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Leftoutthewill · 21/02/2026 14:52

Mum died April 25, previous will stated that any estate was to be split between me and my sister. We should have been in line for a share of a 285,00.00 estate. My sister and her husband have taken responsibility for everything for my mum for the last 17 years, shopping, appointments caring for dad as he was dying, taking her on holiday, having her at Christmas, sitting with her at hospital for emergencies, helping her sort out bills, things going wrong with the house responding to her care alarm all thr while living 20 miles away. In the end she kept falling they took her to live with them and cared for her 24hours a day, eventually this became too much and she spent the last couple of months in a care home.
We just went every now and then and until recently we'd not seen her in four years.
My sister is executor of the will and chose to go through a solicitor. It turns out the six month probate finished on 12th February and I've recently had a letter to say that I'm due to receive some money but not detailing how much. I never received a copy of the will so have contacted the solicitor and have discovered that my sister has been left the majority of the estate and I'm left wih £10,000. She gets around £260,000
Apparently she changed her will about 12 months before she died, she has capacity according to a capacity assessment and its all legal and above board. Apparently there is very little I can do.
I feel like the solicitor should have written to me to explain about the 6 months probate but apparently the will was public information and was downloadable months ago. Apparently he onus is on me to find will and pay to download it then take action. I should surely receive more of a share?

OP posts:
CarterBeatsTheDevil · 25/02/2026 17:05

Leftoutthewill · 21/02/2026 18:08

I feel really shut out, she always had Christmas at her house, always took her away and never invited me. They had their own clique that I felt I couldn't be part of. She did ask for help but I thought she'd made her own bed to be honest

Well, perhaps she did, but perhaps so did you. It is what it is, OP, and you may well have made the right decision for you because looking after someone old and frail is very hard and perhaps it felt like your mum and sister wouldn't want your time and effort. If that's the case, you've got to look at it on the basis that you got your £260K in however many years of freedom from drudgery and your sister is getting hers now.

NorseHorse123 · 25/02/2026 18:29

Leftoutthewill · 21/02/2026 15:17

No not a reverse not saying is hould have 50 per cent but I don't think she should have virally of it.

Your sister deserves the vast majority of it unless there’s a (life or death) reason why you didn’t split the care or visit your parents for 4 years. TBH you seem more concerned about the money than being grateful for the care your sister provided. Perhaps if you deduct what it would have cost for care had your sister not helped you’d see things differently. You also have to appreciate the pressure on your sister and that she effectively put her life on pause. What did you do?

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