Made to feel uncomfortable

[Scottishlassie10]

Now I’m all for people wearing what they want but I do think there is a time and a place. My husband was in the health club last night relaxing in the jacuzzi when a group of young women in their early 20s wearing bikinis that left little to the imagination (think thong bottoms and boobs barely covered) started parading around. They came into the jacuzzi which I know they’re entitled to do, however 2 sat next to him and 2 directly facing. It’s quite a big jacuzzi so they had no need to sit where they did. He was the only male in. He felt he had no option to leave as this made him feel quite uncomfortable. Now I may be unreasonable in my thinking but I do think if the shoe was on the other foot and a male was to strut around the poolside in a thong or a group of men where to sit in an empty jacuzzi in close proximity to a female complaints would be made.

You don't have to have your eyes closed. Just don't look at people's arses.

You’re surprised by the idea that young heterosexual women like male attention? What.

'from what he said they knew what they were doing'. So a man says that women must be doing things to deliberately entice them? erm, isnt that just a step away from saying 'they must be asking for it?'

Exactly.

I don't usually advocate LTB op, but in this case I'm afraid I do.

Sorry no. Speaking as someone who worked in gyms for years. I have to disagree with this. When I workout I wear a t shirt and leggings but a lot of women will wear leggings and a bra top - because that's what they feel comfortable in. It's not all about getting kicks out of being ogled by men - and the men I see training are too focused on their training to care - let's not brand men and women like this - it's stereotypical and it helps no one

I go running in a crop top and leggings during the summer. All that is exposed there is my midriff. I’m talking about women who wear skimpy hot pants when the equipment they’re about to sit on is germ ridden and gross. It is not more practical to wear them.

I wonder if women would choose the string bikinis in a women’s only venue.

He showed his arse.
I didn't look.
It's exactly the same .

How short is she that she was eye level with their bums in the queue? Also tell her that women should feel entitled to wear what makes them feel good, not confirm to other people's expectations. I assume she was equally horrified any time she saw a man's bare chest?

'at an indoor waterpark recently and loads of women in thong bikinis with barely there triangles tops covering not much more than nipples. My 12 year old daughter said after ‘it was good but wish I hadn’t had to stare at so many bare butts waiting for the water slides’ and ‘why are some girls virtually naked it’s gross’

This is unusual. When ours were that age all they cared about were the slides and the waves. Never ever looked at or mentioned other people's bodies.

You need to teach your dd manners, you don't stare at nor judge other people's bodies.

Excuse me? How dare you say that my daughter wears what she does to get a kick out of being ogled by random men?

She's worked damn hard in the gym to get the body she has now and it makes her feel good to wear something so when she looks in the mirror she likes what she sees. She doesn't like being leered over, for your information. She dresses for herself, not for random strangers.

Yes, kind of unusual for a 12 year old.

Okay. Let me spell it out very very slowly. If people are walking around infront of you and you have your eyes open, you can actually see them. Mind blowing or what?

It was probably a made up story to agree with OP’s point, but I agree it’s very unusual behaviour for a 12 year-old and shoddy parenting not to challenge it.

Oooh. Sarky. 👍
Let me spell it out to you, even more slowly.
You spot someone in a thong bikini.
It offends your morality.
You stop looking.
You look elsewhere other than their arse.

It's not about practicality. It's about women wearing what they want to wear. A shower will get rid of any germs. You'll get germs in lots of public places

But she surely knows she will be leered over if she rocks up at a mixed sex venue in a string bikini? It’s attention seeking isn’t it, to have your arse and basically tits out in a public venue.

I think you misread too, they were showering and then in the jacuzzi, wearing a fuller swimsuit would have made no difference, unless you think they should have wet suited up save these poor pervs their struggles.

There is a good reason why double-standards exist, OP. This is because men are far more likely to pose a threat to women than the other way around.
Your husband is not an innocent little lamb here either. He came home and described in detail how these women were "lathering their boobs and rubbing their arses" which is not exactly stellar behaviour on his part, is it?

Ultimately, your husband had a choice to up and leave which he exercised. Many single women surrounded by five naked guys in jacuzzi would not have had the same choice. That's the sad reality. So until we have some statistics on gang-rapes of a single male by females, I am afraid the double-standard is here to stay.

She's not attention seeking and she should have the right to wear whatever she wants without being leered over.

Blaming women for men's pervy behaviour? Nice...

That’s really odd and I don’t think yiu quite grasp just how odd.

Yes as another poster suggested: they wanted the jacuzzi to themselves to chat and purposely sat close to him hoping he’d leave.

That's assuming that all men don't have any self control not to leer at someone who isn't covered up.

Wait until you find out that everyone is naked under their clothes!

Women in burkhas are being provocative for being out of the house. Sixth formers make students and teachers uncomfortable by having their upper arms exposed. Grown women make men feel uncomfortable because their swimwear isn't the right shape and size.

I spy a theme.

God this made me shudder with distaste, the thought of this man, watching these women, sitting describing their bikinis, how they were rubbing their breasts and bottoms, and the op sitting there all jealous and knowing he’s a pervert ogling them but deciding it really did happen as it’s more paleatable than the truth to her,

someone uo thread said they did it to make him leave, nope. No young woman does that, because they don’t quite know what sort of pervert they are dealing with, they simply never stood rubbing themselves,

But him coming hope and saying it, describing their bikinis is nauseating,

Absolutely nauseating isn't it.

And 'parading around'? Where they 'flaunting their toned limbs', 'flashing a red lip' (or 2 😂), 'putting on a busty display' and 'revealing their raunchy forms' too? Otherwise known as walking around owning a human female body.