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Neighbours trying to intimidate me over parking issues

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crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 13:59

I live on a small estate where each house has a driveway that can fit 2 cars. There’s also room on the street, so every house can accommodate at least 3 cars. The driveways are single file, which means people sometimes have to move their cars around, but that’s never really been an issue. Just for context, I live alone, so it’s a bit easier for me. I’ve been here for almost 7 years and was quite happy until recently when my lovely neighbours moved away in November. My new neighbours moved in, we introduced ourselves, exchanged greetings when we passed by, and everything seemed fine. However, things took a turn in January when their son (they’re a couple with a son in his 20s) got a transit van for work.

At first, they parked both their cars in the driveway and the van outside their house, swapping them around like everyone else. But a few weeks later, he started parking it outside mine. I figured it was just a one time thing and didn’t think much of it, but then he kept doing it every day, sometimes leaving it parked there for several days in a row. The thing is, my front garden is small, so the van ends up blocking my living room window, and honestly, it’s not great to look at every single day. I didn’t mind him parking there every now and then, but I thought it was a bit inconsiderate to do it all the time while leaving their own window empty. It also meant that my guests had to park further down the road and walk, when before they could park right outside. It’s a public road, so I never told them not to park there, but I did politely ask if they could switch it with one of their cars. They said no because the drive wasn’t wide enough for the van, and if they parked it in front of their house, they’d have to keep moving it to get the cars off the drive.

They were parking one car on the drive and one on the road, so they didn’t have to move either of them. I explained that it blocked my view and wasn’t pleasant to look at all the time, but they just repeated that it wasn’t possible to move it. There’s a small lay-by in the next street (you can see it from both our houses, and you walk through a little alley to get there) that isn’t in front of anyone’s house, so I asked if he could park the van there, but they said it wasn’t possible in case tools got stolen, etc, so that was that, and I never mentioned it up again.

Honestly, it bugged me for a bit and definitely soured the relationship, but there wasn't much I could do, so I just tried to ignore it. Then in February, my friend decided to sell her car. It’s an old Toyota Aygo and was very cheap, so I thought I'd grab it as a little runaround. I live up in the hills which can be a hassle, especially when my car is in the garage as the local bus only comes every two hours, making it difficult to get around and manage work. The car has an MOT until next year, it's taxed and insured, and I've been parking it outside my house. My main car is on the drive. I won’t lie, it was nice not having to see a big van every day too so that was definitely a bonus. A couple of weeks after I parked the car there, my neighbour asked if it was mine. I said yes, and asked if everything was okay. They brought up the van and mentioned it was difficult for them since they had nowhere else to park. I suggested the lay-by again or said they could park outside their own house (like everyone else), but they weren’t happy and asked me to put it on my drive since I wasn’t using it every day. I told them no, sorry, but they have space outside their own house, and I’m parking my car in the space outside mine. I probably could have been nicer about it, but they didn’t seem to care when they were blocking my front window and making it difficult for my guests, so I didn’t have much sympathy for them.

Since then, tensions have been high, and they’ve asked me several times to move my car. Now, they’ve started to block my driveway with their van (not completely blocking it, but the back end is hanging over, making it difficult to get in and out), tossing rubbish into my garden, and just generally being rude and trying to intimidate me. The last time I talked to them was on Saturday when they jokingly threatened to tow my car away (I have cameras at the front of my house). They were laughing but I could tell it was a threat. I doubt they would act this way if I had a partner.

Am I being unreasonable for saying that if they keep this up, I’ll call the police?

OP posts:
Oxo01 · 18/03/2026 20:38

There was a post very similar to this not long ago.
Have you posted about this recently before you bought the 2nd car ?

VoiceFromThePit · 18/03/2026 20:47

I’d like to suggest you park both your cars on the street and keep your driveway clear. That’s what I would do if anyone tried intimidating me.

You were unreasonable about them parking their van outside your window though, but they are unreasonable about you parking your cars.

Sometimessmiling · 19/03/2026 18:18

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 14:16

Thank you that's a great idea. I've told them multiple times that the car is allowed to be parked on the road, but they just keep rambling on about the van. They could easily shift the van if they want to get the cars off the driveway (like everyone else has to) but they won't. It's really just laziness.

I would consult the police now. Just to make sure they are aware in case of further escalation

TanquerayTickles · 19/03/2026 18:40

Well done, OP. I know you didn't buy the 2nd car to be petty, but I would absobloodylutely be that bloody petty if it were me.

I once parked outside a neighbour's house for 3 days because he was a parking twat. The house opposite me was having its drive done; it was 4pm, and I couldn't park outside my house because a truck was in the road outside theirs, so I parked around the side of my house legally, outside a neighbour's, for what would have been an hour tops. He came straight outside and stroppily asked me what I was doing, and why I was parking there, and that I would have to move. I did move, 3 days later, dick 😅

If you have them on camera being anti-social, record it with 101/police and see what they say. Stay strong!

TwinklySquid · 19/03/2026 19:25

If they are blocking your drive, you can call the council. I’ve done it and they had someone out in an hour and they got a fine.
The person had the cheek to ask why I didn’t come and tell them to move. I had no idea who they were and which house they were in.

Buffs · 19/03/2026 19:28

crispsbutty · 18/03/2026 15:44

Thank you. I've got cameras set up at the front of the house already that recorded them tossing the rubbish over. I knew it was them even before I looked at the camera as it was right by the fence on my side and there was no wind on those days.

Okay, well done for having cameras, keep that video of them throwing rubbish into your garden and log all their bad behaviour. Can your neighbours see your cameras? I would have thought they would act as a deterrent.

Maray1967 · 19/03/2026 19:51

OriginalSkang · 18/03/2026 15:08

Maybe just sell the car you don't need and let them continue to legally park wherever they like?

Seriously? They started this by parking outside OP’s house when they could have parked outside their own house. She is entitled to buy a second vehicle and park it outside her own house!

Just chuck the rubbish back into their garden. Every time.

RawBloomers · 19/03/2026 21:33

I think people pay a lot more than a cheap car and 500 quid a year for a nice view, so even if OP had bought the car so she could keep her view most of the time, I think that’s probably pretty good value.

Cailleach1 · 19/03/2026 21:47

They sound like horrible bullies, op. You asked once for a more considerate vehicle outside your house, and accepted they had a right to park there. You can also park on the road outside your house.

They don’t like it back at them. It is bordering on a harassment campaign now. Must be so stressful, even if you are thick skinned.

Airyfairy77 · 19/03/2026 23:10

WallaceinAnderland · 18/03/2026 14:03

I live on a small estate where each house has a driveway that can fit 2 cars. There’s also room on the street, so every house can accommodate at least 3 cars.

No, the spaces on the street don't belong to anyone.

One house could park all of their vehicles on the street if they wanted to.

That’s not what op is saying, she’s happy for them to park one of their cars there but not the van as it blocks her view and isn’t pleasant to look at. I had a similar issue, when I moved into my house 20 years ago. The day I moved in family were helping me so we parked the van in the drive and my mums car on the street outside my house (about 2 metres from front of house, very small front garden, no fence) so we could unload everything. Within half and hour the neighbours knocked to say how long were we parking there as that is where they parked their car (they’d been out when we arrived and their house had no drive) I was a bit taken aback (no ‘hi, welcome to the street!) so mumbled that we were just unloading and then we’d move it. Anyway from then on they made it clear it was their space and as I had the drive it didn’t really bother me, I just thought it was a bit rude. They also had a very large work van/small lorry which they parked on the main road (we were in a cul de sac of 8) A year or so after I moved in they went on holiday for 2 weeks and so that no one took ‘their place’ they left the bloody great big van thing right outside my lounge window! It blocked the light in my lounge and all I could see for 2 weeks was that bloody thing!!
When they got back I went straight out and said ‘I don’t care if you park the car there but I don’t want to look outside my window and only see your bloody van for 2 solid weeks!’ Some people are just entitled. It wasn’t ‘their space’ but woe betide if anyone else parked there!!

SomeOtherUser · 20/03/2026 08:04

You're being unreasonable for pretending you got the small car for any genuine reason other than to block the space. Own it!

I don't understand why they couldn't park in front of their house? If they have a space outside theirs that would work just as well, I can see why you would have been pissed off.

crispsbutty · 20/03/2026 12:44

SomeOtherUser · 20/03/2026 08:04

You're being unreasonable for pretending you got the small car for any genuine reason other than to block the space. Own it!

I don't understand why they couldn't park in front of their house? If they have a space outside theirs that would work just as well, I can see why you would have been pissed off.

I really don’t understand why you and others keep saying own it, tell the truth, etc.

I’ve explained several times why I bought the car. I’m a pretty honest and straightforward person, which is why I asked the neighbours if they could move the van in the first place instead of beating around the bush. If I had bought the car to project my view or whatever, I’d have no issue admitting that. In fact, I’d be happy to admit it, because they’re arseholes. But that’s not the case. Like someone mentioned earlier, so what if I did? It’s not illegal to buy a second car, after all. As I mentioned, that wasn’t my reason for buying it though, but it was definitely a bonus that they couldn’t park the van there anymore.

I couldn’t care less if anyone believes me.

OP posts:
CosyBungalow · 20/03/2026 12:58

Surely there can't be 2 of you OP...?

Neighbours trying to intimidate me over parking issues
WhatSharonSaidNext · 20/03/2026 20:31

crispsbutty · 20/03/2026 12:44

I really don’t understand why you and others keep saying own it, tell the truth, etc.

I’ve explained several times why I bought the car. I’m a pretty honest and straightforward person, which is why I asked the neighbours if they could move the van in the first place instead of beating around the bush. If I had bought the car to project my view or whatever, I’d have no issue admitting that. In fact, I’d be happy to admit it, because they’re arseholes. But that’s not the case. Like someone mentioned earlier, so what if I did? It’s not illegal to buy a second car, after all. As I mentioned, that wasn’t my reason for buying it though, but it was definitely a bonus that they couldn’t park the van there anymore.

I couldn’t care less if anyone believes me.

Maybe it’s because we can see through you?

gillefc82 · 20/03/2026 21:26

crispsbutty · 20/03/2026 12:44

I really don’t understand why you and others keep saying own it, tell the truth, etc.

I’ve explained several times why I bought the car. I’m a pretty honest and straightforward person, which is why I asked the neighbours if they could move the van in the first place instead of beating around the bush. If I had bought the car to project my view or whatever, I’d have no issue admitting that. In fact, I’d be happy to admit it, because they’re arseholes. But that’s not the case. Like someone mentioned earlier, so what if I did? It’s not illegal to buy a second car, after all. As I mentioned, that wasn’t my reason for buying it though, but it was definitely a bonus that they couldn’t park the van there anymore.

I couldn’t care less if anyone believes me.

Perhaps it due to the fact that, despite you having a driveway that can comfortably accommodate both vehicles, alongside your clarification that the ‘spare’ car will only need to be used very occasionally (if your or your Mum’s primary cars are in the garage for repairs) so parking said vehicle at the rear of your single file driveway would cause no disruption/inconvenience to you or any neighbours, you’ve made the deliberate choice to park the spare car on the road, in the spot you know your neighbours have been using for the van.

Yes, you’re perfectly entitled to park the car there. No, I don’t in anyway condone their actions since. But you’re trying to kid a kidder if you’re attempting to claim you weren’t expecting your choice to elicit some kind of reaction from your neighbours. As a petty potato myself, I really do applaud you. But please just put your hands up and own the fact that you’ve chosen to park it where you have, precisely to make a point and to get one over on them.

rollerblind · 20/03/2026 22:00

Unlucky to them. Keep the car. They shouldn’t have been so unreasonable and are probably kicking themselves now

Alwaysontherun · 20/03/2026 22:20

For all of you asking who buys a second car for when their car is in the garage my dad does exactly that and it’s there for anyone in the family who needs it and it’s great! OP even if you had bought a second car to ‘preserve your view’ that’s your choice and to be honest I think it would be pretty epic. You have been reasonable with your neighbours asking if they would mind swapping the van with one of their cars and they are the ones that are being totally unreasonable by not doing the neighbourly thing and parking the more obstructive vehicle in front of their own home. As for the harassment, keep a note and if it continues contact the police and report it, especially if you have evidence caught on camera.

Oxo01 · 21/03/2026 13:21

CosyBungalow · 20/03/2026 12:58

Surely there can't be 2 of you OP...?

Snap
That's what I asked ealier up thread
It sounded very familiar but she had not bought the car yet I think.

CosyBungalow · 21/03/2026 14:07

Oxo01 · 21/03/2026 13:21

Snap
That's what I asked ealier up thread
It sounded very familiar but she had not bought the car yet I think.

But the quote i posted was only posted on 18th March 2026.. so 3 days ago - the same time frame as this thread started ..

Oxo01 · 21/03/2026 15:41

Oh this is the one i thought was similar
Neighbours being funny over parking
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seabrooks1945 · 04/03/2026 12:48

Gossipisgood · 24/03/2026 13:12

Keep parking one or other of your cars in the spot. If they block your drive making it hard to get out, knock on them, smile & ask politely if they can move their van so you can get out. Thank them & walk away. Keep being nice, it'll drive them mad if they think they're not getting to you. Any rubbish you see them throw in your garden, either throw it back to theirs or knock on again & hand it over saying you noticed on your camera it belonged to them so you're returning it. It's all a bit petty but it shows they're not getting a reaction from you & they aren't intimidating you. If it carries on or they get aggressive ask a male friend to accompany you to go chat to them. You do the talking though so they know you can hold your own, you just have someone else with you as back up to have your back. If it gets really bad report them to the Council for fly tipping or obstruction & ask them to put a single white line across your driveway to prevent parking over it or opposite it. Get in touch with the company the neighbour works for letting them know one of their vehicles is being used as an obstruction making it difficult to get on your property.

Jaxhog · 24/03/2026 13:22

If the Op wants to park a spare car outside her house - so what? Even if she did it to stop having a big van outside her window. She is entitled to do this if she wants to. I think I would too. Her neighbours are only miffed because because the van now inconveniences them, which seems fair seeing as its their van.

BTW, many people have a spare car - we do.

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