Honest opinion - what do you think of parents choosing to have one child?

[ConnectThree]

We have a 7 year old DS and no fertility issues that we know of.
We have still chosen to have only one child.
I guess I’m just wondering what other parents think?

I have zero thoughts about other people’s fertility decisions.

Literally nothing!

Genuinely, absolutely nothing. Literally no thoughts positive or negative. It's completely unremarkable.

I would say I think its none of my business... but I don't think about it.

I just do not think about it.

Never given it any thought

Nothing. No judgement, doesn't even cross my mind.

Exactly this. People make their own choices, based on their own decisions, having factored in finances, quality of life, time spent with child, etc. There is nothing "only" about having a single child.

I don’t think much about it at all. It’s none of my business. That might be a responsible choice for that family. Might just be what they want.

Nothing.
The fact that you chose one child is as unremarkable as the fact that I chose to have 3 kids. As long as you can look after your child then it’s fine to be one and done.

Average amount of kids used to be 2.4
Now it is 1.4
Having one child is very normal nowadays.
As is none.
As is anything really.

Couldn’t give a shiny shit!

I would assume they were doing what was right for them/their family, unless they were a close enough friend for me to have other information to base an opinion on

Absolutely nothing.

No thoughts. I know more parents who are one and done than parents having more than one child at the moment.

I don't care.

I made this face 🤨 when reading your thread title so opened it to tell you that I made that face because… who gives a fuck how many kids you have? The only time anyone cares is if you have 8 kids and can’t afford to house, clothe and feed them. No one cares if you have 1 kid. Do you have main character syndrome?

I completely understand as raising kids today is tiring and expensive.

I think back in the day, it was rare and there is still some judgement from the older generation.
Ive been asked a few times “ah haven’t you ever thought of having another one”, and I just say we did, she was stillborn. It gets a bit awkward then, lots of “I’m sorry to hear that”, but I hope it means they don’t ask people that again because you never know anyone’s story.
There are a few only children in my son’s class, not loads but a fair few.

I would think it’s none of my business, and would find it strange if people made judgement.

I don't know that it's true nobody cares. I wish it was. I was a a work dinner the other night where three people were agreeing it was unkind to have just one child. One of them was an only herself. I had to pretend to have an urgent call as I was worried I'd start crying (I would have liked more but just had one).

We only had one because of secondary infertility. If I had my time again, knowing what I know now, I would actively choose to only have one.

So no judgement here. You will encounter a minority of people who think it's wrong or selfish just to have one, or that your child will turn out to be spoilt or lonely or whatever. All bollocks for what it's worth.

People with three or more children probably encounter similarly judgemental comments from those who can't seem to keep their opinions to themselves. And that's probably all bollocks too.

I don't think the vast majority of people really care either way.

I think it's their business 🤷‍♀️

I couldn’t care less

I am one and done too, husband had a vasectomy when I was 6 months pregnant. I feel like people do judge even though i am in London and 3 bed homes in my area are very much in 'inheritocracy' territory.