For not wanting to contribute to the holiday?

[TwinklyRoseTurtle]

I’m having mixed thoughts on this so would like others opinions please- I’m being vague so not too outing-

A close relative has asked me to contribute towards an expensive holiday for another close relative for a special birthday, but before asking me the had told the other relative it had already been agreed- I was caught off guard when asked in front of the other person and I’ve now found out that I wouldn’t just be paying for my relative- I would also be paying for their gf- for full clarity I would not be going on this holiday, AIBU to not contribute? I feel conflicted as this relative and I are close

Yeah, it will teach them that you’re willing to be a doormat.

FOH!

To commit £600 of someone else's money without speaking to them is madness!

Yoyr parents cant be rich if they need people to contribute, do they know or think you are?

I could understand this kind of treat if your sibling has had a terrible year, but only if you had all agreed it first, and not for the GF too!

You've made the right decision to not contribute anything and flaky sibling won't either by the sound of things. Just give your usual amount to DB as spending money. By not contributing you are also sending a strong message so they won't do it again.

Tell them you have not got the money and they should not have made assumptions and thought you had agreed. WTH woukld you and should you contribute anyway? Cheeky bugger who ever asked you.

Put your parents in their place and tell them never ever to do this again. They can pay your share that will teach them!