No sir (or madam) I don’t want intimate knowledge of your nether regions through the medium of flesh coloured scrunchbum pants and inappropriate swimwear that clings to your flaccid member ***title edited by MNHQ to correct a typo***

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Totally get that in theory everyone has a right to wear what they wish but even so…I theory I have a right to not have to walk around looking at the floor

Curses. Nether. Not meter.

False nipples are also supplied by the NHS post mastectomy.

A colleague of mine once wore a flesh coloured skintight jumpsuit to work. It was really distracting, as my brain kept registering her as naked even though at second glance she was covered fully. Super weird clothing choice - very attention-grabbing which I suppose is the point, but not at all appropriate for the office. We don't have a detailed dress code though (just 'professional/business attire' with no further detail) and damned if I was going to take the fall for harassment if I mentioned it, so I took the coward's way out and ignored it.

The days of romance and subtle allure are certainly gone 😂

A woman going about her day in public minding her own business is not trying to ‘romance’ you.

No, and of course such a woman as I quoted is not a blatant exhibitionist, either, wanting people to gawp at her - heaven forfend that anyone should think so!

Yanbu. I was in body conditioning class, stuck inches behind a young woman in beige bum enhancers yesterday.

Every time we leaned forward, I felt like I was looking right into her soul.

God knows what it's like for the men who get stuck behind these.

Sounds like a vast improvement on my church!

I thought those ridiculous scrunch bum leggings went out long ago. Not seen them for absolutely ages.

Twice in the last week I’ve been walking behind someone wearing really thin black leggings that were translucent across the bum to the point I could see their undies (blue thong in one case, floral hipsters in the other). Is this a deliberate fashion choice or the equivalent of tucking your skirt in your knickers and I should have told them?

Agree, I even find myself trying to avoid glancing at men in grey tracksuit bottoms, I'm not a pervert, I swear they must design them to outline the nether regions.

There are some advantages to being housebound. My lovely postie wears shorts sometimes but I'm ok with that.

At the risk of sounding like Mary Whitehouse, there's an argument that some revealing clothing skims pretty closely to the obscenity laws. If you can see the defined shape of a small flaccid penis through pretty flimsy, slightly damp swim shorts, then surely you can see a penis.

Blimey, all these people who say, don't look. Would they say that about a flasher? Not staring might be an option, but not seeing isn't. And some things once seen cannot be unseen. No one wants their eyes assaulted in the way the OP describes.

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Man wearing wet clinging swimming trunks at church= inappropriate for the setting and a concern.
Same man at a swimming pool= to be expected, surely?

Same man at swimming pool should have the decency to invest in swimwear which is fit for purpose. Interestingly IMO budgie smugglers are considerably less alarming than semi damp cheesecloth in a pale colour that shows everything.

Its a form of oppression.

It's probably because of what day it is this thread is here, sadly.

Looking into her soul? Her arse soul? 😂

Oh dear. Stop staring then.

Flashing is different.

So have you voiced your concerns about being oppressed to the swimming pool management?

But isn't it accepted that it's not polite or possibly even ableist to focus attention on people with obvious disabilities, deformities, skin conditions etc even when some of those people may be acting in a way that draws attention?

And not to pay attention to DC having tantrums, couples having arguments and so on.

And not bat an eye when people are wearing clothes or engaging in behaviours that are outside of the norm which will draw attention and are often the intention of the person exhibiting them.

So how does it work?

Just don't look at anyone ever for more than a second or two? but also if you don't look, you're potentially being ableist or discriminatory with numerous visibly disabled people and activists saying they absolutely hate and deem it a form of discrimination when people pretend they can't see them or don't acknowledge their differences.

I agree I just want to admire the broad thick shoulders & upper chest, rippling forearms and hands like shovels, flat belly, huge muscular quads hamstrings and calves etc.

Oh no, she wasn't one of the young women who, err.... distracted your husband, recently, was she?

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