Mother made a comment on new partner

[Keola]

I have been single now for 3 years since my marriage ended. I have been seeing somebody for 6 months and the connection is just explosive. We have so much fun together and when the kids go to their dads we usually have a blow out now and again (nothing crazy, the odd night out, pub crawl) however my mum seems to think he is leading me astray (I really do not believe this)

I'm pretty shocked even by the expression "day drinking". How old are you? I can't imagine Nyone over the age of 22 being interested in that as an activity unless they were an alcoholic. Apart from anything, it sounds like the most unfunny thing in the world.

You’d be okay with someone being 21 years,11 months 27 days, the cut off being writ large in stone?

I'm nearly 50 and can confirm it really can be very fun. You can have a great day out and be home Early enough so you get a good night's sleep and don't feel like shit in the morning.

Luncheon parties, BBQs, christenings, rugby matches, horse racing.I've been to a few of these over the decades. It's good fun and you're home at a decent hour.

It was my 44th birthday last weekend. Me and DH went to a bottomless brunch followed by an afternoon disco in a club. We were home by 10pm.

It was great fun! I’m a huge fan of day drinking! I can confirm neither of us as alcoholics.

How many people have an alcoholic drink at 6am in the airport bar before flying off to Lanzarote? Having an alcoholic drink at 11am before a football match isn't that bad.

Actually the young uns dont drink much these days
Its older people who do

I find the concept of day drinking really old fashioned, pints at 11am and pub crawls are the type of thing university students did 30 years ago .
Tbh I think its alcoholism dressed up as " fun" , how old is this man?
@Keola

Why is it him leading you astray and not you leading him astray? Are women not capable do they not use their own head?

Unfunny as opposed to ... funny..
I'll be honest, on the rare occasions that I partake in a little day time drinking its just a relaxing drink spread out over the day with food often an activity is involved.
It's fun. I'm often home in bed at a reasonable time and hangover free the next day.
I don't get the problem or the age restriction.

OP has admitted it was her idea.

I’m 53, and I certainly ‘day drink’ periodically, but it’s more likely to be with friends playing a traditional session in the afternoon in a pub, or if we have friends over for a late brunch that goes on.

This sounds like my sister.
new bf was a twat. We all told her. She didn’t listen because she was madly in love, learned the hard way.

unless your mum has previous for being over opinionated, I would listen to her. Mums usually have your best interests at heart.

Hope it lasts then!

FFS, listen to all the ‘Pearl clutching’ sounding horrified at a grown woman having a drink at 11am on a social day out! What a bunch of boring old Fannie’s.

If you were on it at that time every weekend and getting smashed by 2pm, then rolling home covered in sick by tea-time or doing £200 worth of Charlie in a day then I think people may judge.

Or, as pointed out earlier, it’s very possible her mother is projecting due to her own problems with alcohol together with a son who has problems with drugs which are never confronted by the mother.

Sometimes scapegoats take the load.

My mother took issue with my partner when we started dating. I think I'd gone from never leaving the house for me to going out, nights away, drinking at weekends. All with no kids as they were at dad's and all with a new partner who showed me my worth and gave me confidence to be me. 8 years later still together and very happy. I feel my mother projected a lot at the start and sge wasn't quiet about it either

Sounds like you are having fun. I went batshit crazy when kids went to uni after being a responsible single mum for so long. Loved it. Partied hard at weekends, held down a good job and did my hobbies too. I just do less of it now after wild 2 years.
Life is for living. Too many bores out there. Embrace your child free days

You’re a grown woman and while it’s nice to have everyone’s approval it isn’t necessary. Have a great time and enjoy yourself.

Have you not seen the middle aged women out all day getting hammered at bottomless brunch and then elsewhere?! In most city’s at the weekends, and definitely in summer!

Jesus wept. Unclench. Shock horror, people go out and have fun. Pass the smelling salts.

Ohhhhh fgs, you got a life after becoming a single parent and getting bashed for going having some fun when you don't have your child and long as you are responsible when she is in your care. Occasional early start is fine.....go enjoy yourself OP

The time you start drinking has nothing to do with being an alcoholic. Im guessing the football game they were watching was an early start which is why they went to the pub at 11am.

I had prosecco on my wedding day at 7am, best go call AA 🙄

I don't think having a prosecco on your wedding day is the kind of frequency OP was referring to.

And anyway if I didn't want my parents to think I was drinking too much I wouldn't start drinking (ie carry on for the rest of the day/night) at 11am in front of them. That was my point.

I said I didn't know anyone who regularly drinks at 11am who doesn't have a dependency or at least drinks more than is healthy. Because it's true.

And at no point did I suggest anyone should go to AA. You sound quite defensive.

Not defensive in the slightest, just making joke.

The OP didn't say she drank all that day and night. She might have gone home at 3pm, why is 11-3pm bad but 6-10pm acceptable? She also hasnt said she does this regularly. She has said her mother has issues with alcohol so it sounds as though her mum is projecting

Perhaps she's worried your falling too fast and hard.