Mother made a comment on new partner

[Keola]

I have been single now for 3 years since my marriage ended. I have been seeing somebody for 6 months and the connection is just explosive. We have so much fun together and when the kids go to their dads we usually have a blow out now and again (nothing crazy, the odd night out, pub crawl) however my mum seems to think he is leading me astray (I really do not believe this)

Still doesn’t mean she has a problem with alcohol. You’re just making assumptions.

Sorry your mum might be onto something. Pub crawls, 11am drinking with your mum and it’s not the airport?

can you explain what’s so explosive about the connection?

do you ever hang out together and not drink at all?

One of my favourite parts of the week is Sunday afternoon in the pub with my friends. Sometimes I drink but not always as I’m happy with soft drinks.

It’s not sad and I’m not trying to be adventurous. It’s just one way of socialising.

Your mum was telling you to go home, and you are a grown woman with children (who were happily with their dad at the time)? Were you drinking early because that's when the match started? I think your mum is being really over protective and after three years single you are entitled to a bit of fun.

Don't listen to the nay sayers. It sounds like you did absolutely nothing wrong. My partner goes to the pub every so often with his mates and they will start drinking early. They are all responsible parents and partners and they have a blow out every so often. It's called having fun. I would also if I could cope with hangovers these days.

It's sounds like your mum has replaced drunk drama with sober drama ( I assume she wasn't drinking?!?) She might be jealous that you are so happy, she might be jealous that you can hold your drink, she might be upset because she wasn't the centre of attention, who knows. But if you're not a regular drinker, and never had a drink problem I think you should trust your own instincts over your mums. If you can look back on the day and feel you did nothing inappropriate, I would take what she said with a punch of salt.

If your dad had said something, I would be more hesitant.

Good luck with your new relationship. X

Oh bore off. I have a lot of interests. I do lots of adventurous things. And one of the things I love the most is football and beer.

I haven't assumed anything. I think her mother, from what she has written herself, may have a point but I don't have any further information to make assumptions about her.

Pre drinking at 11am to go the pub is nuts. Doesn’t matter if the mum is bad drunk or not.

True... being from a different culture, I never think of alcohol as necessary to have fun. And I still don't think drinking at 11 am is right, even if there's football involved! (still missing the connection between football and alcohol!😀but it must be a cultural thing.)

What your describing doesn't sound too bad but obviously your not looking nor coming across too good to your mum. Are you sure your only getting "tipsy" ? Your mum repeated telling you "to go home" is not the response given to someone just having fun. It's the response to someone who is drunk and making a show of themselves.

Brits, football and booze is a necessary combination apparently, even though when you look at our reputation as football fans compared to Europe, it's clearly a terrible one!

Would you have ever gone out day drinking to watch football before? If not your mum is probably concerned you are doing these things to go along with the new man rather than being something you want to do. I love football so doing that wouldn't surprise my family but I rarely drink so it would concern them if I suddenly did in the morning