To be upset over ruined photo shoot?

[iamjustgutted]

Gutted about this.

I spent admittedly far too much on a Mother’s Day photo shoot. Had it today and was awful. Kids not playing ball at all; ds wild and charging around like a complete lunatic, dd whiny and refusing to do anything she was asked.

I know it’s just kids etc but I can’t lie; I’m gutted.

Do you think perhaps the fact that OP's own mum has died might be a significant part of why mothers' day will be depressing for her? Like could we try, really hard, to just find an ounce of empathy and tact here?

No, I don't think that was the implication at all actually.

Someone mentioned the loss of the OP's own mother and she thanked them and said "it was a very long time ago now and I’m over it".

So no, I don't think that's what she was referring to at all. I think she's directly referring to Mother's Day being depressing because she didn't get the photos she wanted, which seems excessive. I have lost one of my parents relatively young, so I'm not unsympathetic to how difficult the day can be.

I think what I wrote was quite balanced and fair. It can be a bit disappointing not to get the exact photos you wanted - and I acknowledged that - but that's just parenting; not all children can be commanded to pose beautifully for the camera. I do understand exactly what that's like for the reasons I outlined. Sometimes you do just need to make the most of the hand you're dealt. And I bet there will be some lovely photos, even if they weren't the OP envisaged originally.

And I still don't think there was any call for the OP to have been quite so rude to some of the PP who were genuinely trying to be kind.

I did photo shoots with DC and I think it greatly depends on the photographer. Some were amazing and one was totally meh.

I'm sorry you lost your own mother young - but surely this would reinforce the importance of genuinely happy times together rather than staged photographs? Memories are so much more important.

I don't think you were being patronising.

Hopefully the photographer was capturing photos constantly and will have done some when you were not posing.

More focused on how things look than how life actually is, it sounds.

Nothing shows the “love and bond” between you and your son more than you forcing him to look picture perfect when he doesn’t want to, I guess. That’s not a love and bond that’s you forcing your son to do something he doesn’t want to do because YOU want to do it.

For gods sake get a grip. You had a disaster of a photo shoot, so what?

Perfect time for the “Kim, people are dying” meme. You haven’t lost your children. It’s not a big deal. You need help if you’re having this much of a reaction to a photo shoot.

They’d be staged even if they had turned out nice, what would they really show other than you forcing your children to be people they’re not? Doesn’t capture anything about who your children are.

Your reaction just proves this was more about you looking like you have the perfect family than anything.

Yep, wasn’t patronising at all. OP posted on an advice forum and kicked off at anyone offering advice because she didn’t get the sympathy she wanted. Nobody should be feeling bad for their comments here.

Agreed. OP sounded self-indulgent and drunk.

Once they are edited and put together hopefully you might have a few nice ones if not try a more casual outdoor shoot they do them in nature reserves and flower fields near us this might work.

I’m late to the party but I reckon that when the photos were received… the OP ended up loving them!