4 children, no happy Mother’s Day

[bytheway9]

Just feeling a bit unappreciated about that.
Usually I get a card or some flowers which dh would have bought with them and always make the effort for Father’s Day but this year nothing.
I thought one of them might have uttered the words Happy Mother’s Day.

“Hi Mum, what would you like to do for Mother’s Day?” easy, no minefield..

Yes, but OP's daughter did that and got 4 sides of A4 instructions and OP has decided, as her dictat wasn't scrupulously followed, to show her daughter the error of her ways by buying extra provisions and expect them to be utilised.
I don't what OP thought should happen to the perfectly reasonable food her daughter and husband bought (landfill ?) but as she hasn't got the spine to come back and engage it's all a bit immaterial.

Excuse me?

That's a different poster on a different thread.

I think you're mistaking @bytheway9 for the deranged woman who was outraged by sandwiches from M& S so went out to buy alternative stuff for sandwiches to undermine her 13 year old.

It is if they are dead, or your estrangement or your a mum whose child has passed.

Who says it's mother's day anyway, who decided?
Why did people follow like sheep?

Huge apologies. As another poster has said, I got my OPs muddled.
I hang my head in shame
😳😥

You can’t google the history of Mothering Sunday?

Thanks, I've apologised to this OP.
You're right the other OP is the one who is deranged 😉

This is really shitty OP. I actually thought they must be planning a surprise so were hamming up the bad behaviour. I would sit them app down and say you feel hurt and unappreciated. Hopefully they will plan to make it up to you.

Oh yeah, it is, because many mothers are offended if you ask. My mum always complained that she had to spell it out to me and my father, we were supposed to 'know'.

My 3 children have never said happy mothers day they are now 16_12 and 8 i have give up on expecting anything not even a spoken happy mothers day.
I have always been a single parent and its upsetting to think i cant get a message of them or a thankyou not even once a year. If you dont expect anything it is probably a nice supprise if you do get a thankyou.

As others have suggested, I would say how upset you are and then plan a lovely day for myself. Go out for a walk, visit a garden centre, anything to get you away from the house. Down tools and see what happens. I would not be happy at all. What is DH doing, whilst your children are expecting to be waited on?

I have always dictated mothers day. I expect my partner to get some cheap nonsense to wrap and cards for the kids to write and I say that early on. My partner is a woman so I do similar for her too. Our kids are 11 and 9. My 22 year old decides for herself. We dont spend much-its all about feeling a bit special thats all. I love all 3 of them hugging on my bed with me in the morning. They also make cards at school. My wife made me breakfast and bought in the younger 2 to give it to me (wife is stepmum). I think you could blame your partner but in reality sometimes you have to be really clear about expectations if they are not the romantic/thoughtful type. Birthdays I never ask for anything but I do arrange possible celebrations unless my wife has her own idea!

Treat yourself to a Sunday off next week. Book a beauty treatment, go for a nice child free lunch or go and watch a film in peace. And in future make your own plans for Mother’s Day - you know you’re a good mum and how much you deserve a treat so reward yourself.

You definitely mustn't do anything for Father's Day. In fact, you should plan a day out/weekend away with your friends or family and leave your husband to reap the rewards of doing nothing about Mother's Day.

But do they show their appreciation at other times?