Husband told daughter to stop chewing so loudly in his ear

[Meg878o]

AIBU to be upset and angry about this comment my husband made to.our 11 year old daughter. We'd been out swimming, treated the kids to a pack of sweets each, in the car on the way home. Daughter and husband sat next to each other in the back and all of a sudden he says to her 'can you stop chewing so loudly in my ear' it clearly offended her. Thoughts please...

She should not have been chewing loudly with her mouth open.

Your husband did nothing wrong by asking her to stop.

She has no reason to be 'offended'. That's a strange (over)reaction. Is she not used to being corrected?

You being upset and angry is a massive overreaction.

I think she needs to learn not to eat with her mouth open or loudly. Perfectly reasonable request by your DH. If she gets offended at that, she needs to toughen up.

Voted YANBU by mistake! You are definitely being unreasonable. I say this all the time to my five year old.

Lol loud chewing is so annoying. Why would this bother you?

@Helen1625 loads of people have mentioned the mouth being open, but it doesn't say it in the OP I don't think and there have been no follow ups unless I missed something? People can chew incredibly loudly with their mouths shut, especially chewy sweets!

@Meg878o hasn't been back to update the thread. I wonder why she even bothered to start it

I constantly tell.my son to eat things nicely it's just basic manners. Why is it such an issue that he said it?

Your husband is trying to instil manners into his daughter. Good for him - I see so many adults now who eat impolitely because their parents never taught them to eat politely with their mouths closed. Because let’s be honest, it’s usually people who eat with their mouths open who are the loudest. But why did I bother to reply? Another thread when the OP doesn’t come back because the answers are overwhelming not in their favour. I find it so immature, rude and time wasting of other people’s genuine goodwill.

Ah, maybe I've read it on one of the other comments and not directly from the OP.

The rest of what I said still stands though.

My first paragraph does, quite directly, because you said that he told her and I pointed out that (according to the OP) he asked her. According to the OP, he even said please when he did so.

don’t see a problem here unless there’s a backstory or he said it aggression or something.

I have to constantly tell my kids to keep mouths closed when eating. Good manners but I’m also very noise sensitive. If someone was close and chewing I’d probably tell them too!

You seem to think that I thought that the husband was in the wrong and quite clearly, I don't. Pity you haven't got anything better to do than nitpick and get it wrong in the process.

I did not at any point suggest that you thought the husband was in the wrong, and I certainly didn't imply it in the post you are being unhappy about.

There a big difference between telling someone to do something, and asking them to.

As a child, I was well aware of that difference.

Presumably the loud-chomping eleven-year-old hasn't grasped it, or being asked (with the word please) to do something wouldn't "offend" her.

You're upset and angry and daughter is offended. Jeez imagine if something bad actually happened or was said to any of you. I really think you need to get a grip!

💯 agree

My thoughts are she was chewing loudly and annoying him so he asked her to not chew so loudly. Seriously OP what are your thoughts?

You’d be calling social services on me!

I’ve always told mine to stop chewing loudly when they are, and god help them (husband too) if it was right down my ear.

Chewing with your mouth open is rude - if kids parents are not going to tell them to stop, who is?

What do you mean? The OP said her dad told her ‘can you stop chewing in my ear’. What was he supposed to say? ‘darling daughter your loud and unruly chewing is irritating my ear drums, please stop or daddy may cry?’. Kids need to be told clear instructions, there’s no need to fluff it up, this is how you end up with adults in the workplace that can’t take criticism and run to HR at every opportunity someone gives them a direct instruction.

What with?

What on earth are you upset and angry about??? People chewing loudly is really annoying.

Still zero replies.

Has a thread ever hit 1,000 without an OP returning?

I think many adults who witnessed one colleague say that to another at work might raise an eyebrow.

Good for your DH, more parents need to educate their kids to eat with mouths closed and to consider others.

I have seen them, but I have always had problems with in ear buds popping out (dodgy ear since childhood 😂) so I just have loud music on with over the ears for now

Please please teach your daughter to be less of a snowflake. She'll thank you later