To feel the loss. Twinless twin

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I was born an identical twin. My twin passed away a day after we were born. Im not sure if its because I dont really have many people in my life and no family really. But I always felt there was a nice of me missing and I wish she could have been hwre. When things are hard I think if her. I feel a bit guilty too that im the one who lived.
Am I totally crazy?
Is anyone else a twinless twin.

It’s really something to see you mirror my argument back to me. I’m flattered, and a little amused by the textbook deflection you can’t seem to recognise.

There’s no faux compassion here. I genuinely empathize with the OP and the abuse she’s encountered.

It’s a shame you can’t see that, but trauma affects people differently I suppose. For some it builds empathy, for others it seems to dull sensitivity to others’ pain or blinds you to thinking your trauma is the only thing that matters.

I don’t believe you would be sharing the fact that you are traumatised if you wouldn’t want some recognition for it. It’s just a shame you resort to plaguing someone else’s thread. Kindly, think about therapy as it hasn’t worked. All the best now 🩷

You might not think your angry. And who knows maybe your not. Im judging you from just a few comments. But I do feel for you. I have been that angry person when younger. I understand how It feels. I never asked for your sympathy. I asked for other people experiences. Please dont twist my words. I also said you would take on board your points. I like to sit with things and think on them a while. But I will. So thank you. Take care

I mean, if the race to the bottom is what you want, you’re certainly winning 🥇

Ok ill leave you to your own thoughts and feelings and I will have mine as you ointed out we are all entitled to them 😃

I am not going to be 'compassionate and empathetic'. I think you are a nasty so and so who enjoys getting a rise out of people. Also, if you are so against 'empathy' why are you so sure of what the OP's mother felt and that she was so devastated by losing OP's twin? You can't even keep your unpleasantness consistent.

Pretty much, yes.

I didnt ask that but ok. Bye.

You had already asked me are you attention seeking and that was my reply. But sure go off. Its actually quite entertaining.

You love the word projecting dont you. Sorry its not very entertaining for you 😅 you are welcome to leave the thread whenever you please of course.

You have shown such grace in your responses to this person OP. They're not worth further engagement.

Growing up I often wondered if I had been meant to be a twin (there were several sets of twins in the family and it was before scans were a thing so my mum might never have known if she'd been pregnant with twins). I always felt like there was something missing, someone who might understand me. However, a few years ago I realised I may have ADHD, so I also wonder if some types of neurodiversity can lead to similar feelings.

Anyway, thank you for starting this thread. So many beautiful and sad stories in these posts and YANBU at all for feeling the way you do. I'm sorry for all the losses here.

Ill let you have your peace and stop responding. Maybe think about why you got so angry about this and perhaps there's other things too. Hurt people hurt people. Just love ❤️

Thats interesting. My husband often says I have adhd. Not sure if I do or not. Thank you for your reply and hope you find some resolution in your diagnosis if you decide to pursue one.

Thank you. Just reading up about ADHD and getting some good advice on working with it has been a game changer for me, so I'm not pushing for a formal diagnosis.

Wishing you all the best.

Oh have a day off @feelingsarentfacts.