Mother made a comment on new partner

[Keola]

I have been single now for 3 years since my marriage ended. I have been seeing somebody for 6 months and the connection is just explosive. We have so much fun together and when the kids go to their dads we usually have a blow out now and again (nothing crazy, the odd night out, pub crawl) however my mum seems to think he is leading me astray (I really do not believe this)

You have done nothing wrong- unless she has specific concerns based on facts about this man - take what she has said with a pinch of salt!!

I was on a coach with all women last weekend going to see Mamma Mia - all drinking at 11.30am - jesus christ as long as it isn’t every weekend, and you have no responsibilities who cares!??

Ah I'm sorry I didn't get it was a joke. Apologies.

You could be right about the mum but I didn't say she needed AA or anything, just that drinking that early can give a bad impression.

I would be very worried if I saw my daughter drinking at 11 am. But it's your fault, not your boyfriend's... I guess he did not force the drinks down your throat?

Why would you be worried on the scenario described by the OP? What exactly is there to be ‘very worried’ about?

It was because we was aiming to go out early for the football

I j just don't understand this, maybe it's because I'm old. If you were going to a pub to watch a football match why did you need to drink at home at 11am first?

Who knows? He could very well be love bombing you before he changes, he might genuinely be a nice man. I can understand her concerns when there are children involved.

Why does it matter? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why? Depends on what time kick off is!

What does your mother think you should be doing @Keola

Alcohol consumption early in the day is strongly linked with alcohol abuse problems.

If you read the Op ‘s posts you can clearly see that’s not the case.
The faux outrage on this thread is ridiculous.

I don't get it either, but I think it's linked to the idea that to have fun, alcohol is an essential part of it.

It's a weird culture in the UK that everything that's considered "fun" also seems to have to involve drinking.

Or perhaps it’s not that deep and people just like to have a drink 🤷🏼‍♀️

The reactions people get for choosing not to drink, either as a one off or as a general thing, suggests otherwise.

I've been asked how I'll manage to enjoy myself at a party when I wasn't drinking (several hours drive home the following day), been told I'm boring when I've decided to take a break from it and on my own hen do had to ask for water "but make it look like gin" to stop people forcing more alcohol me when I'd had enough.

Don't even want to start on the Brits Abroad thing.

There is a heavy reliance on alcohol "to be fun" in this county.

Each to their own, but you can't deny that it's there.

You might be able to clearly see from written posts that someone does not have issues with alcohol use. GPs all round the country would give their eye teeth for that ability. It's probably the most lied about health issue that the NHS deals with.

You obviously need better friends or a thicker skin!
I regularly choose not to not to drink I couldn’t care less what people say or think.

Where in the OPs posts does it suggest she has an alcohol problem?

I don't care what people think. But that is the experience of many non drinkers and I can speak about it, in the context of debating whether drinking at 11am should be considered normal, without it meaning I need to get thicker skin.

The fact that you think I'm being a bit delicate about a culture of reliance on alcohol for fun suggests that you may actually think that's not a problem.

Those posts from everyone at the airport at 5am "starting as I mean to go on" with a pint before their flight. Because holiday means being constantly drunk, right?

Lol she's literally an adult and can drink at 8am if she wants to (a lot of people do when going on holiday, part of breakfast on a morning flight).
It was for a day event where she was going to be enjoying herself. Nothing to be worried about. She was safe.... It's not like she HAS to drink in the mornings to get her day started....

Drinking at 11 when you are shortly heading out to a venue serving alcohol where you have arranged to drink with other people would, in many cases, indicate a problem.

This country is stuffed with people with an alcohol dependency denying to themselves that they have an alcohol dependency.

GPs report that they routinely double whatever people declare as their consumption. I have to stress really heavily that when I say max 15 units a week, I really mean it!

Nobody can tell from this thread whether or not the OP has a problem. Her mother thinks so.

This is getting ridiculous now, an alcoholic because of day drinking? 😂 I'm 55 and love a day out drinking cocktails and back home in my PJs in the evening.

Do you "pre drink" at home in the morning before heading to a venue that is mostly for drinking where you've arranged to drink with your friends though?

The sad thing about this is that you view an adventurous day as one where you go drinking. It really isn't. Can't you think of something more interesting to do when you go out?

Are you sure that you also don't turn into a different person? In my experience the drinker tends to think they're incredibly clever and funny when the reality is that they are embarrassing and incredibly boring.

What a patronising comment.
What do her plans have to do with you?