Forgot to take my friend to her hospital appointment- how do I fix this!?

[MamaBee22]

First time posting so please bare with me..

I forgot to take my best friend of 20 years to her colosopy appt. We'd arranged for me to take her and stay with her/bring her back, but the date changed to half term. No childcare and hubby at work so I still offered to drop her off and pick her up. She mentioned a few days prior and I said yeah no problem still good to go.

Fast forward to the day of appt. My DC has a chest infection so had to get her a drs appointment and being completely truthful it just slipped my mind. I didn't realise until it was too late and she text me saying have you forgot?

Obviously I went into panic mode and no deflection, I own my mistake and there's no excuse I shouldn't have forgot. I'm only human and it just slipped my mind. I apologised and said I understand why she'd be cross but let me know how it went.

I'm am a dependable friend 99% of the time. I am the most constant person in her life (she's single) and have never let her down before.

She ignored me for a couple of days and then sent a text saying how pissed off she was, people always let her down and its a difficult thing to forget and she doesn't want to talk about it.

Apart from giving her space, is there anything I can do to fix this? I feel sad to loose my friend over a stupid mistake.

Sadly she can be known to use silence as a form of punishment and has definitely tried to make me feel as guilty as possible. Obviously I can take that on the chin, it is my fault, but I have a horrible feeling she will continue to bring this up long term.

Thank you

Yes she should have absolutely known her daughter was going to be sick and given notice!

Oh hang on she forgot, that’s why she didn’t give notice, she didn’t just decide she was going to let her friend down.

This. I've got a phone calendar, a diary & a wall calendar. I have a lot of appointments & I'm terrified of muddling them up!

Not clear why someone would need a lift THERE, but on the way back you have to have to have a lift organized, not an uber, if you had a sedative; otherwise they won’t discharge you. She may have been planning on sedation (which makes the procedure straightforward and discomfort-free) but in your absence had to forgo it, which would probably have been unpleasant and not what she was expecting.

Some of these comments on here are like it's the end of the bloody world for her. She didn't miss heart surgery for God's sake. Dont feel guilty.

you don’t get sedation for a colposcopy! The OP said it was not a colonoscopy days ago!

She’d also offered to collect the friend, so no issue really! Just the friend being drama about getting an uber.

Depends on the procedure. If her friend was having a cone biopsy or loop excision then she would likely have been offered sedation.

OP confirmed she wasn’t! She could also have accepted OPs offer of a lift back, but she declined it as punishment for forgetting the lift there.

Cutting of her nose to spite her face I feel.

Unless you have undiagnosed dementia, there is absolutely no excuse to have forgotten a very unpleasant hospital appointment where she has to be aneasthetized and cannot do without support to bring her home. That would be the last you'd hear from me. Why was it not on your phone calendar or someplace?

Unless you’ve got undiagnosed dementia there is no reason to have missed the fact that no anaesthetic was required for the actual procedure that OPs friend underwent.

Did you read the OP's posts at all or was that going to delay you being so rude?

Is your undiagnosed dementia why you can’t understand that when you already carrying a lot a sick child can mean some balls just get dropped as you focus on your child?? Yes, even ones that in your diary.

Op is not coming back understandably so best leave it now.

Yes immensely completely true
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