To be upset over ruined photo shoot?

[iamjustgutted]

Gutted about this.

I spent admittedly far too much on a Mother’s Day photo shoot. Had it today and was awful. Kids not playing ball at all; ds wild and charging around like a complete lunatic, dd whiny and refusing to do anything she was asked.

I know it’s just kids etc but I can’t lie; I’m gutted.

See my further comment 🙂

I have lost count of the number of times that I have said they were not what I wanted; they were posed and strained which is the opposite of what I’d hoped they would be. I did see some though before editing admittedly but you can’t edit out a strained grimace of a smile or kids not even looking at you.

With photoshop you can do anything now.

But you would know it's photoshopped and not real.

I'm not sure what the point of it would be?

It's like that advert when your phone allows you to insert yourself into a picture with others. It's not the same as actually having that moment together.

Well surely planned photoshoots arent natural either.

How’s your Mother’s Day gone @iamjustgutted ? Did DH do anything to try to get you out of this slump about the photos?

Ohhh I’m sad for you OP, and don’t think you deserve some of the comments here. I’d be feeling the same so I’m sending you a hug. I have a posed photoshoot of just my kids every Christmas because I love seeing how they’e grown and one year they were all a bit crap 🤣

When my second was born we had a family photoshoot in a studio, but the family shots were disappointing and quite forced by the photographer. Also I felt and looked like crap. Fast forward 5 years and we had another longer, outdoors shoot and the photographer just got the kids and us and we have some stunning photos from it. Suppose what I’m trying to say is there will always be times when the kids don’t play ball and it can be really rubbish and disappointing 🥺 hopefully there will be a couple you like and you can plan / save for another in the future which will hopefully be better!

The Sisterhood can be fickle when there isn’t a man to blame :-)

I can understand you’re sad now, but you’ll remember that photoshoot for life. I’m time, you’ll laugh about it.

Hope you have had a better day today OP. I have my fingers crossed that there is something salvageable from the shoot but I don’t blame you for being disappointed.

I remember once I was on holiday with my children, lively holiday with waterparks and days out. During the holiday was my birthday and for some unknown reason each of my three children choose that particular day to be a horrid brat. I remember feeling so confused and disappointed so I can kind of imagine how upset you are feeling when for one day it was supposed to be something nice for you.

My children are usually fine and lovely btw, no idea what got into them that day.

Put them up for adoption. 😉

Hahahaha! No, I bet those DS ones will be great and you’ll all have a good laugh at them. Just maybe not today x

Order a tripod with a remote for your phone (cheap on Amazon) and set it up in your house, garden, etc to capture non staged photos of you interacting with your children. We have some that I love of me and DS gardening together, and cooking together.

Ah don't worry, sometimes it just doesn't go your way, my baby slept through one of mine, took his clothes off and everything to try and wake him, just slept through the whole thing 🤣

Try again next year! xx

dear @iamjustgutted, I'm so sorry you were disappointed and I'm also very sorry that many of the posters on here have not seen your point or been on-side with you.
It was a disappointment. It matters to you. I get that.
Additionally, hovering in the background, I'm feeling a "lack" from DH. You say he's away a lot? Does he understand where you're coming from on this?

I've read all your responses, but not every answer on this thread, so maybe I've missed it: did anyone pick up how disregarded you're feeling?

Or understanding the "gap" that not having many photos of you with your mum, due to her early death.
I have very few photos of my childhood. Last one of my dad was taken when I was about 6 - 7yrs old (died when I was 12). Don't think I have a single one of me actually WITH my mum (died when I was 30).

I made sure I took a lot of my DD when she was little.
Now we have terrific lenses on our mobile phones, I have stacks of her and the DGS.

Perhaps you need to "tee up" your DH to be ready to take photos on his phone when "daily life is happening" between you and your DS?

Would DH be able to understand how important it is for you for those informal, happy, loving, spontaneous moments to be captured? It's not a difficult concept. If DH doesn't get it, well, then that's pointing towards a different/deeper problem, isn't it?

Also, we had a similar experience with a photo shot in the woods with our children. DS refused to take off his jacket, smile, and cried almost the whole time. We did end up with two wonderful photos that I was surprised the photographer was able to capture. They are hanging on our walls now. It’s very possible that there will be one or two photographs that you’ll like.

Don't write it off until you've seen the photos! I've have multiple professional photoshoots for my kids and there have been many times where I've been worried it was awful and the photographer (if they're worth their fees) always manages to capture lovely shots of them!

Dear ne. Just sounds like another idea to monertze a special day for the sillyand the gullible. Has this come over from Ameica?

Thought Mothers day was about Mothers.
Am l being naive!

Humans deal worst with things where the gap between expectation and reality is large. So if we expect something to be shit, and it is, we cope well. But if we have sky high expectations and it does not go well, that’s where we fall down.

If literally none of the photos are usable, see if the photographer will offer you another session - perhaps indoors where it’s calmer. Don’t tell yourself “never again” - perhaps not in the forest until they’re more biddable.

I hope you are ok today. I do get it. I would get a kick out of a “silly” photo but I’m not you and many people wouldn’t.

What did the photographer say at the end?

Sorry you didn’t get more empathy on here.

I would’ve just sat/stood nicely in the middle doing a mix of posing nicely and posing like I want to give up and let the chaos go on around me
and seen what came up
probs some lovely chaotic art my shots

my kids hate photos

Could you maybe next time a friend etc is near you and your kids pass them the phone. Maybe the fact it isnt staged will make the kids not notice and you'll get some nice ones x

OP, as mums we don't ask for much so i feel your pain, maybe next year you will have better luck🌺

I don't know, I had a wonderful photo shoot with my children when they were little. I think it depends on the photographer. The one we used had my daughter running around and made it a play activity. The whole thing was lots of fun. It made for a lot of fun shots and they're still my favourite.

Wait til you get your photos back before you feel disappointed!