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dd15 induction tomorrow & i have a bug

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lunarwhisper · 12/02/2026 19:57

Reposting in AIBU for traffic
Trying to keep this brief

My dd is 15 and she's 3 days overdue we went to the hospital yesterday for reduced movements all fine but she's been booked in for an induction tomorrow
We arent the closest and werent before the pregnancy either due to her behaviour at the time and she was living with her dad for a few months befoe she found out but i was meant to be her birthing partner .

Since shes been off school we have been closer and going out together when my younger dc are at school but we did have an argument as she wants to call the baby something ridiculous and she called me controlling

The dad isnt the nicest of boys and tbh neither is his dad ive only spoke to him once and that was when i told him dd was pregnant and he said how did his son know its his and called dd a slag

They eventually broke up and he was bullying her along with his friends in school which made her anxious about attending , she blocked him and they had no contact from december until recently , they aren't back together but apparently he does want to be involved

Anyway fast forward to the issue, she is due to be induced tomorrow and I've woken up today vomiting and I don't feel the greatest. The dc’s dad aren't really involved tbh but the plan was he come here and be with the dc (though they'll not be home during the day) and I go with dd. Im now unsure what to do as I wont be much help to dd and obviously with a bug on the labour ward wont be good anyway

The dad is under 16 so i doubt just then would be allowed and I dont think dd would want him there anyway , i don't know if shed want her dad there either(i wouldnt have wanted mine there at 15 and we were much closer than dd and her dad) and im unsure how much use he’d be

What the hell do we do??

OP posts:
LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

VivaDixie · 14/02/2026 14:30

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Let me be the first to say.....

FFS!!!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/02/2026 14:31

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

ODFO.

VivaDixie · 14/02/2026 14:32

Congratulations OP!

Sorry to hear you are poorly but do get yourself tip top before seeing her - you will have years ahead of you to love your DGS.

My friend's DD gave birth at 17 - my friend really worried as her DD wasnt the most responsible when she got pregnant - she really stepped up to the game however and is a wonderful mum. I hope it all works out for you all and you get GM hugs with the little one soon Flowers

Kirbert2 · 14/02/2026 14:37

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

It's very, very clear that there is no plan for her to give her baby up for adoption.

RampantIvy · 14/02/2026 15:44

@lunarwhisper Does the hospital know that there is D and V in the house? Surely, they can't discharge her back to your house until you are all well?

Lifeomars · 14/02/2026 15:48

Pleased that the baby boy is here safely and that your daughter is ok. What a roller coaster you have all been through, hope that the sickness clears as soon as possible.

Lifeomars · 14/02/2026 15:50

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Oh give me strength!

Needspaceforlego · 14/02/2026 15:59

Glad to here she's delivered safely.
Hope your all clear of bugs soon.

DD and baby might be resistant to the bug as she has been living in the same house. But I'd still be super careful with disinfectant and if possible use seperate bathrooms.

Ducksbehindthesofa · 14/02/2026 17:11

Congratulations to you all and hope you all feel better soon too!

PyongyangKipperbang · 14/02/2026 17:12

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

What the hell kind of question is that?!

Evaka · 14/02/2026 17:22

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Whisht, you fool

RootRot · 14/02/2026 17:35

Thankfully OP is probably spending time with her family now (if the sickness has subsided anyway!) but she shouldn’t have to read comments asking if her newborn grandson will be adopted. I mean seriously, what century do you live in? Really not appropriate.

CasuallyConfused · 14/02/2026 17:50

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

Thankfully it isn't 40+ years ago, and young unmarried women aren't forced into harmful adoptions anymore.

There is absolutely no need to make this comment, it's out of date and unnecessary.

Op congratulations, I hope your daughter is doing well and you recover soon so you can meet your new grandson X

Miloarmadillo2 · 14/02/2026 17:51

Congratulations @lunarwhisper and hope you feel better and can go meet your grandchild very soon.

Whattodo1610 · 14/02/2026 18:04

ABoldStatement · 13/02/2026 18:02

All the "old enough to get pregnant so she's old enough to deal with it" posts -

This is borderline misogynistic and shaming someone for having sex.

She didn't set out to 'get' pregnant. The girl had sex. As have probably all of us. She became pregnant - presumably that wasn't her intention. Maybe she didn't use protection, but maybe she did and it failed (I've been there, and I was a lot older).

Nor did the girl 'get' pregnant by herself. Funny that the posters who are saying this about the OP's daughter aren't mentioning that the father needs to grow up and deal with it Hmm]

@lunarwhisper - I really hope the birth has gone/is going will and that you get to see your grandchild soon.

Nor did the girl 'get' pregnant by herself. Funny that the posters who are saying this about the OP's daughter aren't mentioning that the father needs to grow up and deal with it … then there’s posters saying not to give the child the fathers surname, thereby stripping him of any rights 🤷‍♀️ madness. This baby has a mum and dad, who both made him together, yet some are saying to force dad out?? 🤦‍♀️

Whattodo1610 · 14/02/2026 18:06

LoudPlumDog · 14/02/2026 13:11

I’m glad she got through the birth okay.

Will she consider adopting the baby out?

What on earth are you on about?? You absolute insensitive loon 😡

Whattodo1610 · 14/02/2026 18:06

Congratulations to you all OP! 👶💙💐

Evaka · 14/02/2026 18:10

Congrats OP. Cherish your girl and her son x

Quickchangenow · 14/02/2026 18:16

Whattodo1610 · 14/02/2026 18:04

Nor did the girl 'get' pregnant by herself. Funny that the posters who are saying this about the OP's daughter aren't mentioning that the father needs to grow up and deal with it … then there’s posters saying not to give the child the fathers surname, thereby stripping him of any rights 🤷‍♀️ madness. This baby has a mum and dad, who both made him together, yet some are saying to force dad out?? 🤦‍♀️

But the baby’s father and his family and friends have treated the baby’s mother appallingly and don’t sound like they are fit to be involved in the baby’s life.

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 14/02/2026 18:26

Whattodo1610 · 14/02/2026 18:04

Nor did the girl 'get' pregnant by herself. Funny that the posters who are saying this about the OP's daughter aren't mentioning that the father needs to grow up and deal with it … then there’s posters saying not to give the child the fathers surname, thereby stripping him of any rights 🤷‍♀️ madness. This baby has a mum and dad, who both made him together, yet some are saying to force dad out?? 🤦‍♀️

Not giving the child his father’s surname isn’t stripping him of any rights - what are you on about?

Lurmusion · 14/02/2026 18:48

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 14/02/2026 18:26

Not giving the child his father’s surname isn’t stripping him of any rights - what are you on about?

And he would have zero difficulty adding himself to the birth certificate if he wanted to

Stickytoffeetartt · 14/02/2026 19:56

Evaka · 14/02/2026 17:22

Whisht, you fool

Omg my Nana used to always say whisht! 🥰
That poster is definitely a fool too 🤬

LBFseBrom · 15/02/2026 05:34

Many congratulations, lunar! A wonderful ending to a very trying time.

I do hope you, and your youngest child, are soon fit and well. I expect you are already a lot better. These 'bugs' are a real bugger and always happen at the most inconvenient times, however the important thing is your daughter and grandson are OK. That's very exciting.

Good luck to you all. Let us know how you get on when she and her baby have been home a little while.

Whattodo1610 · 15/02/2026 22:46

Quickchangenow · 14/02/2026 18:16

But the baby’s father and his family and friends have treated the baby’s mother appallingly and don’t sound like they are fit to be involved in the baby’s life.

Edited

Whether anyone thinks they are fit enough or not really is not anyone else’s call though.Very undesirable people still have rights to their child. There’s always 3 sides to every story … his, hers, the actual truth 🤷‍♀️