.

I live in a village with loads of pretty houses, but they're very close to the road, and always end up with cars/vans parked outside. That's life. It's expected if you have a property like that. I deliberately bought a not so pretty house but it does have plenty of parking! I used to live in a city and had to street park, and we often had vans parked next to our lounge window.

Edited

Okay? Have you missed the part where I said “it’s a public road, anyone can park there”? I never said they couldn’t park there, so I’m not entirely sure why you’re telling me this?

OP posts:
crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 18:44

NewBeginnings77 · 18/03/2026 18:36

Mumsnet every time there's a thread about parking : Buy a cheap runaround and park it in the disputed space/in a way to allow you to get out of the drive/whatever the situation is
OP: I've got a 2nd car and that suits my situation
Mumsnet: How very dare you!!

🙄

😂 very true!

OP posts:
IAmOphelia · 18/03/2026 18:49

NewBeginnings77 · 18/03/2026 18:36

Mumsnet every time there's a thread about parking : Buy a cheap runaround and park it in the disputed space/in a way to allow you to get out of the drive/whatever the situation is
OP: I've got a 2nd car and that suits my situation
Mumsnet: How very dare you!!

🙄

Totally agree!!

And OP I think you’re getting daft levels of heat here. I think your neighbours sound like absolute lazy twats and would rather ruin your view than shift their own stuff around.

I would have bought a spare car with utter glee that it forced them to deal with their own shit.

The responses here are fucking batshit but I think society has deteriorated to such an extent that people don’t give a flying fuck about how they impact others. Elbows out, me me me.

Good on you, don’t move the car, ever.

ElsieMc · 18/03/2026 18:50

Classics on Mumsnet indeed. Op posts about her selfish neighbour who parks a huge van across her window blocking her light and views. She puts her second vehicle there, next door have three. She is baited and derided for doing the self same thing as her neighbours who have now moved onto intimidation as they feel entitled to block her light and view and the space now belongs to them.

Yes it is a public road, but how many deriders on here would absolutely love a huge van parked daily within feet of their front room. Yes, of course you would. Not.

Bellablahhole · 18/03/2026 18:51

I don't drive, but could you park one of your cars in front on your windows, and one in front of their's? I'm a bugger when people piss me off!

BloominNora · 18/03/2026 18:55

Littlebitpsycho · 18/03/2026 16:32

@crispsbutty ignore everyone moaning about you buying a second car - you've explained why. Frankly I'd have done it simply to be petty - you didn't.

My partner and I have 5 cars between us, because why not? If we want them and they're legal then its nobody else's business.

If you have proof of their littering, I'd go and shove it up the exhaust of the van - but I probably wouldn't recommend that route!

"If you have proof of their littering, I'd go and shove it up the exhaust of the van - but I probably wouldn't recommend that route!"

Nah - I'd bag the rubbish up, print a still of them chucking the over gate and tape it to the bag along with a note saying "I believe this belongs to you" and leave it on their doorstep 😉

parkezvous · 18/03/2026 18:55

well done to you Op. keep that car there. Cheeky fuc*kers can park somewhere else! You’ve done nothing wrong.

BloominNora · 18/03/2026 18:57

Hillarious · 18/03/2026 18:18

I guess things started to escalate once the OP asked if the neighbour’s son could not park his van in a space where he was legally entitled to park. That just starts to sour a relationship with the neighbours and the subsequent parking of the spare car in that space just looks to be passive aggressive. The behaviour of the neighbours is just aggressive. Nothing seemingly passive about it at all. But the current situation is just the unintended consequence of the OP’s first unreasonable request about the van.

"I guess things started to escalate once the OP asked if the neighbour’s son could not park his van in a space where he was legally entitled to park."

She asked if they would mind swapping the parking of the van and a car around so that it did not block her light - she didn't ask them not to use the space at all. And asking a perfectly polite question and just going about your business when told no is not escalating anything!

NotThisShitAgain121 · 18/03/2026 19:00

I would follow through with this they are way out of line. It is your property not theirs. They would not allow you to do it to them so they should not do this to you.

WishingIwasyoungerandslimmer · 18/03/2026 19:07

Hillarious · 18/03/2026 18:18

I guess things started to escalate once the OP asked if the neighbour’s son could not park his van in a space where he was legally entitled to park. That just starts to sour a relationship with the neighbours and the subsequent parking of the spare car in that space just looks to be passive aggressive. The behaviour of the neighbours is just aggressive. Nothing seemingly passive about it at all. But the current situation is just the unintended consequence of the OP’s first unreasonable request about the van.

I have to disagree.

The OP stated if the neighbour occasionally parked his van outside her house it wouldn't be an issue.

However to park the van there every single day and to often leave it there for days on end is not okay. Especially when there is space outside your own house available.

But you think it is okay for the neighbour to not inconvenience themselves by having to move vehicles around, but instead the OP must be inconvenienced by being deprived of natural full light in her own home. To be perpetually in the shade so her neighbour doesn't have to be in the shade?

Those of you who have not experienced living in low light don't understand how that can affect your health.

Paleshelter · 18/03/2026 19:13

I feel for you OP, I've had parking issues where I used to live, it's a nightmare.
They obviously thought they could do what they like, parking the large van in front of your window, now they are raging that they can't because of your other car.
I would be telling them that if they block your driveway so that you can't get in or out, you will be be contacting the council or police to get it moved. They would get presented with a bill.
Do you have any male relatives or friends who could hang about for a bit?
Unfortunately it's true they wouldn't be doing this if a man was about.
My mother's new neighbour has a large works van he would park on the street outside her window. She lives alone but when we visited we couldn't get parked outside the house.
She asked him to move it , he made his driveway bigger so it could take the van and another car.

YepItsAnotherOne · 18/03/2026 19:20

I swear, this place gets more and more mental. The amount of times I’ve seen posters advising an OP to buy a cheap runaround in exactly these parking situations… then when it does happen (and OP didn’t even buy it for that purpose) everyone is up in arms!

OP, I say fair play. They’re dickheads and I’m delighted you now have light in your sitting room, looking at that out your window every day would be horrible, particularly when you know they could park it outside their own window… but don’t want to block their own light and view!

Keep a log and download the footage of every incidence of littering, blocking your drive etc and report them.

And for what it’s worth, my family also have a spare car. My parents keep it at their house and any of the 5 of us can use it when needed. Each take turns doing the MOT and it’s come in handy on lots of occasions over the last 4 years.

Calendulaaria · 18/03/2026 19:24

My neighbours are bullies and I'm on my own with two children. I wish I had gone to the police earlier and not been so intimidated. Keep a log of any threatening behaviour and go to the police as soon as possible. I let mine go on until my house was broken into and nails put in my car tires...all because I was worried if I went to police, things would get worse.

dentalflosser · 18/03/2026 19:31

YANBU OP, having read the full thread I don’t understand the pearl clutching outrage from some previous posters.
Your neighbours have their own drive with two parking spaces on it for their own two cars and they have a parking space on the road outside their house which they are free to use too. They don’t want THEIR view blocked but are happy for you to have to stare at their van outside your home.
We have a spare car and bloody needed it when my car broke down and needed a fortune spending on it to get it back on the road and I had to save up for months to have the work done. Without the spare car I would have struggled with the school run as we live a considerable distance away, plus being able to get to work so it is handy to have a back up plan.
If your neighbours want to begin with threats of towing your car (which is taxed, MOT’d and insured on a public road) away then they can jog on. If they want to throw litter in your garden then you get it all on film.
Get cameras for inside both your cars, plus decent cctv at the front of your house which record sound as well as movement and I highly recommend having a well built gentleman visit for a few days who can wash and polish the car outside your house, perhaps spend some time tinkering under the bonnet, plus a few loud fake phone calls to members of a local biker gang chapter wouldn’t go amiss either!
It is your money you are spending on both cars, you are entitled to do as you wish with it. Your neighbours aren’t being prevented at all from parking on their own drive or outside their own home. They have chosen to make an issue about it and it is of their own making.
There was a recent thread about a village situation where the poster’s husband was parking NOT outside his home but a distance away so as not to piss off the neighbours and the poster was getting vile verbal abuse from people in the village as some people in the village didn’t want a van parked out of the way on a road nowhere near houses or harming anyone. Posters were defending the OP (quite rightly too!) whereas you have had a lot of snarky comments. I just don’t get Mumsnet sometimes!!

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 18/03/2026 19:35

Who cares if it's petty? Good on you OP. They purposely parked the van in front of your house to not block their own window.
If they say anything again I'd simply reiterate that they can easily park the van in front of their own house and if that's a problem for them then fucking tough, it's a them problem. I'd also tell them to go fuck themselves but I have very little patience for shit like this and intimidation attempts wind me off the fucking dial.

ChristmasChroniclesBookFairie · 18/03/2026 19:39

I salute you OP!

Neighbours sound like twats and boo hoo they can’t block your view anymore when they are clearly unwilling to block their own 🙄.

Just take care to log every interaction and gather evidence. Ideally record it all with sound!

Easterbunnyishotandcross · 18/03/2026 19:46

Is he ever parked on the path?

FizzingAda · 18/03/2026 19:46

We once lived in a small cottage with a small front garden, and the lounge was at the front with one window. The guy next door but one got a job driving an artic lorry, and brought it home every weekend, and parked it across our house and the next door one, which blocked the light out completely. So I sympathise

DreamyRedMoose · 18/03/2026 19:49

I would have got a cheap car to purposely leave it there and never move it...yes anyone can park on the roads but in a situation like that it's about common decency and respect...
Well done..never move that car..

givemesteel · 18/03/2026 20:15

OP you have actually inspired me to buy a crap car which I will never drive and park it to the left of my drive as I live very close to a popular high road and am so sick of people parking partially over my drive to access it. It would be worth £30 a month to avoid that agro.

Ohfudgeoff · 18/03/2026 20:23

Happyjoe · 18/03/2026 14:57

If I could afford it I would've got another car, just so I don't get a view and blocked daylight of a van that sits there for days at a time. They are entitled to do what they want, hey, so is everyone else.

Of course. Doesn't stop it being lazy though if you get one "for a run around" because you may or may not need it for one week.

YepItsAnotherOne · 18/03/2026 20:25

Ohfudgeoff · 18/03/2026 20:23

Of course. Doesn't stop it being lazy though if you get one "for a run around" because you may or may not need it for one week.

How is that lazy exactly?

Whacker · 18/03/2026 20:26

Your neighbours are dicks. No one wants to look at a large white van outside their living room window including the van owner next door! the absolute cf of it parking outside the single woman’s house when they have space outside their own house and trying to intimidate you, what awful people.

LunchtimeIllusion · 18/03/2026 20:36

Keep parking your car in front of your house, and keep a log of everything. Do you have any footage of them throwing rubbish into your garden?

I also have a spare car. If you live somewhere without decent public transport, need a car to go about your daily life, and can afford to run an extra car then it’s absolutely worth it.