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To feel the loss. Twinless twin

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Chickencuddle · 04/02/2026 23:11

I was born an identical twin. My twin passed away a day after we were born. Im not sure if its because I dont really have many people in my life and no family really. But I always felt there was a nice of me missing and I wish she could have been hwre. When things are hard I think if her. I feel a bit guilty too that im the one who lived.
Am I totally crazy?
Is anyone else a twinless twin.

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AnOddOne · 09/02/2026 23:59

I took my traumas to a therapist some years ago

@feelingsarentfacts Might be worth revisiting?

feelingsarentfacts · 10/02/2026 00:02

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SorcererGaheris · 18/02/2026 10:50

You're not being unreasonable at all. This is supposed to be a fairly common thing with twins who lost their twin in childbirth.

Elvis had a twin who died at birth (Jesse Garon Presley) and it's said that Elvis felt like a part of him was missing throughout his life.

MrsDutchie88 · 04/04/2026 19:50

Ella31 · 05/02/2026 00:12

I'm not a twin but I am a mom to identical twin baby boys who died two years ago. My little 1st twin was born sleeping and my second boy died three days later in the NICU.

What you are feeling is pure love and loss for your sister. Are you part of footprints twin loss group on facebook? It's private and They welcome all types of twin loss. You will meet like minded people there. I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

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I’m very sorry darling

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