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I'm too boring for DH

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Wowserbowser88 · 06/02/2026 23:20

Not even sure where to start with this one

Dh has been off with me all week. Snappy, short answers to any questions and just not engaged at all.

He had a drink tonight and finally admitted that he thinks i'm too boring for him. Because I don't have many friends. Don't go out and when I do its usually with work friends.

He thinks I am a terrible friend because I don't have many so I must be.

I don't go to any clubs or activities etc and we don't go out at the weekend often.

Here's the thing.. we have 2 children (8 and 4.) Both work full time and up until a year ago he worked shifts (earlies/lates/nights) so I could never make plans as he was always on shift. Even now he often works shifts. tho less of them and has weeks where he is on call 24/7 so I can't do anything

He also goes to football most weekends all day on Saturday so i'm at home with kids and he may stay put in the pub after until late

He was away with work last week and said he sat in a hotel room just thinking how badly he'd messed up by marrying someone so boring

He seems to think people, even with young children are out socialising every weekend and we're not and the children will suffer because of it

OP posts:
Imabitbusyatthemoment · 10/02/2026 18:47

CarrierbagsAndPJs · 06/02/2026 23:31

My immediate thought. He is either having an affair or trying to start one and looking to blame you.

Mine too

San8 · 11/02/2026 18:12

Jamba0 · 09/02/2026 12:46

Men are cunts. That's the reality. I wish women focused more on building their own careers and prepared for their future, than focus on finding some useless man that makes their life miserable. Very few are happy in their relationships. Besides, men have always told me the only reason they marry is for sex. They expect they won't have to chase for it and get it any time, any day, any moment.

Your comment is incredibly offensive and sexist, and really not helpful. I am sorry if your experience of men has fed this prejudice. Many men and women are toxic, but most men and women are decent people.

Alltheyellowbirds · 11/02/2026 18:40

Jamba0 · 09/02/2026 12:46

Men are cunts. That's the reality. I wish women focused more on building their own careers and prepared for their future, than focus on finding some useless man that makes their life miserable. Very few are happy in their relationships. Besides, men have always told me the only reason they marry is for sex. They expect they won't have to chase for it and get it any time, any day, any moment.

Wow. You really need to hang out with better men.

If this is the sort of person you choose to befriend that’s on you.

LondonUSAGirl · 18/02/2026 10:46

Your husband is a disrespectful douchebag. And unfortunately you have been totally enabling him this whole time, so that's a bit your fault.

This isn't a one off statement. He wants to be a party boy, not a father.

Fuck him. Divorce and live your life.

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