AIBU to think everyone has become boring?

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LilacHedgehog123 · 16/03/2026 16:07

Does being mid to late forties mean you have to be boring?

I used to have such a laugh with my mates but these days all they talk about is peri-menopause and laundry! One has to be home by 9 as they're tired and another 2 have given up alcohol. They say they'll have just as good a time drinking water. I know you can have a great night out sober, I've done it many times. But it's not the same though is it? I miss getting tipsy and giggling about silly things until late. Yes we can all have a good laugh sober, obviously. But it's not the SAME. I just really miss those nights out where we're silly and we embarrass ourselves and we laugh until we cry. But everyone else seems to have forgotten. It's WORTH the hangover and the being tired. It's not every day, it's just once every few months!

I've started binning them off and going out with work friends instead as they're so much more fun. I will always be there for my friends don't get me wrong, but when I want a night out, I want to go OUT OUT.

Does anyone else feel the same? When did having responsibilities mean you can't (very occasionally) be silly / stay up too late / be spontaneous? :(

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FadingSpendour · 28/03/2026 06:30

ChocolateBasket · 18/03/2026 19:21

I know what you mean.

I'm sort of living life the wrong way round. As a teenager I barely had any confidence, friends and barely drank. It wasn't until my late 20s I discovered wine and then I had my daughter.

Now I'm in my late 30s I want to go clubbing, travelling, have a laugh. But yea, alot of my friends don't want to.

I find people who don't drink quite boring personally. I get why they don't drink, honestly, but for me, a good time is having a few drinks, getting tipsy, belly laughing and dancing/karaoke. None of them want to do it anymore. They don't want to drink and go to bed early. Urgh.

Sorry but it's just how I feel.

Do you think people can’t have belly laughs or dance without alcohol?!

Thechaseison71 · 28/03/2026 11:21

Lavender14 · 27/03/2026 19:43

It may not be the case for many but it also is the case for many and we don't know what category ops friends fall into. Especially given that the average age to have a first child is around 35 nowadays it's much more common to be juggling a young family in your 40s.

"You know it's actually possible to go out have a COUPLE of drinks and a good time." Yes of course I know that but that's not what op has said here. She's said she feels the nights are "worth the hangover the next day" and she misses having too many drinks with her friends and making eejits out of themselves. That's not just going out for one or two and having a giggle. And even if they have kids that aren't young young, maybe older primary, a lot of parents spend sat and sun mornings ferrying kids about to sports clubs or parties or playdates and life is flipping busy. Never mind adding in things like caring responsibilities for ageing parents. I just think a lot of people in that age bracket are finding themselves with a lot of responsibilities and sometimes it's when you're out with friends you feel you have a bit of a support network to talk about these things because all the rest of the time you're just getting on with them. I just think it's a bit of a life stage thing. Then as you say when kids are older etc it can become a bit easier again, maybe there's more disposable income about as well.

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The average age is 29.4 for a first baby ( 31 in general) so by the time you are mud 40s the child would be well into secondary school age. And should be old enough to take themselves places without being ferried around

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