New boyfriend snapped at me

[Snappyg666]

Could do with your opinion. FWIW I am happy to be told AIBU. Im just trying to make sure I dont ignore anything important.

I was driving down the motorway with my boyfriend of 3 months. He was driving and I was supposed to be giving directions. We were talking and then he asked whether he should be taking the exit and I kind of hesitated for a few seconds as wasn't sure abd then said yes. He tutted and said for fucks sake and then quickly switched lames to exit

Now totally get why that would be irritating 😅 Its just that I was with my ex for 10 years and for all his faults, I dont think we ever snapped at each other once. We had massive bust ups about the big questions but irritating things like this we were both very generous with each other so im not sure what's normal. But I felt like a child being reprimanded and felt like saying "jesus get over it"

Jesus, didn’t you even split it?
No wonder he got arsey, honestly. YABU.

I am very placid and laid back and don’t experience road rage but when I’m driving I can get snappy.

I did it to my friend the other day as he was mean to be giving me directions but wasn’t answering me quick enough - he was actually the one apologising and then I laughed it off and was just like FFS but we’re quite close and so snapping at each other isn’t a big deal.

I would let this slide but obviously keep an eye out for anything.

12 hours driving in one day is bloody dangerous. No wonder he was on edge. If this is the only sign of impatience he’s shown so far I’d forget about it, he will have been genuinely exhausted. You say you do drive so I guess you can understand that?

Why didn’t you do some of the driving @Snappyg666 ?

Btw, a grown man tutting is an instant ick, eww

This thread is drip feed after drip feed of your navigational ineptitude and his sole "FFS".
Honestly, get over yourself and stop being so precious. It was a 12 hour drive!

I want to say ‘FFS’ after all these updates.

Team Boyfriend.

Claire’s Law, because he snapped FFS after the OP almost made him miss an exit, made him go 30 minutes in the wrong direction and took him the wrong way up the ring road after driving for 12 hours? Oh and then he apologised later. Nuts. Fucking bonkers.

You sound like a nightmare navigator, OP!

As a momentary reaction to being given late direction in a stressful time sensitive situation and if he apologised after and no other underlying behaviour that cause concern.....Not an issue.

Part of me thinks it’s bit early in the relationship for him to be irritated- evryone should still be a little bit on their best behaviour.

However, that’s a lot (too much) of driving in one day and you’d already got the directions wrong so I think in those circumstances it’s fair enough. My DH would have been annoyed with me too - but we have been together much longer.

Its good he apologised and he wasn’t shouting at you more out loud in frustration. So I’d let it go and no more navigating together.

He muttered fuck sake and you say he snapped at you.
Sorry op but have you had anyone snap at you because they dont mutter it.

Tbh id have said the same i have said aswell.

A 12 hour drive with an unprepared navigator is not day to day living. Give the guy some slack

And you’re wondering why he said ffs 😂
Sorry, but 30 mins out of your way.
I’d have thrown my husband out the car.

Actually beginning to think this is a wind up.

Seriously? She gave the wrong directions more than once, added time to a long journey and he muttered FFS in annoyance but not at her. Then apologised for it.
He sounds like a nice guy. OP did you apologise to him for constantly messing up the directions? I don't think he had anything to apologise for.
You sound like hard work, if your partner can't even express frustration.

Yes I agree with your feelings.

Im going to let it go but keep an eye out for other instances.

I think it is too early to be snapping at me. We booked theatre tickets a few days ago and he was being really chaotic about figuring out the evening that would work best for him, which meant that I had to select and then deselect then select seats five different times for five different showings. That irritated me but it doesn't mean I tutted and said "for fucks sake" to him.

He should have thanked you for not phoning the police to tell them you were trapped in such a hostile environment. Have you contacted his exes? It may be worth finding out if he has form for this. It may also be worth letting him know you’re incredibly sensitive to the word fuc….oh I can’t even bring myself to type it. What a wicked brute.

Btw a lot of women on here give me the ick acting like they are constantly right.
Clairs law - just because he muttered the F word.
He snapped at me could be a sign of abuse.
Honestly its all getting stupid.
On a different thread someone thinks its rude to have the word weird said.

Stop the planet and let me get the fuck off.

Edited to add a grown woman using the word ewww is ick your not 4.

I'd have pulled over, made DH drive instead and had a nap 😂

Neither of us let's the other navigate unless we've gotten somewhere a bit confusing or the satnavs lost signal because it results in bickering. Driving long distances is tiring, it can be stressful depending on the traffic/weather conditions etc. and a bad navigator just makes it harder.

Just use the satnav next time.

12 hours! Lands End to John O'Groats is a 14 hour drive

A 12 hour drive and you added 30 mins to it? The man is a fucking saint

A man without a SatNav is worrisome in this day & age.

@Snappyg666 You're annoyed because someone said "for fuck's sake"?

OP, you are in for a real shock once you finally get a job and find out how people, and managers, speak to you in the workplace. It's a hell of a lot worse than that.

Not all cars come with them, and some haven't got anywhere to safely put a phone to use that one.