My partner and I have been together for 5 years and have a 2 year old together. He has 2 children with 2 other women and I have two children with my ex.
my ex and I only have contact to discuss children and childcare arrangements nothing more he is with someone else and I never want to cross any boundaries so keep conversations brief and child focused. My partners sons mum has zero boundaries and will call my partner more than I do. She messages multiple times every single day and will also call. When I have been with him I see how he tries to keep it very brief as she will go off talking about her life, weekends out etc. whenever she sends photos of her son she will include herself in the pictures. She turns up at family events uninvited. Anyway, she’s always seemed friendly enough even if abit overbearing and over the top but she doesn’t have any friends and a very small family so I do wonder if she just lonely.
it has started to cause issues with my partner and my relationship. If she sees my partner in the pub with friends she will go and sit with them and ask him to buy her a drink, she is calling more than ever, messaging all the time and now asking for lifts to places when he collects his son. How can he approach this without causing issues as I know he’s very reluctant to fall out with her and have a toxic relationship like he does with his other child’s mum?
I’ve actually told him I can’t stay in the relationship if this continues as his son is 6 and there will be many more years of this…
his friends and family have made comments to me about how it’s inappropriate and she’s crossing the line so this isn’t in my head