Let me spell this out very clearly for the hard of thinking

[KillTheTurkey]

Men commit 99% of all rapes and sexual assaults.

Men (and young men) commit 95-98% of school shootings.

Men commit 90% of all violent crime in the UK.

These are not female crimes, and should never, ever be reported - or recorded - as such. It can safely be assumed in any of the above circumstances that a male person was the perpetrator.

I don’t need to tell my daughter to be wary of men . Life has sadly taught her that .

Complete nonsense . If you are a girl / woman and haven’t been groped or harassed at the very minimum you’re very , very lucky . Maybe listen to other women instead of minimising our lived experience.
Plenty of us have been raped . Most of us don’t report . It’s very , very common .

I’m sorry to hear that @IloveOwlsandPenguins . How old is she?

This.
Rape might as well be legal because what women go through after reporting it mostly just compounds the trauma and humiliation. The number of rapes and assaults that are reported is very small and the conviction rate even smaller.
I am sure the stats have been reported on FWR.

Hey, i'm agreeing with you. I dont have a single female friend who hasn't been leered at, sexually harassed, hit or worse. I dont belive it's 3% or whatever the latest figure is.

Please don't call me ridiculous. Maybe you should think yourself lucky, instead?

At 17 there was a flasher waiting on the local bridleways to flash at girls from the riding school.

At 19 my boyfriend attempted to force me into having sex (I faked bursting into tears and he stopped).

At 34 a man in a business suit masturbated using the side of my backrest on a train.

At 50 I was sat in a Jacuzzi with a man who was clearly pleasuring himself under the bubbles.

Last week 67 I was hit by a cyclist who attempted to push me off a narrow pavement.

As a football supporter I've seen male on male violence more times than I can count and my husband was knocked to the floor and kicked in the head many years back by a male who he had tried to stop from racially abusing a Chinese takeaway worker.

Talking to friends and seeing the results of surveys, I am not out of the ordinary.

Only a tiny fraction of male sexual abuse and male violence is ever reported, far less prosecuted.

I'm in my 50s and I was flashed at 19. If your friends/daughter/ you do online dating ( male that is) ask if they have been sent dic pics because that's the modern equivalent of flashing

I don't know if anyone's made this point yet, but I'm finding it hard to see how your 3% is a positive!

Let's say you work in a large-ish business in a medium-large city.

That 3% could mean, in a sense, about:

• 6 of your colleagues
• up to 3 in your rush-hour train carriage (6 if we count both ways)
• 6 in your post-work supermarket sweep
• 6 as you walk for 20 mins through the busy city (each walk you take)
• 1 in the pub
• 3 in the club

• ...leaving you coming in fairly close proximity to up to 25 in your average weekday day.

And you don't know which.

Your 3% seems to me to go a long way towards explaining why women, while not literally thinking "It's all men," (somewhat obviously, one would have thought?!) do often bear in mind that it does pay to be wary - or, if not wary, then at least aware that it could be any one they encounter.

If you then take into account that the 3% doesn't take into account low conviction rates or the lower-level but still intimidating behaviours most of us have endured since our early teens...

...3% is an appalling baseline, and only really a positive if you're wilfully misreading what many posters are saying - which is more like an entirely rational, "3%+ is far too many, and leaves me exercising caution within reason" than "It's 110%! Run awaaaay!" To pretend it's the latter is so absurd as to be disrespectful, if nothing else.

I was flashed in a shop before I knew what a willy was. Then at a bus stop when I was maybe 14. Again, on my way to Uni one morning. Also, once when riding through some woods. Who ARE these people who have never been flashed?? And how did that very small percentage keep on finding ME?

And that's only the flashing.

I don't think I have any female friend or relative who has not had an unwanted sexual or abusive encounter with a male.

It's weird how so many of us seem to have had so many experiences with so many of these tiny percentage of men.
Mine have been beyond counting -ranging from attempted rape and bones being broken to endless suggestive comments and leering.
Always men, but never the same man.