Really disturbed by response to this horrible incident

[Xoxka]

Recently I was at Kings Cross. On my way to meet a friend. When this middle aged guy saw me and said something along the lines of “oh my god how beautiful, her face”. The two younger guys who he was with had to physically restrain him ans he was trying to walk in my direction. And they honestly were struggling. They were maybe 10 metres away from me but I was genuinely afraid. I’m 27 and incredibly active but only 5 ft 3. I was surrounded by people but worried I was going to be groped. Plus I really don’t like drawing any attention whatsoever if I can help it. Naturally VERY shy.

Ive recounted this incident to three people (all women of varying ages) and they’ve all mentioned the part about me being called beautiful. Like it’s a compliment. Ie that should be the takeaway. The man was physically intimidating to me! I was genuinely scared I was going to be attacked.

I just find this response very very depressing. Would the women around you not express sympathy if you were to tell them of a similar encounter?

don’t be overdramatic, it’s just an emoji

Oh do share your words of wisdom then 🙄, you know we’re not all going come to the same conclusions aren’t you? This is the whole point of these discussions on MN. You know how it works right ?

Sadly not otherwise I guess they wouldn’t have raped the poor women and girls they raped.

Perhaps he needed strait jacket and castration.

'escorted'??

She said 'with'

But please continue to write your own narrative.

Some of the replies here OP!!!!!
Sorry for this very unsettling and frightening experience. It's staggering that this comment might be seen as a compliment! Yes this man may have difficulties but that's no reason to minimise the OP's experience
Honestly
I think women are afraid of men with good reason.

Would you be able to describe this man so that you could report it to the police? He could be known? Or might actually hurt someone next time

One meant to convey confusion or lack of understanding.

I’ve been one of those carers in the past. It’s horrible on all sides.This is the fundamental problem, that male apes ARE the natural predators of women and girls. Far too many of them now need special care and attention that we cannot afford and our prisons are full of them.

At least the birth rate is falling.

I was also yelled at by my father about how creepy men calling you gorgeous is a compliment. He was a misogynistic prick.

Tbh it sounds like he has special needs, lack of self awareness and the people with him must be obviously used to him acting inappropriately in public as they were ready to restrain him, which they might have to do regularly when taking him out and about.
im sure it was upsetting for you, but he does sound SEN

If (as the post suggests) this mans behaviour made the OP fear for their safety then an assault - a criminal offence - has possibly been committed.

Assault is a common law offence in England and Wales that occurs when a person intentionally or recklessly causes another person to apprehend immediate unlawful personal violence.

Whether the (British Transport) police are interested is another matter.

@Xoxka but only 5 ft 3

Not sure what the relevance is.

That’s just what I was thinking. Some do need to have 2 carer for their own safety and the safety of the general public.

Reminds me of an incident at London Bridge 30 years ago. It was very busy and I had my daughter's(aged 6 and 4) by the hands one on each side. My husband had a rolly case and his briefcase, the rigid sort.
An old man grabbed my 6 year old's other hand saying how beautiful she was (still is). I kept hold and we were all yelling for him to let go as he dragged us all three through the crowds. My husband ran back and joined in, eventually he brought his suitcase down on the man's arm.
Before he let go. A young woman was apologising, saying he was harmless, but we were scared stiff and swept away by the crowds before we could engage. He could have broken the man's arm, and I still feel guilty, I realise now that the man was probably not well. But it was terrifying at the time.

An ‘inconvenience’?

I think you mean a sexual threat.

And yes they should stay indoors. Why should women and girls have to deal with out of control men?

There were two men poised and primed to restrain him at any moment. It wasn't his first rodeo.

Normal men without learning difficulties don't lunge at women they find "beautiful" - they are in awe of them, shy around them, etc, and would approach with extreme caution, trying to impress.

Creepy men without learning difficulties lunge at people they think they can get away at lunging towards - ones that they consider vulnerable, because they are alone or just unlikely to put up a fight for some reason. They make disgusting and intimidating comments.

So to me, this sounds like learning difficulties or something similar.

Women are always socialised to be ‘nice’, be ‘kind’ and self sacrificial too. To make excuses and endless excuses for men.

Why is it that male prisons are full?

The go to question is always what would men do. What would men do if they were being treated like this by an identifiable group?

They would recognise that they were at war with that group.

I hate the shrug emoji and often think it comes across as really dismissive and passive aggressive. It might not be meant like that.

This is what I thought. He wasn’t actually offensive and they reacted instantly to prevent anything inappropriate?

Is this just bots posting at bots with the odd actual person?

This was my thought too.

'There were two men poised and primed to restrain him at any moment. It wasn't his first rodeo.'

Jesus wept. This thread has morphed into Jackanory.

I hope the OP gets off MN asap. Because I doubt any of this is remotely helpful.

it was meant more of a shrug as in “I don’t know?” “maybe?” “perhaps ?” kind of context

Good grief. It's really not. Cat calling never is. It's unwanted male comment on a woman's appearance which makes women feel uncomfortable and intimidated and they fucking know it.

it feels really gaslight-y to assume bad behaviour= mh issues.

From what I've read, no-one has really made that definite assumption - they've just offered that as a possible reason.

So they're not saying he did or he didn't.

"Im not saying he did or didn’t."

Why is this ok for you but not for the previous posters?