AIBU to think our 18 year olds should work instead of wasting away weekends?

[Roxen]

First of all, I know they are 18 so I have no control over this, it’s more about the debate between DH and I.

DH and I have twins who are 18, in their last year of school, they are doing IB diploma so it’s quite intense, has a lot involved in it, exams start at the end of April and run through May.

We agreed to neither of them having part time jobs as between their studies and the extra things they have to do they wouldn’t have time. However this weekend I’m feeling quite annoyed about that, as neither of them are going to do anything remotely related to school.

Last night they went to a friends birthday party, got home at about 2am, they then along with DD sat up for the F1 sprint race. Went to sleep for a few hours woke back up for qualifying and went to sleep again afterwards. Now they have all gone to the pub where they will stay all day for the 6 nations matches. DD has said when she gets home she will watch the Indian wells tennis semi-finals, before going to sleep and waking up for the F1 tomorrow. They then all have tickets for a football game tomorrow, before going out for dinner with school friends.

I think this is a stupid amount of time to spend doing very little over a whole weekend, I don’t really enjoy watching sports but my kids do and I increasingly feel it takes up all of their time. DH thinks it’s fine, it’s culture and they can study another weekend. I think if they have the time to waste a weekend away in front of the TV, they have time to take on a part time job.

AIBU?

You dont have to have a pt job to learn a work ethic.

Let 18-year-olds have some fun. They'll be working for the rest of their lives.

There absolutely are not loads of part time jobs. My daughter has applied for hundreds since becoming a student and she has worked part time for 3 years and full time for 3 years prior to that.

Those right bastards OP, having a bit of fun! How very dare they 😄.

Seriously, work life balance is so important. You need to find time to enjoy life as well as all the hard work.

where on earth do you live?

You have no way of proving you have a solid work ethic without a part time job on your cv.

Same we are in the south west and every teen I know has had a job since they were 16.

My 16yo nephew has just got a job at Macdonalds, he had to apply a few times but got there in the end.

High grades/ a 1st should be enough proof of work ethic. A job for money just proves you have expensive tastes.

Yes u do.
Such an ignorant narrow minded comment.

What about young carers, or those who volunteer or who take part in high level sports/music/dance, that all shows a strong work ethic.