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to be getting irate at friends with adult DC who do not work?

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goldenteapot · 17/03/2026 09:39

My DC are in their mid-late 20s and all in work - but are the exception among family and friends. They have around 12 cousins - none of whom have ever worked in so much as a local pub or shop, and all live in their parents' naice houses gaming all day. Lots have one or two degrees, so are not stupid by any means! I think statistically about 50% of young adults of this age that are not working - but among my family and friends it's very much higher.

It's a similar story with friends: every adult child is depressed or anxious and/or autistic so cannot work. The assumption seems to be that the jobs market is too difficult and their children can't cope. Conversation when we meet is all about how frustrated everyone is because they can't get their DC to work or do anything around the house.

I just want to shake them all! They are providing no tough love or reasons that these children will ever work and live independently.

AIBU to be losing my patience with everyone, or am I a bit of a bitch and working life really is too tough these days for young people?

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brassbellsandcockleshells · 25/03/2026 14:15

ruethewhirl · 25/03/2026 12:25

If you employ staff, are you paying them enough to live on?

I'm a sole trader so that doesn't apply to me.

However, colleagues that do employ staff, pay over the NMWage. For some of them, thanks to Rachel Reeves, they have seen their NI contribution go up by 15%.
Rather than cut the pay of loyal, hardworking staff, they choose to employ fewer staff.
Small businesses are not responsible for peoples' lifestyles & budgets.

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