To let dd self initiate potty training?

[astrangeb]

Any other way seems laden with disaster.

Gave it a try yesterday and today; yesterday wasn’t too bad, today she just had seven accidents (at nursery)

I am thinking leave it until she initiates it.

Gosh! That's a bit of a generalisation. I understand the established rationale is modern nappies being so absorbant as well as relatively cheap, and life being much more pressured now (both parents needing to be in paid employment). I've never read that babies and very young children were smacked if they had accidents; that would be incredibly cruel.

You need to teach her? Keep her home from nursery for a week, she doesn't HAVE to be at nursery. It's part of parenting.
Try the oh crap potty training book.

How old is your little one?

I don't think there's any point forcing the issue if she's just not getting it - but I also think letting her lead is ridiculous.

When it looks like she might be getting ready; feeling more uncomfortable in a nappy, showing an interest etc. then try again. IME when they're ready they're ready, and because they can now associate the feeling of needing to go with actually taking an action, they tend not to have too many accidents. All three of mine were trained within a couple of days, about two weeks after they turned three (although two of them wet at night for a long time, and one was unfortunately a poo withholder).

I agree it's not worth the aggro to push it, but no, don't leave it all to her!

My daughter is about the same age as yours and I'm a teacher too. I trained her in the six week holidays. It took about a week to feel like we were getting somewhere. She also refused to wee in the potty and then immediately wet herself. It's part of it and you need to persevere.

Just to point out to a few that night dryness can't be trained as it is hormonal. Many children aren't dry at night until five or six.

If you mean me, as I don't see anyone else that said anything about that, I knew that at the time and I know it now.

I wouldn't. She's of the age where it will get more difficult the longer you leave it. I would set aside a weekend and consider reading oh crap potty training before you try.

We bought my son Spiderman undies that he liked which we told him he could wear when he was using the potty. We then cut holes in pairs of old tights in the nappy area and left my son without any underwear. That way he had a massive shock when he saw the wee actually coming out and was able to connect the sensation with weeing. He learned within 48 hours after that. It's okay to be at peace with piss all over the floor as hopefully it will only be for a few days.

I tried with my DD at a similar age and it failed miserably. I then waited until the summer holidays - was a bit later than I’d planned as she was 3 by then - also a teacher so couldn’t just take a few days off. She cracked it within a few days (for wee anyway, took another 2.5 years for poo but that’s another story).

At the age she is at, I’d just put it off until the summer if Easter and May half term aren’t doable with revision classes etc.

We used to do nappy free time in the evenings before bed. Potty available in their bedroom, after a bath. We would make sure they sat on the potty, if they didn't wee or poo we made no fuss. If they achieved a wee or poo, lots of excitement or praise.
We did this for a while. At some point we had a holiday in Centr parcs, we were outside a lot of the week and carried the potty everywhere. Mastered potty training by the end of the week.

We did this dint see a reason to stress about it they worked it out by copying us

Potty training isn’t that difficult, 6 children, 2 trained by 2, 2 by 2yrs 4mths and 2 by 2yrs 8mths. Two of those have autism and one with kidney problems but I just picked a week to train, stayed at home as much as possible and did it. My boys took a full 7 days, girls were 1 day to 4 days, one of the girls has autism and kidney problems. I used loads of chocolate and cheering.

I didnt train my oldest as my mum did as I was working nights and she had her but she wasnt completely dry at night till about 6.

My youngest is 4. She trained for daytime in 1 day. Sent her to nursery in pants and she went to the toilet every time her wee pals did. But she was still in pull ups at night. A few weeks ago she said to me she wanted to treat the pull ups like pants at night I said fine. Then I ran out and since then we've had 1 wet night.

Shes 5 in may and I'm surprised shes fully dry at night as they dont expect it before 7.

Take a few days to focus on it.

It is for some children. My son with autism probably won't be fully trained before school.

Apologies, I worded that poorly and only thought of my own children but yes I know there are so many children with extra needs who will find it very difficult to be Toilet trained or never be TT.

I’ll just ignore any horrible comments but today has been a disaster, she has wee’d three times on the floor and pooed on the floor once. She has sat on the potty and keeps saying she has had a wee when she hasn’t. I’m inclined to think she either doesn’t understand or she does and is refusing - either way I don’t think it’s working.

I am a bit upset about it as I’d hoped it would be easier this time round.

No need to be upset. This is a normal part of potty training. They will struggle to know when they need a wee and then to be able to relax and do it on the potty. Take a few deep breaths and roll with it.

My daughter initiated her own potty training, so it might happen! She had just turned two and I was hoping to delay it a for a couple of months as I had a newborn, but she just decided one day that she was done with nappies and that was that. Had a couple of wee accidents, has never had a poo accident and was dry at night at the same time.

My older son would probably have never initiated potty training himself, so we did it over a bank holiday weekend when he was 2y4m. He’s still not dry at night and he’s 4.

With both of them, I’d had the potty out in the bathroom for ages so that they could use it at bathtime, so maybe that got them used to the idea.

I never trained my kids. One day they both just decided to use the toilet, right around their third birthdays.

This. It just takes a bit of time..you need to take a week..she cant really learn at home and in nursery it's too tricky.

It may be longer but I don’t think I’m going to get anywhere until she decides she wants to.

I know nursery were encouraging it before yesterdays disaster but I don’t think that was helping as she isn’t really keen on nursery so maybe she associates potties with nursery. I don’t know.

It's not nice but those sorts of messes are very normal for the first few days of potty training. Remember it doesn't mean that it's not working.

I don’t mind the mess, it’s wooden floors anyway so no big deal. It’s more the fact i genuinely don’t think she understands.

Lucky you, but some people's kids seem to not just get it, and just start using the toilet.Obviously it's one of those things everyone gets at some point, so probably best not to worry too much OP! Sorry if it came across as it's terrible he or she is not trained.I really don't think that.What I think is it makes it easier for you if your child can use the toilet.Plus these nappies are horrible, and are a big enviroment waste issue using plastic, so best to get dry as soon as you can.

I agree which has added to my guilt but then the extra washing probably isn’t brilliant either. I am inclined to leave it as I’m upset, she’s upset, no one’s winning anything. I just seem to be rubbish at this part of parenting.