Made to feel uncomfortable

[Scottishlassie10]

Now I’m all for people wearing what they want but I do think there is a time and a place. My husband was in the health club last night relaxing in the jacuzzi when a group of young women in their early 20s wearing bikinis that left little to the imagination (think thong bottoms and boobs barely covered) started parading around. They came into the jacuzzi which I know they’re entitled to do, however 2 sat next to him and 2 directly facing. It’s quite a big jacuzzi so they had no need to sit where they did. He was the only male in. He felt he had no option to leave as this made him feel quite uncomfortable. Now I may be unreasonable in my thinking but I do think if the shoe was on the other foot and a male was to strut around the poolside in a thong or a group of men where to sit in an empty jacuzzi in close proximity to a female complaints would be made.

Your reasoning is 100% wrong.
You can wear a bikini (or not) for your own reasons, but to plant every other bikini wearing woman in categories ... is definitely wrong.

The woman who looks the best, both on and off the beach, is a woman who dresses to suit herself, not other people.

You cannot be serious!

Only women with perfect bodies wear bikinis, women size 14 and he wouldn’t bother to look.

Your view is dreadful, I would hoe you don’t pass these views to any DDs you have.

Only women with perfect bodies wear bikinis, do you not go swimming or too the beach? WTF!!

'But because it's a woman flashing her bits'

No one is flashing. What 'bits' were on view?

Is your husband Adonis?
im curious as to why all of these attractive young women were deliberately rubbing their breasts and buttocks in front of him then deliberately sliding into the hot tub next to him 🤣
Unless you were there I’d take his version of events with a pinch of salt tbh

The people complaining about the bikinis would probably also be horrified if a woman was wearing a burkini

Sounds like your hubby spent a fair bit of time watching them to notice all this 😂

He could have chosen to not look 🤷🏻‍♀️

Was Adonis an autocorrect for Andrew?

He’s stupid enough to think that all the women fancied him!

Yep very off reasoning @blessedbylife .

It’s the fact she says he let it go, that ghey were all rubbing their breasts and bums in unison, I mean what am I even reading.

if my husband came back and said this shite to me and then started detailing their skimpy bikinis I’d know without a shadow of a doubt he was sitting perving on them and this was his fantasy take, if I’d watched the interaction with the op and hee husband I’d think what a perv he is and he’s talking shite, and what a foolish woman the op is.

the whole thing is just nauseating that this couple sat there in their home talking in this misogynistic manner about these young women.

Were they 'parading around', or were they simply existing whilst wearing swimwear?

Oh do FO! I am nearly 50 and I still wear a bikini. Why? Because I want to and because I like wearing bikinis. Look or don't look, I don't really care.
What an appalling attitude you have.

Isn't much difference is not the same as no difference.

I think I would find it "hard to deal with" if the fashion was for men to wear giant codpieces that resembled an erect cock, with bits of their cock and balls visible, and then crowded me out in the jacuzzi.

You're suggesting thats the same as women wearing a bikini?

Maybe they should just wear goggles flippers and a wetsuit

Their full arses were in view @Gloriia and there's a good chance more was on view in certain positions.
Have you actually ever seen a thong? It is not like normal bikini bottoms.

Surely they would have been in the water in the jacuzzi and the only other chance of seeing more on view was when they were climbing into the jacuzzi.

Don’t forget they were RUBBING THEMSELVES in the shower and PARADING !

Just covering their arsehole would suffice.

So sexually aroused? Bit different IMO!

Gosh your feathers are ruffled. Perhaps you need to grow up? I haven't been rude to you.

Dear Lord, where are you going swimming if you can see someone else's vulva and how close are you too them??

No cooL wives, please remember that he was watching them “parading” round the pool, washing their boobs and arses in the shower and then in the jacuzzi, he sounds a lot like a perv, then had the cheek to complain that he’s watching them ….. 😆😆😆😆😆

Well, emphasising the "bits" as a super-skimpy bikini does.

I'm no prude, but last time I went in a fast food restaurant (not in the UK) they had TV screens with some trash like MTV on, and I didn't know where to look - the girl singers dressed like hookers and gyrating suggestively. It struck me that things have changed since I was a teen (not surprisingly, that was in about 1864!!!), if that's considered neutral entertainment for the background of a family restaurant.

OK, so maybe I am a prude? I'm not blaming the girls, but this hypersexualised culture doesn't seem healthy or right, and pretending it's not uncomfortable to watch seems odd to me.

It's a bit like the opposite of the Emperor's New Clothes!