DH and family left me alone in a restaurant

[TemporaryWombat]

This didn’t happen recently but it still bugs me! Went out for a meal for MIL birthday, I was 8 months pregnant and at the end of the meal FIL paid the bill - I stood up and told DH I was going to the toilet, went (I wasn’t long) came back and everyone had buggered off! I was stood there embarrassed asking the waiters where everyone was. I went to the car park and wandered around in the dark trying to find DH car.

AIBU or is it really inconsiderate to just leave? DH sees no fault and said the meal was over and it was obvious we were all leaving. It felt very crappy and definitely not something I would do or my family.

And why were you “wandering” round the car park? Very dramatic words!

It’s a wonder you asked in AIBU then.

So if you went for a meal with friends and one went to the loo, you would walk out without saying goodbye and go to your car?

I still can't imagine this would be within the realms of normal behaviour for many people.

Maybe you can’t, but for me it’s no big deal!

Yes I’d go with others, to go to cars etc

And for what it’s worth, I’ve never been accused of not “acting normally” 🙄

Probably because you've never actually done it.

Why are you intimating I’m telling lies? Is this normal behaviour for you? Key board warrior?

34% of people think OP is BU, are they all liars?

You don’t agree with me so I’m not normal or telling lies! Do you say this nonsense face to face 🤔.

And it’s hardly something that would even register with me, it’s all drama “wandering” round the car park!

They were all rude and uncaring, especially your DH. It would have taken very little time to just wait for you to come out, especially as you were 8 months pregnant with his child/their grandchild and must have made you feel insignificant.
the fact that you are still holding on to this after all this time suggests there have been other issues.
Does he/his family treat you with disdain in other ways @TemporaryWombat?

They were. I would tell your DH that you still think about how mad it was and you would like better from him.

Thought not

What that I’m not a liar? Thank you for acknowledging that error.

Does this not make you wonder why OP posted in AIBU?

Yes OP you are, OP stamps feet and will only agree with other drama lamas with damsel in distress syndrome!

Don’t like the answer? Don’t get into the conversation?

Serious question. I know you disagree with many posters and you did with me much earlier in the thread. However you seem unreasonably angry. Does the fact that many posters take a very different view to you actually impact or harm you? If yes it would be interesting if you could explain. I may be misunderstanding and it may just be that you are putting forward your views robustly which you are obviously entitled to do and as you say OP has asked for opinions.

Nah it’s just mad people saying because I’ve a different view in a liar, don’t you find that odd of them?

Also, OP asking and then saying “I don’t care what you say” I’m right, equally odd.

More than 2 weeks ago OP went to the toilet as the bill was being paid and the rest of the family went out to the car park. In laws went home. Why is there even anything to discuss?

I think it was a bit rude of them to not wait to say bye to you op but if they are otherwise kind and caring I don't think it says much.