AIBU to be worried son proposed without telling us and lacks finances?

[OneOliveDeer]

My son is 25 years old and since graduating from University two years ago has been doing online tutoring.
He has been dating a girl who will soon be graduating too and is madly in love with the girl.
He bought an engagement ring worth £650 immediately he started working part time and I only found it accidentally.
He just announced to us that he proposed to the girlfriend a week ago and she accepted.
I was shocked that he proposed without informing us and I am worried that he is not ready financially yet. It is his first relationship, so that makes me even more worried. He says he is ready and plans to wed in the next one year. I want to talk with the girlfriend but not sure what to say. I’m I being unreasonable to think that he was supposed to inform us and that he isn’t ready yet?

He’s made his decisions. Let him stand or fall by them. If it goes pear shaped, then down to him.

What an odd post.

I do my dh's washing.
My ds does his wife's washing.

It sounds completely bizarre to me that you wouldn't wash your partner's things when you are washing your own.

Do you want people to each cook their own meals too ? Vacuum halfway down the stairs and leave the rest ? Sweep half the kitchen floor then leave the rest ? How is splitting every task down the middle benefitting anyone ?

They will be a couple, not housemates. People divvy up the things that need to be done around the house in different ways, to suit each couple.

People are asking 'does he live with you or not'? Naaah, he lives on his own, but snuck in and hid the engagement ring in his maw's crib just for funzies. Honestly.