In relation to disbelieving also, bear in mind that (a) the video I linked does not "disbelieve" it talks about evidence and other issues and people who talk about evidence are not "disbelieving" they are talking about evidence and (b) the recent UN report highlighted both sexual attacks against Israeli women and also sexual attacks against Palestinians by Isrealis which has been said to be untrue by Israel, and so if you are concerned about "disbelief" I do think it is important to be fair and to also mention Israel rejecting of Palestinian claims by men. You may disagree.
The woman you are talking about here quotes what other professionals have said. I think it is important that you bear this in mind. You may disagree.
I think that what is going on in the middle east right now threatens to turn into wwIII, children and women as well as men are being killed, and talking about issues in a way which takes all humanity into consideration is better than othering. Again, you may disagree.
This isn't whataboutery. The term whataboutery was invented to try to guilt trip people into silence about real issues which run in tandem and interrelated with the things they raised.