Being subjected to SM assault over a wallpaper

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I'm writing this with total incredulity.

A week or so ago I got invited to a friend-of-a-friend's house. The lady in question is clearly a Mrs Hinch type, but each to their own. I did notice wallpaper being unsealed around the cooker/sink area and POLITELY inquired about it. My DD was prem, with heavy lung issues, and one of the things nurses warned me about was wallpaper in the kitchen as a potential fungus/mould and toxin source. I didn't point this out, of course, just gently enquired if she plans to seal it.

She got a bit weird with me, apparently she wipes down her walls regularly, and don't I? Erm, that would make it worse with wallpaper, but I just smiled and nodded.

Now our mutual friend pointed out the absolute barrage of slander on SM. Apparently I was rude (wasn't, just lightly enquired about a sealant?) and "minging" for not cleaning my home properly (my home is kept clean to a post-NICU standard, IYKYK).

Safe to say, that person will be avoided at any cost in the future, but was I unreasonable?

You were both unreasonable.

There are people living with live mould growing in their property.

No choice. Either live that way or be homeless.
Such severe growth that walls and ceilings and beds and clothes are crawling with it. Everything is.

I would imagine the health implications that are reported are encompassing these severe situations.
The link you posted showed some wallpaper that is very old so nothing like your friend's wallpaper.

OP you are either ridiculous and dramatic or you are naive.
How privileged to be able to worry so much about a tiny amount of unsealed wallpaper.

Rude of you. Smile and nod.

You didn't say that though, did you?

you said "did they not recommend sealing the wallpaper around wet areas?"

Eta: and in the context of her showing you her home because she's proud of it.

And you probably didn't even know it was a potential health problem until it was pointed out to you but you're acting like she/everyone has that knowledge.

Very rude, you would have been shown the door with my foot up your arse.

I didn’t get it. Could you explain please?

Hate nothing more than people who walk into my house for the first time, and start pointing out what they'd do differently. Does she have a premature baby who you're concerned about? Did I miss that part? If not, why on earth are you so worried?

No, she shouldn't have gone onto social media and slagged you off. That is one part of modern life which I will never, ever understand.

And also rude.

One study, from nearly ten years ago.

Anti-fungal wallpaper and paste exists.

It was a play on the word “unhinged” and (Mrs) Hinch as referred to in the OP.

The lady overreacted but it was rude for you to point out and enquire about peeling wallpaper.

Absolutely this. Also I have two children who were in nicu and I never remember even thinking about or having a conversation about wallpaper. We had renovation work done when dd was born and the place was a dusty mess but she was absolutely fine.

There was no need to point it out
just because you know all about mould you don’t have to point out defects in their house

I’m a bit confused, and although not the point of this thread I have questions!

I’ve never heard of sealing or unsealing wallpaper. Surely in a kitchen around the sink and cooker you’d use a washable paper? Kitchens also need to be well ventilated and have an extractor hood to remove excess water steam. Why is mould worse on wallpapered rather than painted walls? Surely sealing wallpaper makes it less able to ‘breathe’ and could cause mould to build up underneath?

Can anyone explain?

Jesus, I do wish people wouldn't use this hideous, twee term

Yeah it was also a bit weird for you to blurt it out.

I'm glad you weren't trying to be mean but if she's that uptight about her home you can kind of see how she found it insulting and unnecessary. But she shouldn't have publicly ranted about it on SM.

Safe to say you two are probably not going to be friends. She sounds unpleasant so no loss.

😂😂😂😂

Wallpaper in a kitchen has blown my mind! I mean wtf?? Wouldn’t it just all peel off with the steam/heat? Tour? Only the deeply flash offer people a tour of their home. All very odd

I have not read the full thread - snippets, and frankly there's some batshit comments about OPs Neurodiversity - BUT...

What SANE person puts wallpaper in a kitchen?
Y'know, the one room in your house that has AN OVEN AND HOB - NAKED FLAMES.

The place most likely to GO ON FIRE!

Why? Why would anyone do that? Just 'cos it's "pretty" 🤯

It's nuts. If, and god forbid it happens to you/yours, your kitchen goes on fire, you do realise you're just adding fuel to it.

Ask one of my neighbours, who had a kitchen fire before Christmas and still hasn't moved back home and who has broken down watching most of the contents of her home being tipped into a skip.

I love the modern world and the main character energy.

OP “I am being disparaged anonymously on social media so I have come here to disparage that person anonymously on social media.” Not an iota of embarrassment or insight.

nb I’m not going to use the word “assault” for such a ridiculous spat. I also thought the SM stood for something else so the whole thread was terribly disappointing.

I think that sounds okay TBH - if that was the only comment.

I'd have probably if they looked offended said something like oh it was to us when we thought of it but we weren't sure - even if untrue - ie I'm asking as interested not because I am impying anything.

v rude
it was a very weird question to ask a stranger in their home that you have just been invited to

Ruder still to call her a “Mrs hinch type “

she is clearly very sensitive / insane about her home so you picked the wrong woman to mess with

if your social lives will converge again I would send a bunch of flowers and apologise profusely for the insensitive comment and just say you ment nothing by it, if you will never see her again I’d just chalk it up to experience and move on

What a nasty post.

Doesn't mean you're not also rude on this occasion.

FFS ..is this what modern life has come to
How could anyone be arsed getting into a FB war over wallpaper.